To think everyone is going to get very fed up with all this?

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The thought of John Lewis dumping a washer-dryer on my doorstep and expecting me to remove the old (integrated) one and carry and plumb in the new one makes me wonder.

AIBU to think we're going to get fed up with this social distancing malarkey before very long?

(I hate it anyway, as I need people around me for my sanity. And not my teenagers 24/7).

@monstiebags No, because that's only about you isn't it. It doesn't deal with all those you may spread it to who do want medical treatment.

If people thought about others rather then themselves, maybe they wouldn't be so short sighted.

So I had a brain injury years ago. I recovered but then had a relapse about 5 years ago. Both times recovering I was stuck in my bed /flat/mums caravan (was at uni at the time and mum had rented out my room) for months on end. The only time I could go out was to appointments and the shop at the end of the road once every few days. I would have to recover for two or three days leaving and it was awful.

I got so depressed that I got put on one of those cbt courses with loads of people. The idiots couldn't get why I was so depressed. Why being literally stuck in and unable to go out (or be well and not in pain constantly even on my good days) was making me so depressed.

All their advice and things was stupid, dangerous and put me and the other disabled person at risk. I had a fall on my way to their session listening to their advice and put my recovery back even more. They then kicked me off the course because I missed two sessions. It meant that I couldn't go on to have the 1 on 1 sessions and they dropped me with no help because of their course.

As someone who was on bed rest twice for 7 months and over a year, people will crack. I've been there and I'm falling to pieces because of the reminders of feeling trapped and husband being made redundant just before all this kicked off.

I get it op. It is the small things too that are the final straw, not the big ones. You have a broken foot at a time when exercise is the only excuse to get out. You can not really shop but don't class as vulnerable enough to get priority on deliveries. You are worried about money. Your teens are at home while they would have been in school and having who knows what effects on their long term education and well being. But all of those aside you joke about the dryer being the last straw.

I get it. It is those tiny things that set you off, the ones that don't really matter but because it feels like the world is just shit and everything is going wrong.

I have been there. It does get better. That freedom, you will love it and savour it. Also I found singing opera very loudly helps (basically controlled screaming). Yoga too where you put sounds of somewhere else. I also used to use a site to play office sounds while writing just to get some sense of loosing myself into being elsewhere (think it is called grey noise). Same with the rain one.

@squishedgrapes Can you get one of those counter top ovens as a temporary measure. I've not been able to afford a proper one and got one off Amazon. They're not bad at all and mine is going strong despite daily use for almost a year now

I didn’t even think of delivery of large items, I’ve got a new fridge freezer arriving on Friday because ours won’t work properly, and I can barely move things normally let alone when pregnant 🤦‍♀️ Looks like it’s staying on the doorstep until my husband gets home!

Hilarious under any other circumstances... but really... come in... people are DYING!

I had a replacement from Hotpoint last week and he brought it in and connected it, tested it and removed the old one and I waited till he finished in the lounge. It was quite quick and we kept our distance.

We had this discussion last night. We decided that people would definitely get sick of it after a while and start bending the rules. Also we are worrying about the state of the economy once we get back to being able to go out and about. DH’s business has already lost countless clients so we are assuming there won’t be a business once it’s over. I know we certainly aren’t the only ones but it’s a terrifying prospect.

@M2B19

If that’s your only concern at the moment I’d be grateful. Do you not think everyone’s mental health stands to suffer because of this?

That comment is the best example I have ever seen as to why people should read the whole thread.

In short, this is a mental health thread.

As the countless people have realised who have responded courteously and thoughtfully, even if they don't agree with me.

I’m fed up of you op

Why is this in AIBU if it is a mental health support thread. Get it moved, op.

I think most people have already got fed up with it on some level and at some point already! It's definitely a bad time for appliances to break and that is definitely going to be a massive pain in the arse, OP. The only consolation is that the restrictions are in place for a good reason. We're all entitled to feel pissed off with it from time to time, just like we get piseed off with work and other necessary things we don't want to do but have to!

That is very decidedly unkind, Toomuchtrouble.

bellini, it's in AIBU because, while it's essentially to do with MH, it's a wider discussion of what's going on at the moment. I am also keen for it to have a wider audience, rather than being sidelined in a 'MH' topic which might not attract much attention, other than from people who are already having MH difficulties.

MH problems are not just a side-alley of Mumsnet. In the case of Covid 19, they are likely to touch every single one of us in some way.

Op, you have been a bit tetchy about people's responses and yet you put it in a topic regularly used for having a bit of verbal argy-bargy

@Toomuchtrouble4me

Your name clearly isn't appropriate because it wasn't too much trouble to make a bitchy comment to the OP.

It certainly isnt too much trouble for me to tell you that that comment makes you sound like a person who is a nasty piece of work, who is stopped from having any empathy by a lack of intelligence.

Bellini. Goodness. I hope I haven't been tetchy. If it has seemed that way, it goes to show, again, how words on a screen can be wrongly interepreted.

