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I haven’t showered in a week...

239 replies

PinkOnWednesday · 22/03/2020 18:16

Is anyone else struggling to see the point when we aren’t going anywhere? Tried going for a walk but I still just put comfies on. Am I grim?

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somegoodnewsforonce · 22/03/2020 18:59

That's really very unusual and would point towards mental illness to me.

Even with a broken ankle & leg I had a full shower every second day and a sink wash on the other day.

FlyingPandas · 22/03/2020 18:59

OP it is even more essential than usual that you maintain a basic level of hygiene in these circumstances. Whether you are leaving the house or not makes no difference.

You will almost certainly feel better for having a shower, changing your clothes, combing your hair, putting on a bit of moisturiser etc. I did this daily even in the exhausting post-natal period for each of my three babies because if I didn't I just felt so rank and could feel myself sliding into depressive thoughts. Different situation at the moment, obviously, but the basic principle is the same.

Not showering for a week is a poor enough level of self care that would ring alarm bells in terms of your mental health. Take care of yourself and please get help if you need to.

Luunaa · 22/03/2020 19:00

OP, I shower every other day and I know it's not enough (I do have depression and other mental health disorders). I get a bit whiny under boobs, belly button etc. So please consider having a shower more regularly.

You need good routine. We're isolating for 12 weeks but I'm still getting up and getting dressed and doing my hair and make up, mainly because I don't want to get out of the routine but also because I feel better when I'm not being a slob.

Good luck.

AccidentsAhoy · 22/03/2020 19:00

People are so horrible on here.

Wannabangbang · 22/03/2020 19:00

Baths and showers are a bit of normality and it will make you feel a bit better. Nows the time for more self care, not less. Go and have a hot shower and pamper yourself a bit. Paint your nails, put on some music. Try adding a bit of normal to your day it really helps i promise x

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 22/03/2020 19:01

The regular handwashing is to keep the area of skin that most frequently touches other things/people clean - but it does apply to your whole body. Even if you AND all of your flatmates are self isolating, not going out or receiving visitors, in a multi occupancy household its probably a lot healthier to keep clean.

DisgruntledGuineaPig · 22/03/2020 19:02

OP - have a shower, you don't need to style your hair, do make up or put on smart clothes, but it's good for your health to keep clean.

anyoneforbingo · 22/03/2020 19:02

If you come down ill and doctors and nurses have to deal with you.. you're making a tough job that little bit more unpleasant for them. Have a wash.

Funkytowns · 22/03/2020 19:02

I’m still putting on makeup and nice clothes every day to make myself feel better. We are still getting up at 7am and and going to bed at 11pm. You need to keep a routine OP.

ChelseaCat · 22/03/2020 19:03

I know what you mean OP but I think psychologically it’s much better to get up, showered and dressed, even if you are just sitting on your bum all day. Honestly, I think you’ll feel better for making the effort

nicky7654 · 22/03/2020 19:03

Omg that's disgusting. Even if you can't be asked to shower at least wash your armpits and between your legs!!! Do you even clean your teeth?????

IAmFleshIAmBone · 22/03/2020 19:05

I think some people are not realising or considering the impact that self isolation and social distancing plus being off work could be having on others' mental health. No need to make the OP feel worse Confused making someone feel shitty is not going to help them to help themselves.

sqirrelfriends · 22/03/2020 19:06

That is a bit grim, a shower will really help your mental state.

Even when I feel like I'm on my deathbed I have to shower, I hate feeling dirty.

PieceOfMaria · 22/03/2020 19:08

Seriously? You don’t shower for a whole week just because you aren’t seeing anyone?

That tells me you probably only shower twice a week when you are.

viques · 22/03/2020 19:09

Hells Bells OP, on the off chance I might be rushed into (rushed being a relative term) A and E at any time I am making sure I am well washed with sparkling clean underwear top and bottom everyday. I'm not having overworked HCP s judging me thankyou very much.

Tosses hair, sucks in stomach and sashays away (OK more Dick Emery than Rupal but you get the picture)

SarahInAccounts · 22/03/2020 19:11

8 days and no bra. Bliss.

Hair allowed to be its curly self.

I'm enjoying that aspect.

OhNoOhNoOhNo · 22/03/2020 19:12

I love getting a wash, I don't do it for other people's benefit I do it for mine! I feel 1000% better.

Get a wash OP, why don't you try having a soak in the bath? That feels more like an indulgence than a chore.

Kalifa · 22/03/2020 19:12

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OhNoOhNoOhNo · 22/03/2020 19:12

Agree on the no bra front though. It's 👌

I'm dreading having to go back to work and wear one again when this is all over.

Sammymommy · 22/03/2020 19:14

If you can't smell yourself, you might have the coronavirus ;)

On a more serious note, it is a mental health crisis as much as a health crisis we are going through, Take care of yourself as much as you can. Habits and showers can help a lot ;) . You'll get out again

Runmybathforme · 22/03/2020 19:15

That’s vile. Do you suffer with depression ? If not, sort yourself out.

justasking111 · 22/03/2020 19:16

Sticking to routine, up, breakfast, shower make up, dressed. I did think the other day why bother with make up, but then thought no stick with it.

Advice the other day if you are at home with the kids is to get them up and dressed, breakfast, lunch, tea, bath, bed routine as well.

So structure is important.

Jolonglegs · 22/03/2020 19:16

A shower for me helps perks me up. Lovely hot water and shower gel, and then nice clean clothes. How can you not want that?

Wannabangbang · 22/03/2020 19:16

I think people are being really vile to op actually. I offered some advice but others on here tearing strips at her. Be kind you bunch of witches

cavabiensepasser · 22/03/2020 19:18

I'm embracing cute tracksuits, but hair is done (messy tousled bun and one of them hairbands that look like a wrap thingy), makeup is on, perfume is on. Skin moisturised. Fake tan done. Nails done.

Showering daily is an absolute must, I can imagine I'd slip into a deep state of depression if I let myself go now.

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