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Original poster

To think everyone is going to get very fed up with all this?

312 replies

cantata · 28/03/2020 22:19

The thought of John Lewis dumping a washer-dryer on my doorstep and expecting me to remove the old (integrated) one and carry and plumb in the new one makes me wonder.

AIBU to think we're going to get fed up with this social distancing malarkey before very long?

(I hate it anyway, as I need people around me for my sanity. And not my teenagers 24/7).

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claireyjs · 30/03/2020 22:17

Mainly fed up with people grumbling about minor annoyances whilst people are DYING!!!!!!!

SirChing · 30/03/2020 22:18

@Lifeisgenerallyfun and @CatterySlave1 those are such lovely posts. They have cheered me up anyway Flowers

bellinisurge · 30/03/2020 22:31

Op, without any back story, your original post reads like some tedious first world nonsense problem that bears no comparison to any genuine difficulties and sadness that people are feeling. A drip feed in other words. I'm not quite sure why you would expect automatic support and positivity from everyone without explaining why this was symptomatic of a larger problem you were experiencing.

Original poster
cantata · 30/03/2020 22:42

Great posts, @Lifeisgenerallyfun and @CatterySlave1

Thank you.

Bellini. I can see why you said it was a drip feed. However, it wasn't meant that way. It was more the case that the more I thought about it, the more I worked out what was really bothering me.

I think that has probably been clear to anyone who has followed the whole thread, but I can completely understand why someone might comment based solely on the OP (I have done this myself occasionally, and will try never to do so in future...)

I certainly didn't expect automatic support - and especially not in AIBU. I am, however, very grateful to all the posters who have made me think or given me suggestions, including the ones who have engaged intelligently and whose views are not necessarily mine. I also hope a few of them have in turn found the thread helpful.

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Lifeisgenerallyfun · 30/03/2020 22:45

One of the issues with mental health problems is you constantly feel you are walking round with your worry cup full to the brim. You spend your life balancing trying to ensure none of it spills out. However, even the smallest problem that to everyone else looks completely insignificant, if dropped into that cup will make it overflow. You have no room for any more worries, however small. It’s why people have breakdowns or take their own life over what looks like completely insignificant things. It’s not about that final drop (in this case the washer) it’s about everything else already filling your cup. Op hopefully you can find a way to empty it.

Alizzle · 30/03/2020 22:46

We're getting there. I can see you're being hammered but it is a natural reaction to be fed up of this. We didnt panic buy at the start and now we cant get anything we need at all or we have to queue for ages to get the stuff we need at a reasonable price. We're currently making do with stuff at inflated cost from corner shops because we both work full time(me from home, him lone working in the field) so have no chance at getting into a supermarket at a reasonable time to get anything useful. It sucks balls and I'm with you. Just because I'm fed up with things doesn't mean I'm not aware of what's going on or am insensitiv

motortroll · 30/03/2020 22:53

We did just that with a new dishwasher from hotpoint (replacement for faulty one was ordered before schools shut!)

We had the old one out and on the doorstep before they arrived so they could take it away and they just delivered the new one directly to the door 🤷🏻‍♀️

There's no way I'd have expected them to come in and it would have been stupid to let them and risk the safety of my children.

If we didn't have the ability to do that I'd have postponed the delivery (even though I weep everyday I have to wash up by hand....first world problem!)

motortroll · 30/03/2020 22:54

Not sure I could live without a washing machine though.

emojisarentwords · 30/03/2020 22:59

YADNBU. The people who think we can live without our luxuries for any prolonged length of time - ha ha ha.

bd67thSaysReinstateLangCleg · 30/03/2020 23:02

I got so depressed that I got put on one of those cbt courses with loads of people.

CBT should not be delivered in a group setting to someone with acute mental illness. It doesn't work properly as a therapy unless it's tailored to the individual. (Source: Been on it. Twice.)

MondeoFan · 30/03/2020 23:12

I'd never buy a washer-dryer

Alizzle · 30/03/2020 23:14

And let's be honest in my community, the people that are going out and mainly flouting the rules are over 60, while I'm here trying to explain to my son that we cant go out and see his cousins or grandparents he sees the elderly going past his window multiple times a day chatting with the neighbours..... who are we keeping safe again??

bd67thSaysReinstateLangCleg · 30/03/2020 23:16

It’s why people have breakdowns or take their own life over what looks like completely insignificant things.

Yup. I have bookmarked your post in my browser because it articulates this so brilliantly.

BeijingBikini · 30/03/2020 23:23

joining more friendly online forums,

Out of interest can you tell me which ones? I go on MSE, Reddit and HousePriceCrash sometimes but that's about it.....

Lovely13 · 31/03/2020 00:23

I would have no clue how to plumb in a washing machine and impressed that you can. Mine broke down, just before all the lockdown, so could get someone out. I’d be vexed not to have it working. Don’t have a wringer or the others that help with hand washing. Never do a dryer though. Always on washing line. Old fashioned. Me.

Original poster
cantata · 31/03/2020 08:57

Another excellent post, Lifeisgenerallyfun.

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bemusedmoose · 31/03/2020 17:10

umm, I'm a single mum only 5'2'' and yes I have disconnected my old machine dragged it out the house (down some steps) and dragged in the new one and plumbed it in. On my own zero help. It's not that hard and I have spine trouble and arthritis. It's what a lot of people have to do. Having someone do stuff for you is a privilege not a requirement.

Manchestermanchester · 31/03/2020 17:41

@bemusedmoose sounds like 1) laminate will get ripped 3) goods will be damaged 3) goods will damage hard surfaces etc.

I admire your attitude and I’m sure the OP can get her son to help with lifting. Plumbing in an integrated appliance is harder work but you can do it OP.

Original poster
cantata · 31/03/2020 18:11

For those who can't face a rather lengthy thread, I cancelled the order. It wasn't necessary (bit of a back story to this) - just desirable. It was just the final straw in a really miserable situation.

The short version is that I have had depression before, and I need real life interaction with real life people to keep myself on an even keel. I suspect this virus will harm people in more ways than respiratory ones.

(That's all for newcomers to the thread).

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Catsick36 · 31/03/2020 18:18

Surely if you aren't self isolating they will do what they're supposed to do

Original poster
cantata · 31/03/2020 18:24

I have, as mentioned, cancelled the order. However, it is indeed the case that they won't (can't) enter anyone's house regardless of circumstances.

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Sostenueto · 31/03/2020 20:42

13 year old boy died of Covid 19 today in Kings College Hospital in London today and a 19 yr old died today as well. So hang in there folks no matter how fed up you are.

Sostenueto · 31/03/2020 20:43

P.s neither of the boys had any underlying conditions.

Manchestermanchester · 31/03/2020 21:17

I went to asda and the shelves were stocked. I saw a family with their kid. Wtf is no one telling them to stay in the car?

user1471565182 · 31/03/2020 21:53

I really dislike the term 'plumbing in'.