To be frustrated with DH over tins I have saved

[goteam]

Like others, I got wind of what was coming re CV back in early February and began adding a few tins and long life items to each shop (different shops and over 6 weeks, no panic buying here). It was mainly me not DH doing this and I don't drive so was more of an effort. Because of this planning none of us have had to leave the house for over a week. I stocked up the freezer too.
Yesterday, DH seeing all the tins (not loads, maybe 25 of different things - beans, tomatoes, fruit, soup) he exclaimed 'we have loads of tins, I might start experimenting, maybe learn to make houmous'. DH isn't much of a cook but has other qualities. I got the chickpeas to use as bases for things like stews not so DH can 'experiment' with food he will only likely eat. Also we have 2 long dated houmous in the fridge (we are veggie!) WIBU to snap at him 'I didnt lug those tins home for experiments. They are for making proper meals'. Being slightly dramatic as I didnt lug them home at once but DH is generally bad at food waste, meal planning, checking dates etc so it just wound me up. The tins didnt just appear, I got them and he like many others only realised the severity of this a few weeks ago and laughed at me stocking up on tins. If it wasn't for me one of us would be queuing for the supermarket right now but as it is we have plenty of food to last a few months if careful.

You cant make a decent humous with canned chickpeas. You need the dried ones.

25 tins is a lot?

Tins of baked beans
Mixed beans
Chickpeas
Tomatoes
Coconut milk
Sweetcorn
Peaches
Mandarins

I would have 60 + tins during normal times
and not think that was unusual.

These are items that are used all the time in different dishes.

OP, I think consideration is important at this time.

On of my son's is keen practice his cooking and I have told him what has to be used today ...date wise.

I know life is very stressful at the moment but seriously, he wants to experiment and you object.

Find some joy where you can is what I’m trying to do.

YABU

@goteam, your DH sounds like my DD!

I'm having to keep telling her she can't just constantly eat and experiment with cooking stuff just because she's bored.

25 tins isn't a lot, especially for a family of 4.

We're a family of 4 and I must have about 144 tins of various things. I've always kept 6-12 tins of each item in at any one time, then as I use 1 a new one gets bought.

I have autoimmune condition, so I've kept this stock level for well over 10 years as when I'm ill and unable to go out, we simply live off my stuff and I restock again over several weeks/months once I'm better.

I've had my current stock since last year, so haven't panic bought at all.
As I use them up I simply replace them, so I've only needed to do normal shops this year.

Since the panic buying began, I've only needed to shop for fresh fruit and veg, and I'm trying to avoid shopping full stop as much as possible, so I'm not contributing to any shortages as I buy all non fresh and shelf stable items in bulk, so I've enough to last me quite a while.

I've also been sharing items with people that are struggling.

Oops! Sorry for the double post

YANBU. She who stocked it gets to say how it's used!

YANBU, this is stuff you saved for a reason. We all have to be a bit more sensible right now and not just do what we want, so that we're prepared etc. We don't know how long this thing is going to last.

doodleygirl I don't think making houmous is something he is particularly excited about doing. he just saw the tins and thought they needed 'using up'. He doesn't particularly like cooking. He has loads of hobbies he is catching up on while at home so I'm not really sucking the little joy he has from life or anything.

Why don’t those of us who have to meal plan (including simple meal planning, not necessarily in the super detailed way of Mumsnetters who have to budget really tightly) spend a bit of time getting the family to try it whilst we are all stuck indoors. Or at least share what we have done so that they don’t have an excuse to use up the leftovers because they think they are just extras and would be “going to waste”.

It covers a lot of the key skills the children should be covering- maths in particular- and is a brilliant skill for life. Might just save us a job in the long run too. At least it could add (yet) another pretty coloured chart to the fridge door 🙄

Yanbu

YANBU do men never ever see the long game - it's always about what they want to do today.
I'm a veggie too and I'd be pissed if someone experimented with the food - not being dramatic here - I literally risked my life to go out and get.
If I hadn't been constantly vigilant my ex would have pissed away every last cent of our money too on his latest mad scheme or holiday we couldn't afford.
Guess who is living in a bedsit, with no job, no wife and £30,000 worth of debt right this minute while I'm comfortably off with a good job and a house I own because, "I don't want to waste my life paying bills and thinking about pensions".
This saga I just wrote comes straight out of the pages of modern Struwwelpeter (look it up) let your husband beware

Good idea Riv

Mine has come up with a bright idea for a BBQ. (We cook outside reasonably frequently, not a party BBQ) I'm waving him off to the supermarket, as long as he gets food for the rest of the week (and he is limiting the meat he will be cooking!)

Our mantra at the moment.. there is sufficient good- we just have to use it sensibly.

I think he sounds sweetly naive. Certainly nothing to start an argument over, and learning to make his own hummus is a useful thing to know and might be good for his wellbeing. Pick your battles; I really don't think this is one of them.

How did people see this coming in January?

I didn't find out until greedy bastards were already stripping the shops.

YANBU.

I was like you, OP. Saw this coming and spent the last 2 months slowly restocking the house and freezers. Completely done before the panic buying set in.

I've cracked down on everyone so we waste nothing.

This just demonstrates the lack of mental load sharing in many households where men eat whatever they like happily assuming their wives will restock the shelves because that's how it's always been

When this all started few weeks ago and all shop got empty, we had nothing.
Always just bought what we need for a few days, never stockpiling before.
About a week ago I managed to get some tins and pasta sauces ( about 4-6, all different brands)
DH screamed on me how dared I bough all this.
That I’m like old hag buying and panicking.
I’m high risk so I don’t want to go out.
He said I’m ridiculously and I bough shit stuff anyway, like he fancy Lloyd grossman sauce and he won’t eat shitty Sherwood and why I did not chose Loyd grossnam.
Or I got brainstones baked beans, he fancy Heinz one so I got shit ones and wanted to chuck it.
I was so happy I spent my last money I had on these, I carried these heavy staff 2 miles home on my back.
Was fucking heavy but I was so glad I got at least something.
Not good enough for him, he told me I’m ridiculous to spent money on shitty items. Why would I buy those sauces..
No need, if I can walk anytime to shop and get these..
Rant over.

I always keep dried chickpeas.

Soak, pressure cooker, one third of a pack makes more than enough for hummus and a stew.

I'm sure there's some in the shops.

But, yes, he ought to have discussed his Masterchef ambitions with you.

He sounds a proper delight, Homka.

The news of a disease in Wuhan was everywhere by late January. It wasnt until February that news it was in Italy broke, but that was still a few weeks before the panic buying started.

A lot of people had Brexit stashes already too.

Nobody is really learning to make their own hummus without tahini or lemon juice
Sounds maddening, I’d be homicidal but I have always made my husband do his share. If he used food I’ve bought to make something disgusting I wouldn’t serve him anything else till it was gone and he’d shopped and cooked a healthy tasty meal for all of us. Put a note on the tins, saying did you buy this? If no, do you plan to use it to make a healthy meal your spouse and children will eat and doesn’t use too many supplies? If no,go away. Don’t eat the children’s snacks either as that would be selfish pig behaviour not loving dad behaviour.

@Homkaismycat
Are you ok?
He certainly isn’t.
Stand your ground

DH screamed on me how dared I bough all this
That I’m like old hag buying and panicking.
I’m high risk so I don’t want to go out

I hope you haven't chucked it!

Tell the ungrateful fucker to go out himself and if he doesn't wind his fucking neck in it'll be divorce courts when this is over.

Seriously man, what a cock.