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Is he a prick or isn’t he

111 replies

Happymummy8888 · 27/03/2020 21:41

I have possible Covid 19 it’s been shit but a mild form it seems. My Dh will not self isolate. He reluctantly left work when my temp was 39.5 huffed and puffed the next day as I was told to keep myself away from other family members- that only last until 1130 as he was so rude and snappy with me. The second night I woke could barely breathe and a 39.5 fever again rang him at 4am as he slept in another room with the baby and when he came in he snapped at me again saying I wasn’t taking enough paracetamol (I’d had 10!!)

Anyway today I feel ok but happened to say to him that I felt he should have done more I still had to make dinners and tidy up and bath the kids. He went mad said that I was a hypochondria and can’t see other people being sick I have to make it about me. He seen how bad I was- I also spoke to my brother who is a gp and he is convinced I have it. He said dh shouldn’t be going to work on Monday but he is. I am mortified when I told him he shouldn’t he went mad again and said I shouldn’t have told anyone my symptoms. How uncaring is he? I feel like he would treat a dog better than me. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill here I am so hurt

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CaptainButtock · 27/03/2020 21:44

Yes. Yes he is a prick.

CodenameVillanelle · 27/03/2020 21:45

Yes. I hope you divorce him when you can and report him to his employer as being a transmission risk

c0ffeeandcake · 27/03/2020 21:45

He's a total prick.
If he gets it, you need to treat him the exact same!

Powerbunting · 27/03/2020 21:47

He is uncaring towards you and putting lives at risk.

JKScot4 · 27/03/2020 21:47

Can your brother speak directly to him?
He sounds like a selfish idiot.

Ncforcfthreads · 27/03/2020 21:47

Tell his employer
He is putting everyone he works with at risk

Cherrysoup · 27/03/2020 21:48

He’s an idiot and one possible cause of someone else dying. Does he not understand how serious this is? That his actions could KILL someone?

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Happymummy8888 · 27/03/2020 21:48

If I tell my brother to speak to him he will go even more mad. I’m so worried about my kids I’ve been told to isolate myself from them but I actually can’t as he will just bring them to me or leaves the baby crying for ages (which happened yesterday morning and I just had to get up with her as it was breaking my heart)

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TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 27/03/2020 21:50

Can you let his boss know you have it? Prick by 10000 he is, it is just a matter of days before he has it and he will infect a lot of people if he goes to work.

Pieinthesky11 · 27/03/2020 21:51

What a bloody bastard

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Happymummy8888 · 27/03/2020 21:53

He just doesn’t believe I have it. I’m sitting coughing a lung up and he’s saying stop acting. I am so angry at him

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Gindrinker43 · 27/03/2020 21:56

I'd call his work and tell them to send him home he is being an irrespinsible idiot and putting his colleagues and their families at risk as well.

HollowTalk · 27/03/2020 21:57

Long term, OP, you have to rethink whether you want to stay married to this man.

Darbs76 · 27/03/2020 21:57

He’s a complete fool and he could potentially kill people, but given he doesn’t appear to give a beep about his own partner / mother of his children then he certainly won’t care about the hundreds he could potentially infect. No way I’d be with this man. I’d tell him if he leave for work on Monday he won’t be coming back into the family home. Complete and utter selfish fool

TicTac80 · 27/03/2020 21:57

He’s disgusting. What a thoroughly shitty way to behave (towards you, his kids and society). Is he always like this?!

I really hope you feel better soon!

Darbs76 · 27/03/2020 21:58

Even if he doesn’t think you have it, you still have a cough, and the rules are you all need to isolate for 2wks

annamie · 27/03/2020 21:59

I would be mentally preparing to leave this prick once this is over.

Hope you feel better soon Flowers

LouiseTrees · 27/03/2020 22:00

Please tell his work and also ask him why he left the baby crying for so long.

Laaf80 · 27/03/2020 22:06

Had he always treated you this way or is it new?

Has he always left the childcare to you?

Either way he is acting like a pig just now and I know my marriage wouldn’t last with such poor treatment.

Summercamping · 27/03/2020 22:06

He's no good to you. Get rid as soon as is practical. And don't lift a finger for him when he gets it.
That's just unforgivable. Not even that he wouldn't look after you, but that he wouldn't look after the kids

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Happymummy8888 · 27/03/2020 22:13

He’s just changed his behaviour overnight I’m actually really shocked at him he’s usually very attentive to me and the kids. But I’ve felt so alone the last few days as obv can’t see family and he’s just been so horrible

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Jellybean27 · 27/03/2020 22:17

100% Prick.

Jellybean27 · 27/03/2020 22:18

Also, glad you’re recovering well!

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 27/03/2020 22:19

I would a) report him to his work b) get your brother to speak to him c) leave the bastard as soon as you feel able. He sounds a really vile and selfish individual.

Thedogscollar · 27/03/2020 22:27

Omg that's just bloody horrendous I would be doing exactly as mushypeasandchipstogo has advised. He is a grade A prick. Really hope you feel better very soon. I genuinely see the divorce rate rocketing after all this shit. Flowersfor you.