What the hell is wrong with people?!?

[crispysausagerolls]

Went to the supermarket today during their elderly/vulnerable slot. Heavily and very obviously pregnant. Supermarket extremely clear that this is included in the category.

Was literally torn to shreds by all the over 70s, both to my face and in front of me but to each other, about how I wasn’t allowed there and even if I was I shouldn’t be 😱

Aren’t times shitty enough without needing to face down over 70s Regina George and her allies?! How is this necessary?! Even when the supermarket worker made it clear I was indeed allowed in, the bitching continued.

Have managed to purchase some non alcoholic wine for later.

@crispysausagerolls

You know very well that the ageist comments were to do with the title of that thread, rather than the body of it.

Samcro and Frankieangle you two need better reading comprehension and a new set of morals if you think reporting verbal harassment by a group of elderly shoppers is agism

Eeek! sorry - that wasn't meant for you @crispysausagerolls - it was meant as a reply to @Ohtherewearethen

@BIWI

I was going to say - I don’t think my
Thread title is particularly ageist 🙈

You're not being unreasonable. There's no call for anybody to abuse others in the supermarket queue. I have a friend who lost both legs to meningitis as a child and had prosthetic legs. Unsurprisingly she had a blue badge, but because she was young, she received horrible abuse from (mainly older) people when she parked in the blue badge bays, despite displaying the badge prominently. People who couldn't see her false legs because of her trousers simply assumed that because she was young she wasn't entitled to a blue badge. Older people can be absolutely horrible in their self-centredness. I'm nearly 60 myself, so please don't accuse me of ageism.

How does a bunch of elder people deciding to be rude to a pregnant lady for no reason make the OP ageist?

They brought up the age and they decided to initiate a confrontation.

My ds is vulnerable due to a neuromuscular disorder. Vulnerable can also be the disabled group. My ds is 15. We could also attend this slot if I so wished to.

I'd happily tell anyone who decided their chronological age gave them the right to be rude to feck off. Right now is not the time for the public to be turning on each other.

The thread title isn't ageist, 'what the hell is wrong with people?' doesn't specify the age of the people being complained about, does it??

People are pricks OP, I bet one started it and the rest piled on.

What does that remind me of... oh yeah, AIBU

I am sorry for what you experienced, I would have been a mess if that would have happened to me. There's no excuse for that kind of behaviour.

I am sorry that you had such an awful day. They were twats. Enjoy the non alcoholic wine

How is that ageist? Is there a rule where if you are elderly you can treat people badly and get away with it? Pregnant women are in the vulnerable category therefore the OP had just as much right to be there as they did! I dont agreed with the ageism on some other posts but I dont think this applies here

@BIWI Here we go again. Your first response was 'YABVU and horrifically ageist'. Two separate things. Interestingly, on a later thread about dreadful, blatant racism all you cared about was how to chat on insta.

I went to the supermarket this morning. Everything was set out to keep everyone 2m apart. Big signs up telling people only one person per household. Everyone behaved perfectly relationally and stuck by the rules except two young ladies who screamed and shouted at the store manager because they wanted to shop together. That doesn’t make ALL young people screaming banshees

@NaturalBornWoman, you’re immunity is very much compromised in second and especially the third trimester of pregnancy, that’s why listeria is such a risk to pregnant women, obviously there isn’t the data yet and no one is ever going to do a study because of the ethics. But there is sound scientific grounding for the advice, it is not just merely precautionary.

*your

OP you did nothing wrong and you’re definitely not ageist. I would have given them Merry hell that would definitely have been classed ageist. and I agree with @Lexilooo about there been a type that needs to go and queue, the afternoons are apparently very, very quiet and they seem to be quite well stocked.

I don't think the OP is being ageist, the people who were being very rude to her happened to be over 70 and this is relevant to explain the situation. Some replies are ageist though because they contain generalisations and stereotyping. There is a tendency on MN to be quite unpleasant about older people who are, in fact, a mixed, diverse group the same as people of any age. I am sorry you had such a horrid morning OP. Those people don't soind scared, they sound like busybodies and there is no excuse.

@Ohtherewearethen

Interestingly, on a later thread about dreadful, blatant racism all you cared about was how to chat on insta.

On the instagram thread you are referring to, yes you're right, the thrust of the thread was about racism. I was probing how genuine the OP was because I genuinely didn't believe you could have group chat on instagram. But rather than call the OP out straight away, I was asking them to prove what they had asserted. Before I reported the OP as a potential troll. I hope that's OK with you?

@BIWI Hmmm, OK. Sure.

OP, YANBU to feel upset about a group of people bitching at/about you, when you had done nothing wrong. These are testing times, people of all ages are afraid and some are losing patience with the difficulties of shopping and the restrictions of the lockdown.

I think many old people are aware that if they catch Covid-19 they have a much higher risk of dying than somebody who is young and healthy. Perhaps they view you as a young, healthy woman who has every chance of fighting the virus, so they don't perceive you as being vulnerable in the same way that they are. That's no excuse for their behaviour, but it may be the reason behind it.

Why isn’t your husband doing the shopping? I would have thought that was why the people shopping in the vulnerable slot were feeling frustrated. Many of them have no other option but to go to the supermarket, even though it probably scares them immeasurably. So even though you are ‘entitled’ to go at that time, why is your husband not doing it? Then he would not need to use the slot for vulnerable people.

@crispysausagerolls What a terrible story. That they're scared and lashing out is NO excuse at all.

Clearly those oldies are failing to understand the deeper meaning to all of this. This is a BIG lesson to society about decency, respect, kindness and community. As long as we don't get that this disease ain't going away.

So everyone young and old had best get a grip and start to behave like a decent member of the human race. You get old - learn something!

No, not all old people are cunts. But I 100% believe the OP.
I’m 30ish, and aside from a fat arse, most days look relatively fit and healthy. I have a blue badge, a radar key, and the only people to have ever tell me how disgusting I am for using a disabled space or toilet, is an elderly person, actually old women come to think of it. And they’ve all been vicious.

I mean, they were over 70, not sure how it is ageist, OP hasnt said something along the lines of all old people are awful. This really has brought the worst out in a lot of people, I am not sure why they think they have the right to police others (not just in this situation, but lots of people have taken it upon themselves to hurl abuse at others). Everyone is scared, everyone is hopefully doing what they can to stay safe.