What the hell is wrong with people?!?

[crispysausagerolls]

Went to the supermarket today during their elderly/vulnerable slot. Heavily and very obviously pregnant. Supermarket extremely clear that this is included in the category.

Was literally torn to shreds by all the over 70s, both to my face and in front of me but to each other, about how I wasn’t allowed there and even if I was I shouldn’t be 😱

Aren’t times shitty enough without needing to face down over 70s Regina George and her allies?! How is this necessary?! Even when the supermarket worker made it clear I was indeed allowed in, the bitching continued.

Have managed to purchase some non alcoholic wine for later.

Next week I will go at the same time and I wonder if they will be there. I will be mentally prepared for backlash this time and basically just explain why pregnant women are also vulnerable/ask them if they need to be so nasty.

Why isn’t your husband doing the shopping?

He works ridiculously long hours and is honestly completely useless with anything sensible or practical. I sent him to do the shopping a few weeks ago and he just panicked entirely I was receiving reams of messages asking me which aisles things were in and he came back with essentially a lot of pudding and nothing else. He’s at home with our son whilst I go - I don’t see why I shouldn’t go because these people think it’s alright to bully me! I discussed with the staff at the supermarket (marks and Spencer’s) and they were very clear that I am allowed to be there.

Before I’m accused of lying again!

Oh OP, I had this from someone on a bus when I was pregnant, probably just looking large. Unfortunately for her/me I get bolshy with pregnancy hormones and by the time I had finished going ‘I am PREGNANT. And SICK. IS THAT acceptable TO YOU NOW? IS IT? Any other ISSUES I can HELP YOU WITH?’ I think we were all a bit sorry. It is hard.

In case anyone is thinking I sound like a nightmare while pregnant, don’t worry I had my comeuppance: I once tripped over when 8 months pregnant and lay like a large beached whale on the pavement while commuters made ‘tsk’ noises and walked around me.

For clarity it was a mostly empty night bus with multiple empty seats for older/pregnant/vulnerable people, one of which I’d dared to sit on.

But you really should not use the vulnerable slot if there is someone (your healthy non-pregnant husband) to go for you. And why do you put up with such a level of pathetic ineptitude? Is he always useless?

some old people are very entitled and get off on making you feel shit

I will never forget when my dd was a baby (so 7 years ago) and I needed to catch the bus.

I was at the front of the queue, when a pair of elderly ladies walked up to me, pushed me out of the way, and shot straight in to sit on the buggy seats, despite the priority seating in front. They then sat there with a massive smug smile, whilst I had to collapse my buggy.

They got off on the next stop too

@Wetcarparkrain

That’s awful (the falling over bit), but your beached whale description made me chuckle! There’s certainly
Not a lot of elegance in late pregnancy 😂

@Soubriquet

How horrible! why are people like this?! It such a shame as there was another, older
Woman, in front of me at the check out. She was fabulous - doing the shopping for all her neighbours and her street has some sort of system. Everyone looking out for one another. Then you get twats.

And why do you put up with such a level of pathetic ineptitude? Is he always useless?

He is a very high earner and excellent at that/helpful with DS. That’s it. He was incredibly spoilt growing up and literally - YES, LITERALLY! Really a LITERALLY this time!!!- cannot use a tin opener. Had never changed a light bulb etc. It’s just who he is. And, by the way, some of these older women had their husbands shopping too. At the 2m distance With their own trolleys, but still they were both there! actually a pregnant woman showed up as I was finally getting in (too far away to warn her), and she showed up with a husband too.

I think you are being incredibly selfish then. And what a man!

But actually @TKAAHUARTG - your argument of “you going not
Your husband is why they were annoyed” is also not a good one. There could be any number of reasons why my husband couldn’t go. He could be elsewhere, dead, sick, self isolating, have a serious underlying condition that makes him more vulnerable than me. That’s not the point is it? It’s not for other people to judge why someone is “worthy” or not without knowing all the facts.

*whether

and your pathetic little husband

I’m not engaging with someone so
Vitriolic at 8am! Maybe you were one of the nasty people at the supermarket 🤷🏻‍♀️😂🤪 as I said, some people were there WITH their husbands. Either way, have a nice day 😁

No, wasn’t me at the supermarket. My husband can do shit like that all by himself.

I think this thread shows that being "torn to shreds" by a group of people is not at all unlikely or an exaggeration.

OP, YANBU and you are not being ageist.

@SoupDragon I couldn't agree more.

@SoupDragon

Thank you!

I can't believe some of the comments on here. Especially from TKAAHUARTG who quite frankly is coming across as damn right nasty 🙁 I mean seriously,the op has explained why her husband isn't doing the shopping,what part of that aren't you getting? I don't get why people have suddenly become so rude to each other both in real life and on here. We're all having to adapt and change the way we do things and it's a learning curve,but a little compassion for other people would go a long way.
And to the pp who claimed that people in their 70s aren't elderly,well what are they then because they aren't middle aged are they? I mean come on!!

@BIWI

Which thread are you referring to?

I would've read the room a bit and gone in after the hour was over. Technically, yes you could justify being there. But it would obviously cause alarm as on the face of it you aren't old, vulnerable or ill. You're pregnant. You're bringing life into the world whereas those the slot is meant for, are afraid, and rationally afraid, of leaving it.
No excuse for being rounded on though, that's awful and I'm glad you were backed up somewhat.

I can believe it. I know a 62 yo man with serious underlying health issues who went to one. He checked with the manager, who was at the door, that it was ok before he went in. No one shouted at him (he's a big, scary looking bloke), but he got a lot of glares, tutting and not whispered comments to others that he wasn't over 70. He was made to feel very uncomfortable by a lot of elderly customers. He has avoided those sessions since and now largely depends on other people shopping for him.

I mean seriously,the op has explained why her husband isn't doing the shopping,what part of that aren't you getting? the bit where a grown-ass man can't go shopping to protect the more vulnerable members of our society during these difficult times. But the OP did explain he also can't use a tin opener or change a lightbulb, so I guess you feel sorry for him @Daisyhoney?

whereas those the slot is meant for

It is meant for her. It was confirmed by the actual supermarket.

@Notredamn

For a number of reasons pregnancy makes you more susceptible to being unwell if you contract corona virus. That’s why we have been included in the “vulnerable” category. I don’t make the rules. I’m certainly not going to “read the room”
When a bunch of people are nasty to me and cower in my car for an hour when I am allowed to be somewhere.