DIL - miscarriage? Posting here for traffic.

[Casiloco]

DS and DIL have been TTC since Christmas and she tested positive on Tuesday. Thursday she started bleeding and although this lasted just a day or so, there was quite a lot of blood. Hospital have said she isn't still pregnant and have asked her to go back on Monday for a scan.

They are still very hopeful, excited but also worried and I am fairly certain it will not be good news and they may then do a D&C. They will be devastated - as will DH and I - if they lose the baby. She is mid-30s and she is aware of the body clock ticking ...

Am I right in thinking things don't look too hopeful?

Hey, I’ve been trying to find chats everywhere that relate to what I’m going through.
Wonder if any of you have been through similar thing and if you have any advice.

I had a miscarriage at 3 months in March last year. It was horrific, I bled so much I had to be admitted to hospital, they said they had to get baby out with me awake else the bleeding wouldn’t stop. It broke my heart.
Since May/June last year me and my partner have been trying for another and it’s just not happening. I can’t seem to get pregnant again. But since my periods have gone from being regular as clockwork to being irregular. I have been using ovulation tests to see if I ovulate and I do. But some reason I’m still not getting pregnant! So I went to see my GP and she said i can’t have any investigation into fertility because I got pregnant before and I’ve got to have atleast 3 miscarriages. She said i must just be trying too hard and to try to forget about wanting a baby and focus on other things and maybe it’ll happen. Which I understand but when it’s something you really want it’s so hard to forget about it. I really don’t know what’s wrong with me. But I found out that my partner is taking testosterone because he is bodybuilding. Which I’m fuming about because I don’t think that helps sperm production! He said it doesn’t and we should still be ok. I’m really confused and upset and really don’t know what to do. I want to be a mom so bad. It’s so unfair.

We told mil when we started ttc and my mum and kept them updated throughout our at times horrific fertility journey. I think the rules are different in close families.

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@JessyClaireS you are not going to get replies to your post here. You've posted in someone else's thread, so folks are replying to the initial post, not to your post which is 128th on the list of posts.

I would recommend you start your own thread, either in Chat or in the Pregnancy/TTC topic(s).

Hi people I'm just wondering If anyone in early pregnancy had brown when they wiped at all I'm so scared if this is a sign of miscarriage x

I don't want to be the one that dashes your hopes as a lot of people had a happy outcome but just be prepared it might not be.

I only bleed very lightly and still had a positive pregnancy test but was told there was no heart beat at 9 weeks. I'd lost the baby at 6.5 weeks.

It's devastating and I hated people telling me all the cliques 'you can try again', 'it happens to loads of women ' but I suppose there true because I did go on to have a beautiful baby girl at 42, mid thirties is not to late.
I really really hope it's good news for you and you family next week

@Casiloco thanks for this post. I am in the same situation (7.5 weeks today and bleeding quite a bit but EPU won’t see me for a scan as I have no cramps) I’m terrified after having a MMC in Feb this year. I’m so please you had positive news and am patiently waiting to see how my own next 24 hours goes. Thanks everyone else for your experience too

Mrs173

Hope all goes well for you. DIL is fine and - 2 and a half months on(!). - so is baby.

Your bleed could be a similar experience, so not necessarily anything to worry about. Will get the prayer mat out for you!

@casiloco thank you. That’s so great to hear about your DIL. My bleeding stopped after about and hour and a half and I have had nothing for 7 hours now -going to try book in for a private scan on Monday to see if little B is still progressing. The not knowing is the worst part! Thanks for the well wishes :)

@Casiloco just wanted to let you know (and anyone else searching for answers in the future) I had my scan and all was fine! I’m 8 weeks and we saw their Little heartbeat 💓 I couldn’t believe it.

Thanks for the well wishes ☺️

I bled quite a lot and big clots very early in pregnancy, but it started on Friday evening so hospital said to go for a check on Monday. It was ok. That pregnancy ended in heathy DD, who'll be 10y in a couple of weeks.