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I didn't do anything wrong....did I?

593 replies

Funkyslippers · 26/03/2020 16:40

DD desperate to see her friend who lives a few streets away. She made brownies and we dropped them on her doorstep, went back onto the pavement around 12 feet away, DD called her and she came to the door, took the brownies and said thank you.

They then call each other while we're walking home (social distancing all the way but not many people around) and her older sister shouts in the background "her mum let her do that? That was stupid!!!" meaning we shouldn't have brough the brownies round to her house. I couldn't see anything wrong with it. I mean, the postman delivers mail to houses each day. Am I missing something? Or is she worried about eating contaminated food - we washed our hands thoroughly during the process.

OP posts:
silversquid · 29/03/2020 10:20

Would some of those who think the OP did nothing wrong please answer this.

If you had tested positive for coronavirus but weren't displaying symptoms would you be delivering brownies to the neighbours?

Would you accept brownies from someone who told you they had just tested positive but weren't displaying any symptoms?

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 10:38

silver stop trying to be reasonable. It is not welcomed here. People prefer to have a go at you and refer to you as the ‘joy police ‘ than listen to well reasoned arguments.

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 10:41

Your whole argument is based on the fact that we don't know what we're dealing with

Exactly - so to err on the side of caution is a sensible approach IMO.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:43

If you had tested positive for coronavirus but weren't displaying symptoms would you be delivering brownies to the neighbours?

Well no, because if you have symptoms you aren't allowed out at all.

Answer me this - in theory, even if I HAD coronavirus without symptoms and baked someone brownies, if I was washing my hands continually and did not sneeze or cough over them, how would they be a path to infection?

Strongmummy · 29/03/2020 10:43

It’s fine OP. It was part of your daily exercise. Plus food is absolutely NOT the main way to transmit corona. Unless you spat on, coughed on or sneezed on the food it’s fine.

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 10:45

Pishposh she said if you WEREN’T displaying symptoms.

So answer the question - if you knew you had CV but weren’t showing any symptoms... would you still deliver brownies and letters etc to your mates? Or would you keep away, just in case?

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:49

No of course I wouldn't go out if I had diagnosed CV because YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO.

You ARE allowed, if you have no symptoms AND no diagnosis, to deliver food to friends and relatives while maintaining social distancing. And you are still allowed to post letters.

My local baker is running a cake by post service, and I have just ordered a box of her brownies Smile

Strongmummy · 29/03/2020 10:51

@ethelfleda if you knew you had corona you wouldn’t leave your house. If you aren’t showing symptoms you don’t know you have corona. Therefore you are allowed to follow the governments guidelines which includes a daily walk

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 10:53

pish

You still aren’t getting this.
You’re unlikely to be tested for CV unless, god forbid, you end up in hospital.
So you could theoretically be infected right now and you won’t know until you display symptoms. None of us knows because we aren’t all being tested.

The point is - if you were positive for CV right now, despite not displaying symptoms, you would not go out unnecessarily. Well, you could well have it for all you know. So be more sensible.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:53

I feel like this pandemic has caused people to take total leave of their senses. None of the actual front line doctors I know IRL are doing things like quarantining their post and bathing their shopping. My BIL took in a home made cakes for his colleagues the other day. Loads of photos on social media of them all enjoying it.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:53

Ethelfleda

I get it completely. I think it is you who doesn't.

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 10:54

@ethelfleda if you knew you had corona you wouldn’t leave your house. If you aren’t showing symptoms you don’t know you have corona. Therefore you are allowed to follow the governments guidelines which includes a daily walk

Yes a walk. Not a walk and dropping presents to friends. The actual walking part is what you’re allowed to do - one foot in front of the other etc etc
Dropping presents off to mates isn’t exercise. You can’t say something is fine because you’re doing on your daily walk!

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:54

you would not go out unnecessarily

The OP did not go out unnecessarily. She went out for her necessary daily exercise.

HelenaHyena · 29/03/2020 10:55

Oh ffs. I see plenty of elderly people standing at the gate of someone's property, talking to somebody sitting in the house doorway.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:56

HelenaHyena

Hope you sprayed bleach on them and then set fire to them and then called the police.

MarginalGain · 29/03/2020 10:56

Ethfedra we get it. You don't because you've lost all sense of proportion.

How do you generally cope, out of curiosity, with all the preventable disease and death that surrounds us on a daily basis?

Strongmummy · 29/03/2020 10:56

@Ethelfleda I really strongly recommend you watch a video by Dr Fauci about how corona is transmitted.

Please also remind yourself of government guidelines. The OP did nothing wrong according to those guidelines

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 10:56

It really isn’t pish you really do not understand. It is evident from every single one of your posts that you’re unable to grasp the concept of infection transmission and avoiding unnecessary risk.
Neither I, nor anyone else on here can explain it to you any more plainly than we have. So there is no point in continuing.
Good luck and stay safe.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:57

No, Ethel, I really do. I have listened to the medical professionals amongst my family and my friends, and I value their opinions over some random poster on mumsnet. HTH.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 10:58

MarginalGain thanks for trying!

MarginalGain · 29/03/2020 10:59

Hope you sprayed bleach on them and then set fire to them and then called the police.

Grin
MarginalGain · 29/03/2020 10:59

Pishposh we're on our own, the country has gone mad.

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 11:02

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/science-environment-52040138

Have a read of this.

”The risk of packaging contamination can be minimised, Prof Bloomfield advises, by "emptying the contents [into a clean dish], disposing of the packaging into a refuse bag and washing your hands thoroughly before you eat".

"Take food out of a container with a spoon and eat it with a knife and fork - not your fingers."

So this is an expert on virology stating that there is a risk of contamination on food packaging. Right there. So why would you hand food packing over to someone when it isn’t necessary?

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 11:02

No, Ethel, I really do. I have listened to the medical professionals amongst my family and my friends, and I value their opinions over some random poster on mumsnet. HTH

Your incessant mention of the fact that you happen to know a doctor or two really doesn’t convince me.

Ethelfleda · 29/03/2020 11:04

Good luck to all when Boris brings in even harsher lockdown measures because some of you just couldn’t help yourselves. No more leaving the house for any of us soon. Can’t wait.