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Is he a prick or isn’t he

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Happymummy8888 · 27/03/2020 21:41

I have possible Covid 19 it’s been shit but a mild form it seems. My Dh will not self isolate. He reluctantly left work when my temp was 39.5 huffed and puffed the next day as I was told to keep myself away from other family members- that only last until 1130 as he was so rude and snappy with me. The second night I woke could barely breathe and a 39.5 fever again rang him at 4am as he slept in another room with the baby and when he came in he snapped at me again saying I wasn’t taking enough paracetamol (I’d had 10!!)

Anyway today I feel ok but happened to say to him that I felt he should have done more I still had to make dinners and tidy up and bath the kids. He went mad said that I was a hypochondria and can’t see other people being sick I have to make it about me. He seen how bad I was- I also spoke to my brother who is a gp and he is convinced I have it. He said dh shouldn’t be going to work on Monday but he is. I am mortified when I told him he shouldn’t he went mad again and said I shouldn’t have told anyone my symptoms. How uncaring is he? I feel like he would treat a dog better than me. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill here I am so hurt

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TheGirlWithAPrince · 28/03/2020 04:27

Sounds like abuse to me

Weenurse · 28/03/2020 05:12

He is burying his head in the sand.
Your brother needs to report him.
I hope you feel better soon

notsuremate · 28/03/2020 05:18

This is truly awful. You need to kick him out. Make him leave and go live somewhere else. You’re dealing with all the childcare anyway. He’s just vile.

hiddenmnetter · 28/03/2020 05:18

Hi all I know it’s only 8 but I was in so much agony I needed them, the pain was honestly unbelievable.

Then take ibuprofen, overdosing on paracetamol is very dangerous- it has a highly toxic reaction to our systems, and the dosage should always be followed. I imagine the 8 in 24 is well below the danger level, but I still wouldn't be taking more. Google that shit, I had no idea how dangerous it was till my wife pointed it out to me.

notsuremate · 28/03/2020 05:18

I hope you remember this when everything’s better and make moves to divorce him. This is your future. An uncaring man

hiddenmnetter · 28/03/2020 05:19

But main point yes, your husband was acting like an asshole

notsuremate · 28/03/2020 05:19

Do NOT take ibuprofen! You could end up in intensive care! If you’ve got the virus taking ibuprofen could kill you!!

Noconceptofnormal · 28/03/2020 05:22

Firstly you need to say to him unequivocally that if he goes to work on Monday you will contact his boss directly and tell him you have covid (and your brother us a GP and agrees), unless he is violent and you put yourself at risk by doing this.

But I couldn't come back from this, I wouldn't be able to forgive it. It often takes a crisis to see who someone really is and he has fallen so short, he doesn't seem to love you or your children.

And as for society, there are people like him who have not followed the rules and been responsible for 1000 cases and several deaths. If there's a covid outbreak at his work then it probably will have come from him. I don't know how he can't live with that.

CecilyP · 28/03/2020 05:26

People were told to self isolate if members of their household had a new continuous dry cough or a temperature above 37.8.

You have:
A cough
Temperature of 39.5 (extremely high)
Difficulty breathing
Serious pain

You pretty much tick all the boxes for Covid 19 yet he’s refusing to self-isolate. Prick doesn’t seem quite a strong enough term to cover it; selfish and irresponsible and an absolute bastard in the way he has treated you would be more like it.

Thepigeonsarecoming · 28/03/2020 05:35

Oh OP I feel so bad for you. What do you plan on doing once this is all over? How would he feel if he infects someone, would he acknowledge or even care? You know him better than us but he does sound like a dick

Lynda07 · 28/03/2020 05:35

My goodness he is awful! Of course you're not unreasonable. You shouldn't be doing all the jobs for goodness sake. Nurture yourself, the last thing you need is to relapse. Be firm about this.

When the crisis is over consider your options. His sort of attitude and behaviour leaves scars that are difficult to heal.

He might get it and then what will he be like?

Flowers
LagunaBubbles · 28/03/2020 05:37

He just doesn’t believe I have it. I’m sitting coughing a lung up and he’s saying stop acting. I am so angry at him

Just why would he not believe you and say you're acting? That's horrendous!!!

EerieSilence · 28/03/2020 05:39

@notsuremate stop spouting bollocks, will you.
All the OP needs on top of her problems are tin foil hat wearing muppets spreading hoaxes.

OP, you seriously need to call his work and even the 111 and report he’s ignoring the government advice. And self-isolate.

SubordinateThatClause · 28/03/2020 05:47

Utter prick. Probably terrified for you all and possibly in denial, but a prick nevertheless.

SubordinateThatClause · 28/03/2020 05:54

*Do not take ibuprofen.
*
The NHS has changed their advice on this. They were advising it before but they are NOT now as there's a potential risk of complications with COVID.

This is not bollocks - don't take it!

billybagpuss · 28/03/2020 05:54

Is anything going on at work that is causing his extra anxiety?

He’s being awful but it is unusual for people to change like that overnight.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

Shoxfordian · 28/03/2020 06:11

He really doesn't seem to care about you at all.
I think you should seriously consider if you want to stay married to such a knob

adaline · 28/03/2020 06:44

stop spouting bollocks, will you. All the OP needs on top of her problems are tin foil hat wearing muppets spreading hoaxes.

@eeriesilence it's absolutely not bollocks. The NHS advises paracetamol only if you have any symptoms of COVID-19.

Maybe you should read the latest advice before "spouting bollocks" Hmm

NemophilistRebel · 28/03/2020 06:58

Agree paracetamol only

Why anyone would risk ibuprofen at this time I have no idea

The fact that ibuprofen has never been allowed to be taken by people who have asthma or breathing difficulties should be enough of a clue that it’s potentially dangerous with a new disease that affects breathing

ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt · 28/03/2020 07:14

He’s a massive prick and abusive one at that by the sounds of it. I think the current situation is going to show some people exactly what type of relationships they are in and that they deserve better.

Unfortunately, I think at this point if your kids are going to get it, they will, whether you stay away from them or not.

Theredjellybean · 28/03/2020 07:21

Ibuprofen
There is currently no strong evidence that ibuprofen can make coronavirus (COVID-19) worse.

But until we have more information, take paracetamol to treat the symptoms of coronavirus, unless your doctor has told you paracetamol is not suitable for you.

If you are already taking ibuprofen or another non-steroidal anti-inflammatory (NSAID) on the advice of a doctor, do not stop taking it without checking first.

That is off the NHS website this morning.
So ibuprofen will not make you die if you have covid 19.
Others are being overly dramatic.

Allthebestusernameshavegone · 28/03/2020 07:22

Tell him if he leaves the house, you’ll report him to his employers and to the police.
What an awful man! My daughter has a cough and a temp. I don’t think she has Covid 19 as we haven’t been out of the house since last wed so can’t see where she would have caught it from. She’s also not unwell, but as a precaution we are isolating for the next 14 days

Theredjellybean · 28/03/2020 07:23

@NemophilistRebel

That is not true about ibuprofen and asthmatics.
A small percentage of asthmatics have a reaction to ibuprofen, not all of then.

Saddler · 28/03/2020 07:23

Indescribable what a prick he is

NemophilistRebel · 28/03/2020 07:24

Yes but any asthmatic is told to not ever take it in case of reaction

Why would anyone risk this when we are trying to limit strain on nhs?!

Please can people be sensible

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