To go on a lads holiday

[1213dontknow]

Well not really lads. Just me and and a friend who is single.
Im 26 male, been with my girlfriend for a year. I am working away, will be away for 5 weeks and then home for 2,
I want to go on holiday with my friend for 5 days in Europe but girlfriend has said she wouldnt be too happy because we only saw each other for a week last time and with my holiday, it means we'd only see each other for 2 weeks in 2 monthish, so she asked if we could wait until my next rotation for me to go on holiday so we can spend time together.
I said okay but it caused a huge argument about me always talking about holidays with my friend and how when i was home last week, we discussed spending those 2 weeks together and now i've backtracked apparently and talked about going on holiday.
She said she's not sure if we want different things as she feels i'm going away again as soon as im home and i'll just be getting drunk with my mate (he loves to drink and he's single so that's what he loves to do) whereas she said she was excited to spend those 2 weeks together as we only saw each other a week last time.

I feel she's been a bit controlling. She knows i love holidaying and travelling but she seems to start arguments whenever i bring up a holiday. I holidayed with my friend last september for 2 weeks and she was fine with it but now it seems she starts arguments.
Im not going now, i'll book it for the 2 weeks im home after but feel a bit annoyed about the argument

But im not going to springbreak and it's not all sex. It's just a party. She trusted me in Cancun for my last holiday with my friend. Im not going anyway

But rather than focus on the fact i refused to go there she questioned me about my intentions. It's always like she thinks i have an altenrative agenda

So you want to go on holidays with one friend, who is single, and wants to get hammered and look for women the whole holiday? Yeah I can see why she's pissed off.

When we were in Cancun, he was drinking all the time and taking girls back and every night out i would phone her or video call her because i wasnt interested,ive never cheated

I'm trying to explain why she was annoyed with the idea of it. It's not necessarily about not trusting you.

I'm sure you haven't 😂

She'll apologise by tomorrow anyway, I could tell by our last phone call she was beginning to see my perspective.
I always admit when im wrong and first to back down but this time i know im not

But ive messaged my mate and we're going away the rotation after. Hes not too happy

And the thing is i brought it up to her on the video call and asked her if i could go away to which she said she wouldnt be too happy and i said it was fine!

YABU though

She just kept going on and on and on about how annoyed she was

She'll apologise by tomorrow anyway,

Ah well as long as she sees sense and knows you are always right 🙄.

I don't for one second believe this is a genuine post, but on the off chance it is, I hope she bins you off ASAP.

You do sound really annoying to be fair.

I dont want her to see sense but i really dont get what ive done wrong
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I asked her if i could go

You sound very young. This relationship doesn't seem to be working. Your gf isn't a priority for you. I'd be upset if my bf told me he was going on holiday, over the limited time we have to spend together, when we had already discussed our plans for those weeks. And to a place he knew I wanted to go to.

Im 26

If I was seeing my boyfriend for 14 days out from 90 I'd be looking for someone else fairly fast. I mean what's the point. This isn't going anywhere really is it. Who'd want to have a future like this where they're only an option.

OP: AIBU?
Everyone: Yes!
OP: No I'm not...

Ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

She sounds like she enjoys the routine, 9-5 and quality time with the bf.
You sound like you want Adventure, to learn about the world and to have someone to share this with.
She isn't that person and she doesn't seem willing to compromise either.

But if this was the other way around and i started an argument over my girlfriend going on holiday, im sure youd all call me controlling

You’re young. You want different things. She’s saying she really wants to spend time with you. I’d be pissed off if my husband went away with the lads in September and was doing it again soon. I’d question where I sit in his list of priorities.

Can’t see this lasting.

She loves holidaying as well but i need to holiday with my friend sometimes.
Shes bitter because im going on holiday with my mate and not her probably

Why don’t you just break up? You don’t seem to like her very much

You sound very immature, why're you in a relationship? She's not being 'controlling' by the way.

Yanbu