I wholeheartedly apologise to anyone who thinks my responses to them have been tetchy. They certainly haven't been meant that way.

@Toomuchtrouble4me I have been mulling your comment over. I can't really believe you would ever say anything like that to anyone in real life, other than as banter. And banter is something that is shared between friends.

@bellinisurge Yep, AIBU is renowned for that but it doesn't make it right though, does it? Some areas are renowned for people being mugged, doesn't mean that it's the fault of the person who goes there.

Maybe in times like now we should be questioning things like this? And standing up for people who are struggling mentally instead of implying it's their fault because of where they post.

Actually, Bellini, I did feel tetchy about Toomuchtrouble's comment. I thought it was unnecessary and unpleasant, but had no desire to reply in kind.

It is likely that we will be at 3-4k deaths by the weekend as that is 15 days behind Italy, and we are still trending that way, then the numbers will be devastating (whilst any death is awful larger numbers become more sobering) - so I would think people realise how bad it is and that inconvenience pales in to insignificance.

It’s okay to feel fed up. We’re all in the same boat. I get that the washing machine thing is a tipping point. I feel like you, I have my elderly father living with me, he’s downstairs and my ASD adult son is in the next bedroom. My father has COPD and very poorly and I can’t go near him. My biggest worry is how am I going to change his bed? That might seem very trivial in the grand scheme of things but it’s a big issue to me, because it will smell. That’s not to say that I don’t realise there are people with worse problems but like you, I have MH problems. Increased anxiety worrying about catching the virus because what will happen to my son if I end up in hospital or worse, die? So we need things in the house to be stable, functioning, and safe because what’s going on outside is terrifying.

The thought of John Lewis dumping a washer-dryer on my doorstep and expecting me to remove the old (integrated) one and carry and plumb in the new one makes me wonder.

This happened with a new washer we got recently and not because of self isolating. Just company policy. It was an absolute pain. Took my husband ages to sort it and he’s a very capable handyman. Anyone less able wouldn’t have stood a chance. Total pain. Having said that I suppose we’re lucky if that’s all we have to worry about in the light of what’s happening around us.

Integrate back in to life if you want you will do so at your own (and many others peril) die alone and put in a mass grave. Why oh why do you care about your washer dryer anyway right now

Zoejj77, it's not entirely clear what you are trying to say, but please RTFT either way.

We are saving lives
Not stuck at home but “safe “ at home

I think this pandemic is going to cause lots of mental health issues, and in the long run this fallout could be even more deadly than the virus.

I’ve suffered from ptsd and associated depression, in a way I feel lucky to have had this experience as I have tools which work well for me in times of crisis. There will be lots of people (some of whom will have previously looked down on MH issues) suffering for the first time who do not have the benefit of being taught coping mechanisms. You can see the people desperately trying to cling on to doing the same as before, to mould this new world to fit their “necessary “ habits.

The first thing people that are struggling need to work on is accepting this is the new normal for a while. There is nothing you can do about it. Then think what you are going to change to fit in with it. Know this is only temporary, although the uncertainty of when it will end is very difficult for some people to deal with. I know from experience mental health issues often lead to a need for knowledge of what is going to happen. Try looking at things in your life that you do have certainty over, meal times, times for outdoor exercise, set a time aside for reading a book or listening to music. Look at the little things you can have some control over. Accept some things you can’t control.

If you live with others schedule time away. Even if it’s an I disturbed soak in the bath or a lie down in a darkened bedroom- make clear that time is not to be disturbed.

If you’re on your own, make sure you can go out for exercise, you can still smile at others, sat hello from 2metres. Use video calls to call people, reach out to people on forums/social media.

Remember life ebbs and flows, it might take a leap of faith but sometimes you have to trust where the tide takes you, even the strongest swimmer will tire constantly swimming against the tide. Where the tide is today, it won’t be tomorrow, or indeed this time next year, things will change from where they are now, even if it doesn’t seem like it. If today is shit, start planning for another day when life will be in a different place.

I’m probably in danger of getting my head bitten off but here goes. As the saying goes it’s the straw that broke the camels back, despite this world changing virus inconveniencing us, we’re often sweating the little things. I’m definitely Not minimising this OP at all. It feels like the end of your world. Your last straw. But I often feel like this when I feel like I’ve got no control over things, and obviously that’s what the whole world is feeling like right about now. And then the world is divided into those who are more introverted personality’s (so get drained by too many p/party’s/crowds) and extroverts (who get charged/energised by being with others). It helps to know which type you lean towards.
All these things impact on your meltdown over what might or might not happen with the delivery. I find it helpful to make a plan for both outcomes personally (2 teens can move it and 3 heads and YouTube can do alsorts). Making plans makes me feel more in control. Maybe you can plan other things to feel better about the situation whilst staying within the vital rules? FaceTimeing family or friends, using your daily walk to take mindful photos, joining more friendly online forums, doing nice things you’d never have a chance to normally do. Try a movie or board game night with them. All things to keep you and your kids sane and happy. Because it Will end. Keep positive eh