I support and work happily with those parents who expect their child to work hard and behave well in class.
See the problem I have with this is that you and you alone are deciding who these children and their parents are. It's all very one sided. My child was a dreadfully behaved child. I didn't force him to do home work at home and regularly took him out of school for "holidays". As a parent I was patronised, criticised and belittled and called in constantly to discuss him with very young teachers who were clearly disgusted by us and didn't bother to hide it, asking probing questions about our home life, asking me to take them through our "morning routine". I understand why this is necessary but it could have been handled so much better.
Later he was diagnosed with autism, dyspraxia, sensory processing disorder and hyper mobility that is 7/9 on the beighton scale and causes him a lot of pain. I didn't force him to do homework at home because his distress at having to do "school" things in the "home" environment was off the scale. He couldn't process that. He is 17 now and still can't write efficiently and probably never will now. I took him out for "holidays" to give all involved some respite and had doctors notes for all absences. In the end he was injured at school, by a teacher, during restraint, and that was enough and I took him out and home educated him. The one thread throughout was lack of understanding or care from most of his teachers, who for almost two years dismissed me as "that parent" because I wouldn't jus swallow the criticism. I knew there was more going on. But I had a friend working at that school and I know what was said about us in the staff room and over coffee. At that time SEN was an elective in training I believe. I don't know if that's changed, has it? Hope so.
So you see when I hear of three or four "little darlings" spoiling it for everyone, I wonder about undiagnosed SN for a start, the stats are pretty high on that I believe, then I think about personality clashes between teachers and children or parents - which understandably do happen, then I think about perhaps a teacher who isn't very good at their job and isn't in enjoying it that much and resents any input from those boring, interfering parents and finally, yes the entitled, nightmare parent that makes life terribly difficult for everyone. I also feel sometimes that some teachers on MN feel themselves to be above reproach and that irritates me because no body is are they?
You'll be pleased to know that my other child though, has 100% attendance and sparkling school reports and in almost two years of secondary school I have never had call to even whisper the mildest of complaints about the school or its staff and they never have needed to about her. They are absolutely brilliant - certainly all the ones involved with her anyway. She's autistic too but was supported from the outset with a diagnosis and EHCP which has made all the difference plus her school has an autism unit. Dd isn't in it but all teachers in the school trained in how autism presents. Two children in the same family with entirely different outcomes mainly due to differences in teachers so 🤷🏼♀️