To be frustrated with DH over tins I have saved

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Like others, I got wind of what was coming re CV back in early February and began adding a few tins and long life items to each shop (different shops and over 6 weeks, no panic buying here). It was mainly me not DH doing this and I don't drive so was more of an effort. Because of this planning none of us have had to leave the house for over a week. I stocked up the freezer too.
Yesterday, DH seeing all the tins (not loads, maybe 25 of different things - beans, tomatoes, fruit, soup) he exclaimed 'we have loads of tins, I might start experimenting, maybe learn to make houmous'. DH isn't much of a cook but has other qualities. I got the chickpeas to use as bases for things like stews not so DH can 'experiment' with food he will only likely eat. Also we have 2 long dated houmous in the fridge (we are veggie!) WIBU to snap at him 'I didnt lug those tins home for experiments. They are for making proper meals'. Being slightly dramatic as I didnt lug them home at once but DH is generally bad at food waste, meal planning, checking dates etc so it just wound me up. The tins didnt just appear, I got them and he like many others only realised the severity of this a few weeks ago and laughed at me stocking up on tins. If it wasn't for me one of us would be queuing for the supermarket right now but as it is we have plenty of food to last a few months if careful.

@riv so the AIBU is actually that the dh wants to make hummus when no one in the house apart from him likes it? Bit of a drip feed! Nothing wrong with homemade hummus as a dinner but obviously if the op and others in the house will not eat it it’s no good. That’s the issue here.

As part of your diet it's fine.

Yes as part but surly not for most meals?

Whyever not - so long as the tins are within date.

Growing up in an era when we didn't have airfreighted food, poly tunnels etc and not everyone had a fridge let alone a freezer, I ate a lot of tinned food as a kid and seem none the worse for it. Pilchard salad followed by tinned peaches and evaporated milk.

GreytExpectations

You have appeared on more than one thread criticising people for hoarding etc. You clearly have some issues relating to food. The OP is not being smug nor is she hoarding. There are 4 people in her family and so it is not surprising she has a few extra tins in the cupboard. She hasn’t been dragging pallet loads out of shop!

Tinned food is just food. Mostly it doesn’t have salt or sugar added anymore. Hard to make most curries and sauces without at least tinned tomatoes unless you have storage space for many many fresh ones...

I adore homemade humous make it all the time - your DH can bring it round to me I'll eat it!

@33ChazsBrilliantAttitude
You have appeared on more than one thread criticising people for hoarding etc. You clearly have some issues relating to food.

That's really funny. You seriously felt the need to search me? That's quite pathetic. I have an opinion on hoarding, yes. This is a public Internet forum where we are all allowed to vocie our opinions. Maybe you should learn that it's OK for people not to agree with each other. I don't have issues relating to food, I have plenty of food. I just disagree with hoarding, I'm entitled to do that without people like you making up scenarios about me. Please don't engage with me unless you are capable of having an adult conversation about disagreements instead of resorting to the classic "you have issues because you have a different opinion" line.

And yes, OP is being smug and controlling.

@GreytExpectations
I imagine you're feeling desperate and worried as you didn't have the foresight to prepare for your family food wise despite there being a pandemic.

I imagine you're feeling desperate and worried as you didn't have the foresight to prepare for your family food wise despite there being a pandemic

I really am not, where did you get that idea @Ghostoast ? Can you really not comprehend someone having an opinion that's different to yours that you suspect means they must have issues? I have plenty of food. Am cooking a lovely gammon roast right now and have at no point felt the need to panic about food buying. But please do tell me more about why I am feeling so desperate right now.

@ aupresdemonarbre I got the impression that only "DH" likes hummus from the first post:
" I got the chickpeas to use as bases for things like stews not so DH can 'experiment' with food he will only likely eat." so no drip fed here. What might be considered a drip feed is that apparently the OP does like hummus. But, again as it says in the very first post, they " have 2 long dated houmous in the fridge "

However, their tastes regarding hummus is not the point of the post.
The OP is upset because she has planned ahead over several weeks to avoid running short of family staples in a crisis. She bought extra tins of things they use regularly so that the family have things they can eat when they can't get to the shops or the shops have limited stock.
The OP's DP seems unaware of the food supply crisis and thinks that these tins are surplus and therefore freely available for him to experiment with. These experiments usually end up wasting food by replicating what is already plentiful in the house or result in things that no one will eat. With the current difficulty we all have shopping, using valuable stock like this may result in the family being short of food.

GreytExpectations
Don’t worry. I didn’t think you were worth the effort of searching. I just remembered your distinctive style from another thread.

I also remember your total inability to distinguish buying enough for a family over a month or two so you can reduce the frequency of your shopping trips from last minute panic buying and excessive purchasing.

