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I didn't do anything wrong....did I?

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Funkyslippers · 26/03/2020 16:40

DD desperate to see her friend who lives a few streets away. She made brownies and we dropped them on her doorstep, went back onto the pavement around 12 feet away, DD called her and she came to the door, took the brownies and said thank you.

They then call each other while we're walking home (social distancing all the way but not many people around) and her older sister shouts in the background "her mum let her do that? That was stupid!!!" meaning we shouldn't have brough the brownies round to her house. I couldn't see anything wrong with it. I mean, the postman delivers mail to houses each day. Am I missing something? Or is she worried about eating contaminated food - we washed our hands thoroughly during the process.

OP posts:
WeAllHaveWings · 26/03/2020 21:24

Eck. You are right they should have specifically added to the list dont deliver homemade brownies to your dds friends. 🙄

WeAllHaveWings · 26/03/2020 21:26

Dont need to Earring. I am not special, so I am following the rules to protect lives.

Furries · 26/03/2020 21:30

Just an idea, as can imagine a lot of people on here have kids who are missing their friends/want to do something nice etc etc etc.

How about something online for them to do together. Set up FaceTime so that kids on two households can bake together and have a giggle whilst doing it? Seen something called Zoom mentioned, though haven’t looked into how that works.

Find innovative ways for your kids to interact with friends without having to drop stuff off.

Just an idea from someone who doesn’t have kids and is trying to understand how hard this must be for parents and children.

Be inventive, think outside the box (sorry, hate that phrase!) and please, let’s all try to be understanding.

EarringsandLipstick · 26/03/2020 21:30

Grand Wings but how about you stop insulting people in the meantime?

cantata · 26/03/2020 21:33

I'll second that, Earrings.

Eckhart · 26/03/2020 21:34

Wea I was asking a question. Let me try again. Which rule did op break?

If you can't answer that question in favour of your argument, you are implicating that we should all make up our own rules, based around the guidelines.

And if that's the case, let people make up their own rules. You don't get to be the authority, when you feel that the government hasn't been clear enough. This isn't about you, and what you deem the rules to be.

Eckhart · 26/03/2020 21:35

I'll third that, earrings

myidentitymycrisis · 26/03/2020 21:37

There’s a video on BBC news about a man social isolating 300 yards from his home in a tent. His elderly mum brings him soup at lunchtime (safely) and they film and condone it

Saddler · 26/03/2020 21:38

Stay at home. Are you a bit slow?

ChillinInMyBacta · 26/03/2020 21:41

I think you really wanted a feel good moment, but it just boils down to an unnecessary delivery of treats. Not "run you out of town awful", just a bit self-indulgent. I would have binned them anyway, because I would not have 100% faith in your, or anyone's food preparation hygiene that I could not witness myself.

WeAllHaveWings · 26/03/2020 21:41

I hope for all of us, for our nurses, our drs, our own families and friends there are enough good people complying with the rules as requested to make up for the special people who are taking completely unnecessary risks.

I raise a glass to all that are 🍷

Mothership4two · 26/03/2020 21:42

There's NO problem with this. Virus can only be transmitted via close contact (less than 2ft) of 15 minutes that involves touching your face - mouth, eyes, nose

As I have already said: One cough can produce 3,000 miniscule droplets that can last in the air for up to 3 hours. So these droplets could potentially land on food/brownies and wrappers/containers. And no way OP can 100% guarantee that her child was totally hygienic (unless she had her under surveillance for the whole time!).

Also (as I have already said as well), there has not been a study for ingesting the virus (as far as I know), but if you can transfer it by touching your face, it stands to reason, that putting it in your mouth is not a good idea.

WHO has said they are "assessing ongoing research on the ways COVID-19 is spread and will continue to share new findings"

ACertainSupermarket · 26/03/2020 21:45

Honest intentions but not worth the risk.

Eckhart · 26/03/2020 21:48

@WeAllHaveWings

Wondering if you could answer my question? You seem to have overlooked it. It's vital regarding people blaring on ahead, telling people what to do, and what not to do, in this discussion. You could educate people, here. Don't you think you should? My question again:

I was asking a question. Let me try again. Which rule did op break?

If you can't answer that question in favour of your argument, you are implicating that we should all make up our own rules, based around the guidelines.

And if that's the case, let people make up their own rules. You don't get to be the authority, when you feel that the government hasn't been clear enough. This isn't about you, and what you deem the rules to be.

ACertainSupermarket · 26/03/2020 21:51

There's NO problem with this. Virus can only be transmitted via close contact (less than 2ft) of 15 minutes that involves touching your face - mouth, eyes, nose

That cannot be the only way. The thousands of people who have tested positive have not all knowingly spent 15 minutes with an infected person. Most people have no idea where or when they contracted it.
So, either more people than we know are positive and unknowing carriers, or the virus is more easily transmitted by touch (door handles etc) than we are aware of.

In either case, no cooking for other households!
And I am very far from a tin-hatter, but I am washing my shopping - tins, jars and bottles, shiny packets, things like lemons and avocados.

Cunninglittlevixen · 26/03/2020 21:51

It does seem a bit of an unnecessary risk

Mothership4two · 26/03/2020 21:52

There’s a video on BBC news about a man social isolating 300 yards from his home in a tent. His elderly mum brings him soup at lunchtime (safely) and they film and condone it

Presumably because otherwise he would starve? I'll take a wild guess that elderly mum is also self isolating and so would be low risk.

Eckhart · 26/03/2020 21:55

@mothership4two

Wild guessing. You're openly basing your virus transmission information on this.

FuckOffCorona · 26/03/2020 21:56

It was fine. You’re allowed out for fresh air and exercise and if that involves dropping off some brownies on the way that’s ok. Ignore the hysterics, they’re tedious beyond words.

pippong · 26/03/2020 21:58

Come on, nobody is really leaving the house for good reason.

EarringsandLipstick · 26/03/2020 21:59

Supermarket

I think maybe you misunderstood my post

So, either more people than we know are positive and unknowing carriers, or the virus is more easily transmitted by touch (door handles etc) than we are aware of.

It's both these things. Absolutely.

What it is not is someone walking down the street, appropriately social distancing, somehow passing it through the air to a random person who'll happen along nor is there a risk posed through cooked food.

I was replying to someone who indicated there was.

TemoraryUsername · 26/03/2020 22:06

If the family fall ill in 2 weeks time, you're always going to be guessing and blaming yourself.

If any of your family fall ill soon, you're always going to be guessing.

One thing we know for certain is that the virus is very highly contagious.

Epidemiologists are still working out the details.

Brownies baked in a home environment, no matter how clean, are not the same as brownies made in a factory environment.

A child was given a gift that was a bit iffy - their parents weren't informed beforehand so they could make an informed choice. The child picked up the tin, and could well have opened it and got eating without any handwashing before the parent was aware.

It was done with good intentions, but wasn't a good idea.

Runmybathforme · 26/03/2020 22:07

So, they walked round to someone’s house , left the brownies on the doorstep and left, without being near anyone. I can’t see what they did wrong. Please explain how the virus could possibly be transmitted ? How is this different from just going for a walk as part of daily exercise ?

WeAllHaveWings · 26/03/2020 22:09

Eck sorry, just so you are clear if it isn't already obvious. I am purposely ignoring your question which you know is ridiculous one.

I already know your mind set and the reply you are itching to write so there is absolutely no point.

Pishposhpashy · 26/03/2020 22:18

Brownies baked in a home environment, no matter how clean, are not the same as brownies made in a factory environment.

too right, factory brownies are vile.