To go on a lads holiday

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Well not really lads. Just me and and a friend who is single.
Im 26 male, been with my girlfriend for a year. I am working away, will be away for 5 weeks and then home for 2,
I want to go on holiday with my friend for 5 days in Europe but girlfriend has said she wouldnt be too happy because we only saw each other for a week last time and with my holiday, it means we'd only see each other for 2 weeks in 2 monthish, so she asked if we could wait until my next rotation for me to go on holiday so we can spend time together.
I said okay but it caused a huge argument about me always talking about holidays with my friend and how when i was home last week, we discussed spending those 2 weeks together and now i've backtracked apparently and talked about going on holiday.
She said she's not sure if we want different things as she feels i'm going away again as soon as im home and i'll just be getting drunk with my mate (he loves to drink and he's single so that's what he loves to do) whereas she said she was excited to spend those 2 weeks together as we only saw each other a week last time.

I feel she's been a bit controlling. She knows i love holidaying and travelling but she seems to start arguments whenever i bring up a holiday. I holidayed with my friend last september for 2 weeks and she was fine with it but now it seems she starts arguments.
Im not going now, i'll book it for the 2 weeks im home after but feel a bit annoyed about the argument

But i told her she-s a main priority for me. I do love her but i love holidays with my mate too.

She isn’t controlling and she didn’t start an argument. She expressed an issue, which is what happens in relationships/

I draw the line at someone starting an argument with me because i considered going on holiday

I think your gf is right that you want fldifferent things. Neither of you is right or wrong. However, personally I wouldn’t pursue a long distance relationship with someone who went off on holiday in the short tine we had to spend together. In any case, I don’t think it’s very sensible to plan a mini break to Europe in the next few months given the Coronavirus situation.

In what ways did she “start an argument”?

Telling someone they are a high priority doesn’t make it so. You prefer to go away.

But she expressed that issue by hanging up the video call saying she's getting annoyed so will call me back later. I then messaged her saying i dont get how im the bad guy which started some heated messages.
I think shes bitter

Nothing wrong with absolutely anyone posting on an open internet forum male or female so ignore stupid comments anyone is welcome. I wouldn't think anyone controlling for wanting to spend time with their partner male or female. Your girlfriend probably misses you and is frustrated thatvyou are prioritizing friends over her. But you are entitled to spend time with friends too. I don't think either of you are wrong but I think it is true that you want different things. Maybe you are just at different life stages.

She started an argument because when we called a few hours later she was raising her voice that ive considered going away knowing we spoke about spending it together and that ill be coming home then going away again

But i havent gone away with my friend since september

Controlling and bitter in a few short posts. Dude, you don't care about her very much and you don't sound like you particularly like women, especially those with opinions that differ from yours.

Which means stay single and party with your mates, or find a doormat to date. May I suggest the former?

Maybe she hung up because she'd tried to make her point and you weren't listening? Like your replies to PP on here.

You have different priorities. Unless you see that changing, it’s time to end things.

No she hung up becauuse i said we were thinking of holidaying in a holiday place she wants to go,
She said "That's where i wanted to go on holiday" and then said shes getting irritable snd annoyed

September isn't that long ago. If you already spoke about spending the time you are home together, then changed that, I see why she's annoyed. Plus she's not controlling if she didn't have a problem with you going on the last holiday, she's just annoyed that you said you would spend time with her, then changed your mind. You do want different things.

I can see her point about maybe wanting different things

Plus she told you she wanted to go there, so instead of going with her, you are going with your friend that you have just been on holiday with.

My mate originally wanted to go spring break but i said no because thatd be a longer holiday and i was thinking of her. I told her this and she just questioned why id want to go to spring break because its all sex and drugs. But my friend is single.
Maybe she just doesmt trust me so starts arguments

You obviously both want completely different things from a relationship so you may as well go on the holiday and call it a day with the girlfriend.

And i dont hate women.

What is she bitter about OP, 🤔 you sound about 16.

Bitter because i wouldnt have spent the entire 14 days im home with her

😂 Who said that?

That makes her bitter? Or just pissed off because you told her you would, and now you are going on a holiday she expressed an interest on going on first, with your mate?

But you're NOT single.

He's too old for it now but back in the day I wouldn't have been happy it DH suggested going to a singles-fest. And I trust him completely.