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AIBU?

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Is he a prick or isn’t he

111 replies

Happymummy8888 · 27/03/2020 21:41

I have possible Covid 19 it’s been shit but a mild form it seems. My Dh will not self isolate. He reluctantly left work when my temp was 39.5 huffed and puffed the next day as I was told to keep myself away from other family members- that only last until 1130 as he was so rude and snappy with me. The second night I woke could barely breathe and a 39.5 fever again rang him at 4am as he slept in another room with the baby and when he came in he snapped at me again saying I wasn’t taking enough paracetamol (I’d had 10!!)

Anyway today I feel ok but happened to say to him that I felt he should have done more I still had to make dinners and tidy up and bath the kids. He went mad said that I was a hypochondria and can’t see other people being sick I have to make it about me. He seen how bad I was- I also spoke to my brother who is a gp and he is convinced I have it. He said dh shouldn’t be going to work on Monday but he is. I am mortified when I told him he shouldn’t he went mad again and said I shouldn’t have told anyone my symptoms. How uncaring is he? I feel like he would treat a dog better than me. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill here I am so hurt

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MadameMeursault · 28/03/2020 10:33

He’s an abusive twat, please don’t stay with him OP when all this is over. I agree with others - report him to the police and his employer, he is breaking the law. And watch your paracetamol dose - I’m pretty sure 10 is too many.

TwoMuchTwoYoung · 28/03/2020 10:35

Where does he work?

MashedSpud · 28/03/2020 10:48

He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t care about you.

It shows in his actions and his bitter, nasty attitude to you.

PeterPanGoesWrong · 28/03/2020 10:58

Some people deserve to get this Covid. Your ‘DP’ is one who deserves it. You can remind him to stop being a hypochondriac when’s he is suffering!

FritataPatate · 28/03/2020 11:09

You need to tell his boss. He's endangering others, including NHS professionals, potentially.

noworklifebalance · 28/03/2020 11:13

Who the fuck clicked YABU?!!

Me by accident Shock- quickly changed it to YANBU but not sure which one was registered

Still1nLove · 28/03/2020 11:18

Pack his bags and kick him out now!

LannieDuck · 28/03/2020 11:40

I'm sorry OP. If that were me, I wouldn't be able to forget this.

EerieSilence · 28/03/2020 11:44

“ Advice about Anti-Inflammatory medication and COVID-19
The HSE is today, (Monday 16th March 2020), advising anyone with Covid-19 to continue to take any medication you were already taking, unless you are told not to by a healthcare professional. This includes anti-inflammatories (NSAID) such as ibuprofen, naproxen or diclofenac.

In response to false information about anti-inflammatory medication and Covid-19 circulating in media and on social media over the last 24 hours, Dr Colm Henry, Chief Clinical Officer of the HSE advises, “Only take one anti-inflammatory medication at a time. It is okay to take paracetamol and an anti-inflammatory like ibuprofen at the same time.

“There is no evidence to stop any medication at this time. There is no need to order more medicines than you need, as this will affect the supply of medicines to others, and there is no disruption to the supply of medicines. If you have respiratory symptoms, do not attend your pharmacy in person. Phone your pharmacist if you need to order a prescription. Ask a family member to collect any medicines you need.

“We are constantly evaluating emerging evidence about the most appropriate treatment of Covid-19. There is no specific treatment for coronavirus but many of the symptoms of the virus can be treated. If you get the virus, your healthcare professional will advise treatment based on your symptoms. The appropriate medication for an individual with symptoms of COVID-19 will depend on your symptoms, your other conditions and your other medication.”

This is for the fake news people.

OP, please get yourself tested and call his place of work. He is an idiot and he doesn’t love you.

SunFleck · 28/03/2020 11:57

I would be leaving him when this pandemic is over. Report him.

NearlyGranny · 28/03/2020 12:08

Some people are fairweather friends or partners: fine as long as you are strong, well and cheerful and there for them, but quickly turning on you if you show the least sign of being ill, weak or down and needing their support. I think he may be one of these.

In other words, to him you are just a "service human" there to be used and relied on but with no rights of your own. That's where his accusations of hypochondria stem from; he's saying "How dare you have needs? That's my sole right in this relationship, never yours!"

He needs to go...

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