Okay... Good for you for having a functional memory? But not that great as you clearly are making assumptions about what I know. I couldn't care less that you disagree with me, you clearly aren't capable of comprehending different people have different opinions so you arent worth my time to attempt to even discuss this with @ChazsBrilliantAttitude

@riv huh tbh I think it’s a bit of a stretch to say none of them like hummus on that basis. I think she means he will make it not as a family meal but just on the side, so everyone else will have the same meal that the op cooks and not eat the hummus. But this problem could be solved by just getting the dh to make it for dinner for everyone, and the op not making a separate meal. If the family likes chickpeas in stews I’m sure they’ll like them in hummus. As I said, I don’t see the issue with making hummus- it’s tasty and when we make it at home it never lasts to a second sitting. Fair enough to ask the dh to eat fresh food before tinned but I don’t see that it matters much whether a tin of chickpeas is eaten in the form of hummus or chickpea stew, which seems to me to be what the op is concerned about.

GreytExpectations
You have not given the slightest impression of wanting a discussion. You have shown no wish to understand anyone else’s point of view. You merely wish to pontificate. So I’ll leave you to get on with that - I guess it’s one way to pass the time during lockdown.

@aupresdemonarbre . not going to argue as we have obviously got very different interpretations of the OP's message.
Sadly I still don't see why it's a good idea for the OP's DH to make fresh hummus with the tinned chickpeas when they have two tubs of hummus already in the fridge, even if they do all like it for a main meal.
In response to your comment " If the family likes chickpeas in stews I’m sure they’ll like them in hummus ". The reverse is certainly not true. I love hummus but hate chickpea stew and chickpea curry with a passion.
In spite of us liking it, a small tub of hummus here can take us over a fortnight to finish. I often have to throw it out when it starts to ferment. Not all families like the same things to the same extent.

I understand you want to get mad at him but ..... he might die, you might die, is a few tins really important at the end of the day?

I understand you want to get mad at him but ..... he might die, you might die, is a few tins really important at the end of the day?

FFS.

FFS. What is wrong with you?

Must admit we have considerably more than 25 tins, and a lot of other stuff, pasta, rice, sauces, long life milk, and there are three of us. But we are all "vulnerable" with health issues (heart problems and mobility issues etc) and don't intend to go out of the house (and garden) at all if we can possibly help it until this dies down. Getting weekly supermarket deliveries as they considered us vulnerable longtime customers.

Please no judgements but I've always had OCD from childhood and it's been a long standing joke with all my friends and family over the years!! They've always said 'I've been planning for an apocalypse'!! I've been one to keep well stocked cupboards with plenty of tins, soups, beans, spaghetti, cornbeef, chilli, tomatoes, jar sauces for bolognese and lasagne etc. Also dried foods, packets soups and pasta. Tea bags, coffee, long life milk, powder milk, sweeteners, toilet rolls cleaning products, toiletries. Freezer full with everything including bread, wraps, pitta breads. They all laughed at me over the years, but now I'm the one who can stay home for the foreseeable haha. They all know they can come get a bag of shopping if they need anything from my very own 'supermarket' though and be very happy to do it. But can I just say! Who's laughing now 😂

I sympathise with you. I have stopped people going in to the kitche to help themselves to snacks, and thereby leaving less food for others. I have taken charge of all meals so the food will eke out longer. If your husband does want to experiment I thoroughly recommend he has flour water and yeast and starts making homemade bread. Always a basic food item, and quite a de stressing experiencing , kneading the dough. There are all sorts of various experiments he can try out with bread and he is not depleting the store cupboard too much.

Yabu. There’s nothing to stop you going to the shop for food. Let him experiment. Rather that than be bored and act up like an extra child.

YANBU OP. Now is not the time to waste food when some people are struggling to get anything, when supermarkets are limiting you to 3 per item max etc and you are 9nly allowed out for essentials.

I’ve always had cupboards full of food due to growing up on a farm and living in a rural area. We could be snowed in for weeks sometimes, and I inherited my mum’s siege mentality. When the nearest supermarket is 20 miles away, you don’t want to run out of stuff. Thanks to that I haven’t had to panic buy. I always have 4 of everything in the cupboard all year round. Beans, spaghetti, peas, soup, sauce, cereal, sugar, pasta. There’s always spares in the cupboard and milk and bread in the freezer during winter months.

Talking to someone a few weeks ago, she said her fridge/cupboard was empty as she shopped each day on the way home for what she fancied. She was one of the panic buyers.

We all shop differently.

@Fave yes there is. Nobody wants to go to the supermarket unless they have to right now. Her DH will be wasting food and causing extra unnecessary contact.

Absolutely nothing to stop them going to the shops for food apart from the Government asking us to actively limit unnecessary trips. Now is not the time to be wasting food on experiments.

There’s nothing to stop you going to the shop for food

Except that pesky global pandemic eh?

Seriously, are people popping out for milk and the odd tin of chickpeas? Once a week shopping now surely? I was fortunate to book some online slots so we haven’t been shopping for weeks.