Incredibly selfish son!

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Hi,

I really don’t know where to start, please bare with me.

1. DS18 is refusing to self-isolate, in his own words he doesn't understand why there is so much commotion and uproar regarding the coronavirus and he needs to go out and carry on as normal because it is going to have an huge impact on his mental health.

1. A few days ago, I received a phone call from his girlfriend (very lovely girl, beautiful inside and out) who was in distress (crying) he has been cheating on her, I am disgusted with him. I have confronted him, he has said that doesn't know why he ”does” it and he doesn't have no particular justification and that he doesn't want to speak any further on the matter. This morning I received a phone call from her mother informing me that DS has given her an STI, DS is claiming that it is a lie she is trying to gain his attention.

1. DS10 suffers from Aspergers and anxiety, his anxiety is very bad at the moment, he believes that DS18 is going to catch coronavirus and die.

AIBU for wanting to leave the house and go and stay with his father?

And yes he has now gone. Probably lost him again for a few months."

Boo bloody hoo. He is a grown ass MAN. No wonder so many boys grow up to be twats. This thread an great example, she treats her adult son as a simpering little boy.

He has also been taking advantage of desperate people by selling hand sanitizer at an increase price. You must be SO proud of your little prince!

Hi

Feeling a lot better today, excuse my random comment yesterday, I had a bit too much to drink.

DS10 is more settled and a lot happier today.

I'm glad he's gone. Think about it positively, about what you and DS10 have gained rather than what you've lost.

DS10 is more settled and a lot happier today.

great to hear OP...

DS10 is more settled and a lot happier...

Thats what you need to make it to a poster for your home. Your adult son is selfish and makes life unsettled and unhappy for your vulnerable child.

Accept nothing less than him being a valuable contributor to your home, or he stays where he is.

Is he due to start uni this september?

@CalleighDoodle

No he isn’t due to start uni, he is self employed luckily what is happening in the world right now isn’t affecting his work.

He called me this morning asking to come home, apparently he is bored, everyone is in self isolation and his dad isn’t in the house.

I told him that’s not my business and should have followed my house rules.

I will not give in to him this time, he has been taking advantage out of me and my kind nature for years.

You are right OP, well done in staying strong. Your other dc will thank you for it. It’s the right thing to do. He is safe where he is and his boredom would be relieved by terrorising his siblings! Which you have decided is not an option. Nae luck if he’s bored. We are all bored. When we arent working or working from home of course.

And in a few weeks time or whenever he’s back staying with you, it would be good to send him straight round to his dads for a prolonged period of time the next time he kicks off. So he realises he has to toe the line in your house or face the consequences. Dads house will be more of a punishment than a treat! Result!