To think this is batshit in the extreme?

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My son is 9 now, me and sister in law were pregnant at the same time although I was due a couple of months before her. She never said it to my face but she was furious that I'd gotten pregnant before she had, it meant that I would give the in laws their first grandchild and she wouldn't. Anyway, as I was nearing my due date she used to say stuff like "If my DD was born now she'd be the eldest instead." (Bearing in mind that she was due two months after me!) On a few occasions she actually said she wished her DD would be born early and she would hint that her consultant said he needed to do an early Csection The babies ended up being born in their intended months, mine being first.

Anyway fast forward a few years and they moved away to the opposite end of the country and we hardly see them anymore. Recently, DN came up for a visit and her and my DS got talking about their birthdays and their ages and who was the oldest etc. They got into an argument because DN was insistent that her birthday was.... three months earlier than it actually is. DN came and asked us when her birthday is (she was at our house at the time) and we told her when it was, her real birthday, we showed her on the calendar. And she refused to believe us, she kept saying "So my mum's been lying to me my whole life about when my birthday is? My birthday is not 'X' but actually 'Y'??" We got her to ask MIL when her birthday was and MIL was like "Errm, it's , why?" And DN just kept saying "So my mum's lied to me this whole time?"

What the hell?! Who does that??

Omg. That is weird as fuck.

wtf? That's the craziest shit I've ever heard. I mean hypothetically, if it was going to make a difference which of them was the "1st" grandchild, surely it would be making the difference to the grand parents, the child isn't really going to be bothered, so what was the point in just lying to the kid? How weird, the poor girl

How very strange.

How have 9 years gone by without anyone realising?

I’d say that’s verging on some kind of mental illness. And I mean that seriously. Like some kind of munchausens syndrome but not with illness.

This makes no sense, it’s not just the mum, everyone would need to collude, inc yourself, as you say it was a few years later they moved away,

Omg why would you do that to a child?

Has the child been receiving birthday cards and gifts 5 months “late” for her entire life? And how did her mother and father explain that. And actually this means her father is in on it too?

I have had something similar withmt sister who makes a big deal that she had her son 3 months before me and that she gave the first granchild it has never ever bothered me at all and i didnt actually realise how much she did it till my brother pointed it out she actually signs cards to my mum and dad saying from your very first granchild.

That makes no sense...school? GP surgery etc?

Surely the school have her actual date of birth and would wish her happy birthday on that date. How has your sil managed to pull off changing her child's date of birth?

Is this real?? If so then defo batshit!

Surely if SIL is that bothered about having the first grandchild, then the grandparents are likely to be involved in the child’s life? In which case how has no one noticed that DNs birthday has been wrong each year? Cards/ gifts/ parties etc when have they been occurring? Doesn’t make sense.

How odd.

did no one ever notice they celebrate in a different month?

So what was happening with DN's birthday celebrations up until now? Were there phone calls on the actual birthday? Cards, presents sent by family to arrive in the month of actual birthday? I wonder if the child was being told all these years that his family does not care and hence no-one sends anything to him?

She's insane, what a weirdo!

LOL sorry but that is bull. There is no way! Was it like that scene in Friends where Chandler breaks the news that the boy is adopted?

What does your SIL say about it?

How weird - even if the kid believed her birthday was 3 months before it wouldn’t change the fact that she wasn’t the first grandchild. Totally bizarre!

That is seriously weird
Did you/mil ask DN's mum what the hell was going on?

Omg ex husbands family do this with my Ds.

They hated me, always did. I never knew why (the reasons his mother gave was that I wasn’t educated beyond 16 and I am half Asian). When I fell pregnant with Ds his brother and his wife took it badly as they had been married longer, were older and should be the ones to have the first grandchild. Ex pil agreed and tried to talk ex h into me getting an abortion (part of the reason he became ex is that he didn’t think it was unreasonable for them to request it).

Anyway, they did a lot of damage and we went no contact. We split when Ds was 6 and ex went right back into the bosom of his family, no hard feelings. He hates me now too.

Hi brother and wife as it turns out had a baby 4 months after Ds was born.

Therefore, they tell everyone that Ds is six months younger than he is so that the other grandchild is the eldest.

It’s fucking mental.

My now exsil never forgave me for having the first dgc either. She never let the cousins have any time together. She told mil we had to have separate visiting times. So we did for years.
Until me and her db split and mil saw my dc when ex had them. Sil was enraged..

I think op you can be assured everyone also thinks it’s batshit...😂

Bizarre! Very silly thing to lie to your own child about.