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AIBU to plan on having a BBQ

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Numptydumptyfelloffthewall · 02/04/2020 12:58

Hi,

I've seen such conflicting advice and information on this lockdown that I'm starting to doubt my own judgement. I've tried to follow the lockdown to the letter. DH and I are working full time from home and i've been out once since lockdown for food shopping. We have 2 DC (4, 6) who are home and havent been out, they run around in the garden for exercise.

I have some BBQ coal in the shed and was wondering if it would be unreasonable/ wrong for DH, me and the 2 DC to have a BBQ on Sunday when the weather is predicted to be a bit nicer. We wouldnt need to buy any supplies or meet anyone else and it would really brighten a very stressed and difficult week but I dont want to be disrespectful or undermine the lockdown, esp as I have family both on the shielding list and working in the NHS, so I really understand how important it is to delay the spread of Covid 19.

We're in a standard 1930s 3 bed semi so we have a nice sized garden but not huge. If we do go ahead, should we go in if our neighbours also come into their garden? Or set up at the bottom of the garden? I usually keep the kids inside during the actual cooking as DD4 is asthmatic but they find eating BBQ food outside to be a huge novelty/ treat.

OP posts:
Roussette · 03/04/2020 14:55

My bbq has a lid, I put it down. There is no danger from it because my NDNs are far enough away to not know I'm even having one

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h · 03/04/2020 16:32

nichy You do realise closing the windows will have very little effect?

If you had a family member struggling to breathe, you might feel differently.

Roussette · 03/04/2020 16:42

Oh don't be ridiculous.

If you close your windows, you cannot be affected by anything from outside, like a barbecue 100 metres or more away.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 17:15

God I despair of the utter dementors
You are not a better person because of your rationing and to it pious parsimoniousness
Like I said this is a marathon not a sprint
If you make this utterly bleak and joyless people will not engage with it
We need people to comply for a long time
Denying them basic foodstuffs isn't going to make this all go away any quicker and trust me the health services are already shitting it about how they are going to pick up the pieces of people's mental health as it is at the end of this

mbosnz · 03/04/2020 17:26

Some people are never happier than when they're utterly miserable. The only thing that makes them further wet themselves with happiness, right to the point of needing a cup of tea and a lie down - is making sure other people are as bloody miserable as they are. Fuck 'em.

They will just have to be happy being miserable without having me add to their boundless joy by sitting in the misery dark alongside them.

Happy Friday everybody! Drink that non-essential Wine! Eat that non-essential Cake! Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow ye may die. . .

PineappleDanish · 03/04/2020 17:55

I cannot believe people are classing milk as a frivolous purchase. Fuck me.

Dementors is exactly the right word for them. Enjoy your barbecue, OP.

Cagedbirdsinging · 03/04/2020 18:06

Somebody please deliver us from the sanctimonious zealots .

mbosnz · 03/04/2020 18:06

Um, I should have put the addendum. . . 'without being an utter dick or a covidiot about it of course'. . .

Rebootingagain · 03/04/2020 18:07

Milk isn’t non essential as such, but certainly doesn’t justify a trip out just to get some under the current guidelines.

Chocolate, wine, milk etc, pick them all up on your trip to the shops for essential items, which should be as infrequently as possible.

It’s not complicated. Go out as little as you can get away with and go to as few places as you can get away with.

Shame we can’t make sure it’s only the whoppers who insist on living their lives as normal who will be impacted by this.

A trip out just to get milk and chocolate is stupid and selfish. Picking those things up as part of a fortnightly essential shop isnt.

Less people out = less transmission and more chance of the NHS being able to gear up to the imminent disaster.

JustInCaseCakeHappens · 03/04/2020 18:14

Milk isn’t non essential as such, but certainly doesn’t justify a trip out just to get some under the current guidelines.

I genuinely do not understand why this is so difficult to understand for some people...

Summersun77 · 03/04/2020 18:14

@Rebootingagain you still at it? 😂 go away with your misery.

JustInCaseCakeHappens · 03/04/2020 18:15

if the plumes of black, acrid smoke (!!) cause people with COVID to cough then they can close their windows.

I don't even have to close my windows when I have a bbq in my own garden, but that was a horribly shitty thing to say.

People like you should be ashamed of themselves.

Washyourhandsyoufilthyanimal · 03/04/2020 18:19

I’m thinking of having a Sunday roast on Sunday- is that ok? I have all the shopping and will be using my own own... I may smile tomorrow as well. Hope that’s ok!?

Washyourhandsyoufilthyanimal · 03/04/2020 18:19

My own oven* bloody autocorrect

mbosnz · 03/04/2020 18:21

If there are fumes of black acrid smoke from your bbq, you're doing it wrong.

Are you using charcoal impregnated with lighter fluid?

Roussette · 03/04/2020 18:21

Go out as little as you can get away with and go to as few places as you can get away with

Stop preaching, that's what we're doing. If you need milk, and go out to get it, and then add a bigger shop to it, (including chocolate), there is nothing wrong with that.

I have worked out that I can put off shopping till Monday, first time in 10 days, and that's what I'll do. But I'm buggered if I'm going to live on oven chips and frozen pizza for weeks on end. I need fruit and vegetables. And fresh milk.

Fluffybutter · 03/04/2020 18:22

@mbosnz ain’t that the truth ! Wine

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 03/04/2020 18:23

@Rebootingagain you’re like a stuck record.

aut0replenish · 03/04/2020 18:28

Blimey where do you all live? It’s not looking like bbq weather in my neck of the woods.

Redyellowpink · 03/04/2020 18:37

Am I still allowed to use my microwave? How about my kettle?

thenightsky · 03/04/2020 18:43

It’s not looking like bbq weather in my neck of the woods

North Lincolnshire. Supposedly we are getting 19c and sunny!

Rebootingagain · 03/04/2020 18:48
  • @Rebootingagain you’re like a stuck record.*

And yet, people still don’t get it.

Every whopper who goes out just to buy milk, or just for a walk, or just to see a mate etc is a total selfish tosspot. And the country seems to be full of them

Roussette · 03/04/2020 18:53

What's a whopper?!

You are underestimating us all Rebooting. I am going out for a walk when I see NO ONE. Not one person. And it is exercise. If the Health professionals say I can't do that, I won't. But please stop telling people they can't go for a walk. You're not Chris Whitty.

I've seen no one but my DH for weeks. Apart from NDNs stood on their doorsteps clapping last night . Maybe that's not allowed either?

And one of my DCs who lives on her own (and I would love to have her home but won't, because she lives in London) has beem out once in two weeks for food.

Roussette · 03/04/2020 18:54

Disclaimer... I go out to supermarket as little as possible, and see people then. Can't help that.

aut0replenish · 03/04/2020 18:54

Don’t think the country is full of them. The measures that have been taken by the majority are starting to have an impact.

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