What the hell is wrong with people?!?

[crispysausagerolls]

Went to the supermarket today during their elderly/vulnerable slot. Heavily and very obviously pregnant. Supermarket extremely clear that this is included in the category.

Was literally torn to shreds by all the over 70s, both to my face and in front of me but to each other, about how I wasn’t allowed there and even if I was I shouldn’t be 😱

Aren’t times shitty enough without needing to face down over 70s Regina George and her allies?! How is this necessary?! Even when the supermarket worker made it clear I was indeed allowed in, the bitching continued.

Have managed to purchase some non alcoholic wine for later.

What?? I don't understand. I've apologised, is that enough? Or should I get whipped. Maybe that's it.

Then why are you going on to me about not being a journalist when I pointed out that you were still incorrect?

@crispysausagerolls. I didn’t realise you were pregnant (I’ve name changed but we’ve chatted on many threads) congratulations!! 🌷

I’m sorry you felt like that. I’m sorry they behaved so atrociously.

I get why they’re scared (I’m terrified 51, obese, diabetic, high blood pressure) & I can understand they found your presence threatening (young,probably working DH,possibly children at home) & can understand them being worried. The supermarkets/adverts/advice hasn’t helped as everyone’s a bit confused about who is in which category & who is entitled to what...but they behaved horribly. Shocking really given many of them will probably have daughters DIL’s struggling.
I feel very sorry for the pregnant women & parents of babies that I see - it’s not a nice time to be going through what should be one if the most exciting times of your lives.

I would choose to shop at a different time, partly because it’s definitely not the quietest time, partly so as not to upset the quiet ones who were quietly scared, but mostly so you don’t have to face that again!

As for your DH. If you and he are happy with how things work in your house, ignore any nasty comments. Personally I’d have to get him ‘trained up’ as I couldn’t cope with his inability to make basic food like beans on toast or a stir fry. I’d want to know my kids would be well cared for if I was unwell or died. Plus I don’t want to be doing it all! But that’s really noting to do with THIS thread!

Probably best to hide the thread now - far better for your health 🌷🍰☕️

This won't happen for younger people. Not may or may not. It won't.

And again, not what the guidance actually says. A lot of factors in play including response to treatment and co-morbidities before they mention age. A young person with cystic fibrosis or a very healthy 68 year old? That is a clinical decision based on risk and response to existing treatment before advanced interventions, and I imagine a dreadful one to have to make.

You are again making statements of fact that aren’t based in evidence. Why? What do you gain from it?

@AmelieTaylor

Thank you very much! Extremely curious to know what you’ve name changed from
now 😁

I call bullshit

In the overwhelmingly majority of cases, a younger person will be favoured over an older person. Few exceptions I imagine.

Top news story on R4 says NHS directives for people in care homes won't be admitted to hospital should they develop symptoms. Residents are in fact being encouraged to complete do not resuscitate forms.

@amijustparanoidorjuststoned

Let's not forget that statistically it's the elderly people that don't believe the rules apply to them

I'd love to see those statistics, please

In the overwhelmingly majority of cases, a younger person will be favoured over an older person. Few exceptions I imagine.

I imagine that is true particular when you consider the increased likelihood of co-morbidities as people age.

Top news story on R4 says NHS directives for people in care homes won't be admitted to hospital should they develop symptoms. Residents are in fact being encouraged to complete do not resuscitate forms.

I’ve just listened to the 1pm bulletin. Yet again it said may not. Not won’t.

For god’s sake.

springydaff plenty of younger people won get treatment if they have underlying conditions and as for "your swap for a word you would use for a black person" - you could apply that to any adjective, it's a rubbish analogy. There is no polite word to describe what the old ladies I described did, but funnily enough if I had described them as a pair of cunts it would probably be ok though I would have deemed that totally offensive.

Cologne I concur, I'm not sure what part of my posts you were disagreeing with when I acknowledged twice that the OP is 'allowed' to use the slot.

What do you gain from it?

To point out - very badly so far - that treatment for this wretched virus is not a level playing field when it comes to young v old.

We're ALL terrified of this virus. The old know that, should push come to appalling shove, they will very likely drop off any treatment programme first. That's another level of terror.

Although they behaved very badly in the queue op, I really can see why your presence made them very frightened. It wasn't your fault, of course not. I think the supermarkets have got it wrong.

@RishiSunakFanClub

You are right - it was ABSOLUTELY ageist bullshit! How dare they have assumed that, due to my age, I didn’t belong there.

13RishiSunakFanClub wtf that sounds threatening - are you suggesting that you will visit in order to tear the op to shreds? If that is what you meant then whatever age you are you sound like a thoroughly unpleasant arse hole.

Although they behaved very badly in the queue op, I really can see why your presence made them very frightened. It wasn't your fault, of course not. I think the supermarkets have got it wrong.

That is a very poor excuse for their unnecessary behaviour. They could have kept their mouths shut and minded their own business instead of making comments to and about someone they knew very little about. They were even TOLD she was allowed and some still wouldn’t drop it or do the respectful thing and apologise.
Everyone is scared. That is no excuse to be rude to anyone or make assumptions about strangers. Again, they were told she was allowed and they still continued their behaviour. Worker should have told them to leave when they wouldn’t drop it imo.

Lol @ torn to shreds really

Wow. Everybody is just very nervy and angsty at the moment, as shown on this very thread. But really OP, I assume you're a grown adult so why didn't you just politely put them in their place then move on. You were being a drama llama to start a thread about it.

You were being a drama llama to start a thread about it

Without people starting threads about these sorts of things, there would be no MN.

@Alexis21

Thank you for the delicious biscuit! As has been repeatedly pointed out (after the numerous people who think they are hilarious/intellectually superior for picking on my use of the word “literally”), the dictionary happily understands its use/misuse in this context.

Anyone who really believes elderly people could never behave like this should come in retail for a couple of weeks. They're not all horrible but like all age groups some of them are.
I have had a few comments about shopping at the wrong time even though I'm pregnant. I just give them a look usually.

I wanted to update anyone still reading to say I went back today and several women (not the nasty ones) who were there last week came over to ask me if I was ok! In fact; one lovely woman was telling me how the “ringleader” last week was also telling her husband shouldn’t be there etc etc and policing other people’s behaviour too. So not just me - and other people had clearly felt uncomfortable with the display!

Also; the manager of the store came up and asked if I was pregnant (i guess they have to in case), and said any time pregnant women want, they can just skip to the head of the queue at that supermarket, no problems 😱 so I can go whenever I like, supposedly.

All in all, a very nice experience. And I had gone there with my game face on and everything 😆

Do you live in Royston Vasey?