To think the holiday home is my only option?

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I live in a different country. I was over here visiting family from the start of March and several cancelled flights/worldwide pandemic later me, my dh and ds(2) can't get home.
My parents are very high risk and don't have enough space for us. On paper my in-laws have enough space on paper but in practice this isn't the case (currently squished in a room filled with storage boxes while dh sleeps on the floor).
No other family can accommodate us BUT my gran has a mostly unused holiday cottage in a tourist hot-spot that she has offered us for the duration and I've accepted. It is literally around the corner from where we were living before we moved abroad 2years ago.
I am now being made to feel guilty by various people because me and my family are 'part of the problem', 'running to our holiday homes and swamping these places', 'overwhelming the medical services' etc.
I'm doubting myself, we can't stay where we are for months, we can't get home, and we are not choosing to be here. We are having to pay astronomical rent and pet care costs in the country we are living in and can't afford to rent somewhere so I really cannot see that we have another option.
Wibu to carry on with our plans despite the naysayers?

I don't know how they're being emptied just that they are! There's a cottage two doors down and people have been told to leave today; lots of yelling and screaming about Welsh fuckers being prejudiced this evening.

All holiday parks are being closed to everyone over the weekend too.

To clairfy GP surgeries closed before the outbreak due to no GPs. I really must go to bed!!

Go with a car jam packed with supplies and self isolate while you're there.

@Becca19962014 how can the OP be sent home? Her country of residence has closed its borders. I’m sure if you know a way for the OP to get home she would love to hear it.

Op Your situation is totally different to the idiots going on holiday right now. Your need accommodation and a family member has offered. If you isolate when you arrive for 14 days you won’t give anyone the virus

Do what you feel is best for you and your family. Take plenty of provisions and self isolate for 14 days.

It's not about not giving anyone the virus, it's about contracting it while there! And there being rural overstretched resources trying to deal with it. You know where the holiday cottage is, what are the resources around it. I imagine s holiday cottage in Brighton has better resources than somewhere rural.

Can you clear boxes out of the place you are staying and make it livable?

You are selfish and part of the problem. Even if you do not get sick you will be taking resources needed by locals. I'm assuming you will be wanting to buy milk and bread and if your two year old gets sick you will want them to see a doctor.

The authorities in tourist places have sent out a clear message to stay away, there have even been people in camper vans swamping the Scottish Highlands. It doesn't matter how you frame it, you are not an exception to the rule.

(Your gran sounds selfish too, taking a house that could be used by locals so she can spend a few weeks a year in it but that's another thread)

Get the storage boxes sorted out so you can both sleep in a bed, and suck it up.

Why did you think travelling at the beginning of March was a good idea?

you are not an exception to the rule.

Spot on. Not least because there is no rule outside of your fertile imagination!

You’re going to an empty house rather than be stuffed, overpopulated, in one house, therefore a drain on that place. Then yes, you should go. Everyone else telling you not to would be doing what you’re doing in this situation. You’re not going on holiday, you’re stuck. If you’re from the country I’m in right now you’d be risking your health and other people here, by coming back as the U.K. seems to have the least rules.

Ok,so assuming you can take your own supplies,milk,bread,etc. I would say go. If you’re not going to be putting pressure on the local community,by taking your own supplies and not panic buying in shops then I certainly would.

It is your only option, you should go.

Gosh people are being mean. You are not leaving a perfectly good place in London to have a better isolation experience in the country - you're leaving an unlivable situation. I would certainly self-isolate for 14 days in the house, even if it means eating pasta for two weeks, that should take care of your conscience about bringing it in. You should try for national delivery places so as not to deplete the local resources and antagonize the locals. You should look into traveling back to your parents' area if you do get sick, so you don't overburden the local resources. With all that said, I think ppl should stop being so mean about you going there. And the person who is saying your gran shouldn't have a holiday house in the first place is getting into a whole different debate. I hope your trip is smooth and your stay is uneventful.

Be kind people what is WRONG with you?!
Yanbu op.
Go. And I hope the locals are kind when you get there.

Yes I would go. But I would be socially distancing and taking enough food for at least a fortnight. By the time you’ve run out of food, people everywhere will also be socially distancing like the queues we have seen on the news at the supermarkets. Stay safe. You are going to need to be vigilant. Scarce medical resources in holiday destinations.

Just go. Fuck them. You have no alternative!

Yes all this be nice, unless you're coming to my little corner of the world, then you can fuck off.

I would go OP.

I’d stay in the cramped conditions for 14 days and then reassess the situation after this period

I don’t understand why you can’t go home? I live in another country. We have also banned visitors from many countries from coming in but it doesn’t apply to returning citizens and residents. I’ve not heard of anywhere stopping their own residents and citizens from returning.

ginger there is no need for such nastiness. I get you are probably frightened but commenting the way you did to a stranger asking for help just isn’t necessary.

BritWifeinUSA They have in the UAE...

I think it is your only option. Do you still have friends in the area?

Of course you should go to the holiday cottage, this is going to last months if not up to a year, you need to make yourself and your child comfortable for the long haul.
Isolate for seven days to be on the safe side, and then practice the same rules as everyone else. No contact with anyone at all locally, shop (protected as much as possible) and home, and thats it.

Do you have the correct immigration status?

Nobody is going to fucking care at the moment. We are all too busy doing other stuff .

Op, I'd go, self isolate and after that just do click and collect or go to the shops as little as possible.

"I am now being made to feel guilty by various people because me and my family are 'part of the problem', 'running to our holiday homes and swamping these places', 'overwhelming the medical services' etc."
We have freedom of movement in this country, you are perfectly entitled to go where you want/need to go.
The selfish ones are those who want you to keep away.
For those who say, "our local hospital will be overwhelmed by the foreign/city invaders", my wife is a nurse and she pointed out that a key principle of the NHS is that everyone will be treated fairly and equally. Resources are shared in the NATIONAL Health Service.

Having said that, as a foreign resident you won't be entitled to automatic treatment.