To think this is batshit in the extreme?

[AintNobodyHereButUsChickens]

My son is 9 now, me and sister in law were pregnant at the same time although I was due a couple of months before her. She never said it to my face but she was furious that I'd gotten pregnant before she had, it meant that I would give the in laws their first grandchild and she wouldn't. Anyway, as I was nearing my due date she used to say stuff like "If my DD was born now she'd be the eldest instead." (Bearing in mind that she was due two months after me!) On a few occasions she actually said she wished her DD would be born early and she would hint that her consultant said he needed to do an early Csection The babies ended up being born in their intended months, mine being first.

Anyway fast forward a few years and they moved away to the opposite end of the country and we hardly see them anymore. Recently, DN came up for a visit and her and my DS got talking about their birthdays and their ages and who was the oldest etc. They got into an argument because DN was insistent that her birthday was.... three months earlier than it actually is. DN came and asked us when her birthday is (she was at our house at the time) and we told her when it was, her real birthday, we showed her on the calendar. And she refused to believe us, she kept saying "So my mum's been lying to me my whole life about when my birthday is? My birthday is not 'X' but actually 'Y'??" We got her to ask MIL when her birthday was and MIL was like "Errm, it's , why?" And DN just kept saying "So my mum's lied to me this whole time?"

What the hell?! Who does that??

Some people are totally batshit although this takes it to whole new level!

My ex SIL never got over me having a baby first. Apparently she should have done because shes older. (Her brother - my ex - was older than her so not sure what age has to do with it). My DC2 was due 5 months before her dc1 and her and ex-MIL told me "well SILs baby is the first real Grandchild because shes married"

Ex-MIL is also adamant that I've got DS1s DoB wrong. His birth certificate agrees with me

Haqs she been lieing to the school then? surly they mention her birthday

@PorpentinaScamander

“ well SILs baby is the first real Grandchild because shes married “

Ouch! That’s brutal!

My Grandmother was the youngest of about 12 kids and her birthday was at the end of a month with 3 other siblings birthdays in. There was a big pile up in one month and then none for a few months. So say Dc1 on Jan 1st, DC2 on Jan 8th, DC3 on Jan 15th and hers on Jan 25th with her next siblings not until April. Their parents lied to the two on Jan 15th and 25th and said their birthdays were in Feb and March just to space them out. Everyone colluded and my Granny only found out when she was about 15.

However this was 90+ years ago and I imagine was easier to fake.

I have no idea if this is true or not, but I was shocked when I went to register my daughter's birth that I was asked for NO verification of anything. All the information was just taken from me by the registrar.. I could even have made an appointment to register an entirely fictitious baby. I had assumed that I would need some kind of documentation from the hospital.. but nothing. Therefore it's perfectly possible that someone could register a child with the wrong date of birth.

@bobbypinseverywhere you wont be surprised to hear I had horrendous PND with ds2. (That was one in a long line of things they told me). They've also said since that his children from his new relationship are real because he married the mum. For children who aren't real mine seem to cost a fortune in food and clothes

I look back now and laugh. If only I'd been strong enough to point out that my DC were carrying on the family name (totally unmumsnet to give DC their dads name I know but I did) and hers... well they don't. They have her (now ex) - husbands name

I just can't believe this. There are too many complications. Birth certificate? GP? School registration? All the immediate family and close friends would have to collude in it, too.

Deanetta I agree that I didn’t need to show any evidence of who I was, my date of birth etc or the details of DH but I did have a letter saying “on X date, a live baby boy was born in X hospital at X time....” which you must have had too. Presumably these records are how they keep track everyone is being registered who gets born.

Bizarre.

Have none of you been sending cards and presents on the actual birthday?

I can see that this could happen.

In my ex's family there was one child who was always known by a different name which was a shortened version of his middle name and a sibling's birthday was celebrated on the wrong day ( apparently unintentionally) until he was about 18 and wanted to get a passport.
Another siblings name was spelt differently on the birth certificate and passport and none of the family seemed especially bothered or seemed to care how it could have happened!

@Ellisandra are you the batshit SIL?

For DN to believe that, she'd have had to never have received birthday cards/presents/phone calls on her real birthday EVER... so I call not true.

If it somehow is true, though, then yes it's the most batshit thing I've ever heard.

@Deanetta Dh went to register Dds birth and was shocked at that too. I’d sent him with our marriage certificate as well as he went alone and they didn’t even ask if we were married! I’d kept my own name too. Bizzare!

@Ellisandra are you the sil?

AllTheWhoresOfMalta - no, no letter from the hospital. Absolutely nothing. It shocked me that it was so easy to register a child. I literally could have made an appointment and made up a baby and got the birth certificate. Obviously that would be a criminal offence, but if someone is that crazy who knows what they could do.

Wasn't there a thread recently by someone who wanted to change her child's birthday because the real date was inconvenient for celebrations?

This is so odd. Have you spoken to your sil?

Tbf my dd went through primary school with the wrong date of birth - eg she was born on the 28th of the month but they had her down as the 20th.

None of us twigged including dd until the end of year 5 when dd brought her photo from the birthday board home with the date written underneath - ended up having to take her birth certificate into school to prove they had it wrong.

Assume it was a transcribing error when she started school

Not sure that would work for a 3 month difference though....

Well it makes a change from the endless posts about Coronavirus and Harry and Meghan I suppose

@Ellisandra are you the sil?

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Tbf my dd went through primary school with the wrong date of birth

My DS did too. They had the month and day reversed. So instead of 2nd of March, they had 3rd of February. (Not real dates) I asked them several times to correct it but it was never changed. It didn’t matter because his birthday wasn’t during term so never celebrated in school.

That is sooooo odd! My SIL bleats on about producing the first grandchildren even tho she the younger sibling. It's bizarre, no one else gives a stuff. It annoys her that the grandparents don't care or make more of it, and treat the GCs all the same.
She also doesn't count our kids as 'proper' GCs as I gave birth to them rather than her Dsis but no-one bothers listening to her, the mad old bag.
People are so weird sometimes.