Is he a prick or isn’t he

[Happymummy8888]

I have possible Covid 19 it’s been shit but a mild form it seems. My Dh will not self isolate. He reluctantly left work when my temp was 39.5 huffed and puffed the next day as I was told to keep myself away from other family members- that only last until 1130 as he was so rude and snappy with me. The second night I woke could barely breathe and a 39.5 fever again rang him at 4am as he slept in another room with the baby and when he came in he snapped at me again saying I wasn’t taking enough paracetamol (I’d had 10!!)

Anyway today I feel ok but happened to say to him that I felt he should have done more I still had to make dinners and tidy up and bath the kids. He went mad said that I was a hypochondria and can’t see other people being sick I have to make it about me. He seen how bad I was- I also spoke to my brother who is a gp and he is convinced I have it. He said dh shouldn’t be going to work on Monday but he is. I am mortified when I told him he shouldn’t he went mad again and said I shouldn’t have told anyone my symptoms. How uncaring is he? I feel like he would treat a dog better than me. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill here I am so hurt

He's a prick and you need to be careful.
While I have had this twice now I have felt great.. as though I've recovered, and each time it's hit me harder. I have read this with others as well that it hits you in 3 phases. Each time you get better, you then suddenly get worse.
So please stay careful and don't tire yourself out too much. 39 degree fever is not a "mild" case!

He should stay at home, as much as I'd want to get him as far away as possible if I were you. He really should not be working. If anyone you live with has any c19 symptoms you stay home. He's being really irresponsible. The way he's treating you is also shocking. Get well soon.

Is there something else going on with him ?

Sometimes people deflect, ignore, minimise or get angry about what's happening because they are scared or hiding something.

Is it possible he's pretending you're faking it , haven't got it because he either can't face his fears about it or has been hiding something from you.

Do you think he may be in a lot of debt that he's hidden from you. If he self isolates his wages will drop and this could cause problems.

Is there a problem in work that he's worried he'll loose his job.

Is he disproportionately scared about covid and is disassociating from it.

It's very very wrong what he's doing but it's also not normal to change personality so quickly.

Wow he’s acting like he hates you.
Yeah he’s probably stressed but so is everyone else in this country. Not an excuse to neglect his own kids and treat you with contempt when you are really ill.
And then to insist he is going into work which will spread the virus further?!

Just not a nice person at all.

Get your brother to talk to him and also call his work. He's being an irresponsible prick.

Aside from anything else, even if it was flu he needs to stay and look after your children as you aren't up to it.

@Happymummy8888 be very careful with paracetamol... depending on the time frame in which you took 10! You could have overdosed yourself.

There is a valid debate about bringing temp down as the fever is the body in action actually fighting the virus off.

See John Campbell on YouTube. I’ll look for a link for you.

Can’t link as use YouTube via app.

Look for Reducing fever - Good or bad?

Reducing fever 2.

Both posted about a week ago.

John Campbell is a nurse practitioner (retired I think) who posts daily corona virus updates. Factual & useful.

Yep. He's a prick.

I'd also be calling his boss and advising them that DH is flouting the rules and potentially infecting the rest of the office. Fuck him, it needs to be done, he's willingly putting lives at risk.

Not only is he a selfish prick (I’d divorce him at the first available opportunity) refusing to isolate under these circumstances is tantamount to murder at this point.

People have been charged and jailed for similar. The guy who licked those toiletries in that grocery store was charged with terrorism.

Get onto the NHS111 website, and go through the symptom thing there. There will be "what-to-do" bit for self-isolating. It will clearly say on there that everyone in the household has to self isolate for 14 days. You can even get a Self-Isolation Note that says that others in the household have to self-isolate for 14 days because they live with someone who has the symptoms. Show it to him. He can use that for showing to work.

I'm self-isolating for 14days because my daughter (6yr old) had a new onset cough that happened last week on Friday. Assuming I/my son (13yr old) don't get symptoms, and all is clear, we can come out of self-isolation on Friday morning. Then I will have to go back to my (acute medical/HDU) ward at hospital to work (nurse and single parent here!). Hope you feel better soon x

Yep a prick.
I can't believe he left his baby to cry and cry until you got up to her.
I also can't believe he has just changed overnight but more probably you always did everything and never questioned his actions.

I have a friend in a very similar situation with her selfish prick of an h.

I don't think I can ever speak to him again, it will be hard as our lives are intertwined.I hope she divorces him.

Wishing you lots of strength and hope you feel better soon, feel very sorry for you x

Can you kick him out? Is there anywhere he could go?

Be safe OP. He’s a prick. Now you see him for what he is. I had an ex like that. Didn’t believe I was I’ll. even when I had the same thing as his mum he was running up to look after her (her husband his dad was already doing that) and left me alone. I left him. 100% happier without him.

I hope you feel better soon OP.

Call his work. he's a nasty bastard. If he gets it, don't help him at all. Once you are better start researching divorce and how to prepare for it. He's being abusive to you and neglecting his kids.

We've been self-isolating for the last 14 days (allowed out tomorrow!) because DS developed a new cough. It probably wasn't Corona as it came after a week of snotty nose. But the rules are very clear, so we stayed in.

He's a prick.

Could he be having an affair with someone in work? It would make sense that he is suddenly being a dick if his affair has been interrupted. Also, why he's so keen to get back... or is he even going to work? He could he be meeting someone somewhere else. Just a thought but either way he has treated you appallingly 💐

Hi all sorry had a very busy morning with the kids and the in-line shop came yay. He went out to the garage this morning and bought me home a cough syrup medicine. He then told me me and the kids had to self isolate (which we have been doing anyway) I asked about him and he said ‘why should I be punished for your hypochondria’ I said to him did I have a fever...yes did I have a sore throat...yes do I have a cough...yes so how am I a hypochondriacs and then he started saying that I need to make everything about me. I am so done I’m too exhausted for him today and the 6 year old seems like he is going to be a handful today as he’s so bored. I will speak to him again about work later- affair yea I wouldn’t be shocked tbh

He's a prick. He shouldn't have gone to the garage. It's people like him that will be responsible for many avoidable deaths. I'm sorry that you're stuck with him during this period.

So he's now risked the health of those in the garage. FFS. At this point I'd go nuclear and she him on social media...

I'd be ringing 101 to report him, he is knowly spreading a virus that can and will kill people, its unbelievably irresponsible of him. I too was thinking maybe an affair, sorry OP.

Nope he’d be out on his arse, if he does go to work, personally I’d phone the police/employer advise you believed you’ve had CV however your partner refuses to self isolate and is now working spreading the virus.

My marriage for me would be over, i now couldn’t care what this arsehole did, he’s putting the public and vulnerable at risk.

He’s a complete and utter dick. Please do make sure his work find out he should be self isolating; he could kill someone. I hope you feel better soon op

I'd be telling him to leave now. Fuck it he's not self isolating anyway.
This is abuse op.