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PrincessHoneysuckle · 25/03/2020 10:42

Not so many cf posts nowadays what with Corona.
Ill start:

A few years ago I came home from work to find my garden full of workmen and a fallen tree.Cf ndn had cut her tree down into my garden without asking/giving me the heads up and my garden looked like an episode of Groundforce Hmm I realised it had snapped my washing line too.

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QuayboardWarrior · 15/04/2020 21:45

Ha ha! Yeah. She had an idea in her head how the big fancy wedding was going to be (aka all about her and DH's family, not even DH himself!) but we/my parents should be paying. I'm not much of a wallflower so have always happily stood up to her. She's a trying woman but we have an okay relationship. I don't stand for shit and she just gets on with it when I don't back down.

I visit regularly with the kids and even take her for her shopping every few days. The wedding shit was stamped out pretty quickly. DH backed me up all the way. It was a very simple, "No we are NOT doing that!. End of story". She didn't really have a choice. We've been in each other's lives for 16 years now and will be in each other's lives for many many more so going NC would be a very last resort.

QuayboardWarrior · 15/04/2020 21:46

The the wedding stress nearly drove me over the edge I will admit. I was glad to get it all over with in the end. DH and I had been together 10 years by then.

IchWill · 16/04/2020 19:24

Great story @Ratonastick. Love it.

That woman sounds vile. Glad she got the smile wiped off her face. I'm surprised the airline hasn't banned her if this is usual and regular behaviour.

couchlover · 17/04/2020 09:44

Not sure mine is a cf story so much as karma but the burglar neighbours reminded me of it.

At uni I lived in a ground floor flat. In the first term there were two girls living above us who were really noisy so that I couldn't hear my TV while they got ready to go out then would wake me up when they got in from clubbing usually with mates to party for a few hours. I did ask them to keep it down a number of times but they would just turn their music up louder.

Anyway, that first Christmas I had come home before the end of the holidays as I had work. One evening after working all day I was in the bath and there was load of banging in the flat above and lots of clattering and walking across the flat repeatedly disturbing my peaceful soak. I just rolled my eyes and tried to enjoy as best I could.

A couple if days later they came to ask me if I had heard any noise in the last few days. Turned out they had been burgled and thats what I had heard. I gave them a pretty much exact time that it happened and told them I had thought it was them as they had been such noisy neighbours It didn't sound much different to the racket they make partying so I hadn't thought much about it.

They moved out not long after.

Likethebattle · 17/04/2020 21:37

Bumping as I love CF threads

Jimdandy · 29/06/2020 17:22

Bumping anymore?

WitchesGlove · 30/06/2020 20:38

@Jimdandy

I have a couple of minor ones and they’re from friends.

One friend was getting married and didn’t want to pay for it. Wanted to do everything on the cheap. Kept dropping hints about “giving a friend a £100 to do a buffet” as her soon to be husband wanted her to do it herself. When none of us volunteered to do her wedding buffet they decided they weren’t having a doo, as they just wanted to pay someone £50 with all the kit to do the music and DJs were too expensive.

So anyway, fair enough they are not having a doo and we were invited to actual ceremony. They still put a twee poem in about receiving cash gifts! I know you don’t give money to get a “free” wedding breakfast but I just thought it was the height of CFness not to even give your guests a cup of tea and then put a poem in asking for cash!!

Another friend, we used to meet up a group of 10 of us and all bring stuff and have a buffet. She always buried hers in the corner or under the table so it never got ate and then took it home again.

Has this friend always been really tight with money?
WitchesGlove · 30/06/2020 20:39

@QuayboardWarrior

Okay here's another. Not CFery but theft but thieves are CFers, too, right?

Busy village playgroup a few times a week. Started going when DD was a baby. Eventually the ladies who ran it moved on leaving it in the hands of another mum. Let's call her Betty. After a while Betty started asking me occasionally in the morning to sort the group that day because of whatever reason she had at the time. Okay, fine. I'd buy the snacks, open up and do the sign in book and take the cash and drop it in to her. It got to the point where she was never there and I was running it. No problem, the group was pretty informal and passing it on to the next mum was how the group continued.

One day she popped in and said she needed to pay the hall rent and swiped a handful out of the takings. Except I noticed she didn't actually count it.

Speaking to the old group leaders I found out there was £1000's in the account from a grant and fundraisers they'd had and they were surprised she hadn't bought the new play equipment it was intended for.

Betty kept announcing in the playgroup that she wanted someone to take over but no one was offering except me but she kept saying I'd "done enough. It not fair on me. Make someone else take their turn!" Turns out it was likely because she was aware I knew there was a bank account. She left eventually and handed a bag with about £50 or so in it. No sign in books nor receipts I'd diligently kept and given to her each session. We got the (long gone) second signatory of the account to go and get the statements. Betty has cleared the bank account by forging the 2nd signatory's signature. Police were useless because we couldn't prove that the other signatory hadn't signed the cheques made out to cash despite her saying it was clearly forged. Looking at the statements you could clearly see the timeline of withdrawals matched her Facebook.

"Taking hubby out for dinner!" = £150 cheque made out to cash that day.

"Sandra's Hen do! Woooooo! Newcastle here we come!" = £200 withdrawal.

She got away with it all because she claimed she never kept the receipts or the sign in sheets. There was no proof of income despite there being 20+ attendees each session paying £1.50 each and we couldn't prove she didn't pay £100's a week on the group snacks (a loaf of bread, the occasional margarine tub, milk and maybe a bunch of bananas.)

Surely that’s fraud?!
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