To be upset that DH has done nothing for Mother’s Day?

[YakkityYakYakYak]

DD is 9 months old so this is my first Mother’s Day. I know we all have bigger things to worry about at the moment but I can’t help feeling hurt that DH has made zero effort; he hasn’t even wished me happy mothers day.

I understand him not being able to get out to the shops and wouldn’t want him to go out especially. I don’t want extravagant gifts or anything but just hoped for any kind of gesture to show me I’m appreciated. There are loads of things you can do without leaving the house - order flowers to be delivered, make a card, breakfast in bed, etc.

This year, I’ve organised a card and flowers to be sent to DM but won’t be seeing her for obvious reasons. And last year at 40 weeks pregnant I managed to organise a card and gift for DH. It’s not impossible!

I’ve just told him that in lieu of a gift, he can clean the house and look after DD for the day, and I’ll be lying in the bath relaxing for the next few hours.

YANBU OP.
It's nice to be appreciated and it's the thought that counts.
DH and DS got me a t-shirt with Mama on and a little cuddly Unicorn that DS chose. He brought it up to me on a tray with some crumpets and a glass of juice. I don't care for fancy or expensive gifts but would have been very sad not to get anything from DS, and as DS is 2, it's DHs job to facilitate it. But then we do try to be kind and thoughtful towards each other in general.

I'd be hurt too. I got breakfast in bed and a card from my DH on behalf of our DOG.

Is your DH usually quite thoughtful? If not then I wouldn't expect anything more if he usually isn't.

You need to be direct with him and explain how hurt you are.

Certain posters on Mumsnet almost have a pride in who had got fuck all or has been the least appreciated on mothers day for the longest time.

Yanbu OP. With things the way they are I think it's important to celebrate each other as much as possible. It costs fuck all to show someone you appreciate them. And as your child grows up they'll be brought up appreciating others and enjoying making others feel special.

He did apologise later on in the day and said it’s not how he had wanted the day to go. That's an empty apology. Clearly he did want the day to go that way as he specifically made sure he did nothing for it!

@limpbizkit You're a health care professional? Good grief, I hope not.