Why can't I just bloody book it?!

[IanHislopForPm]

Moving house on the 20th March. DH asked me to get removal quotes, so I did. They're all too expensive and it's ridiculous apparently to shell out £500 on removals. He's decided that yet again we're going to get a fucking man with a van.

It's just so annoying. Why ask me to get quotes if he's going to veto anyway. And yes it's 'cheaper' but no doubt they won't take everything and oh look we now have to do most of removals ourselves.. again!!

Oops posted too soon.

Aibu to not want to do this myself again? I just want to book a removals company who will turn up, take All of our stuff and then unload it the other end. No doubt he'll have some very important work to do on the day of the move so will end up going into work to sort it out because god forbid one of his colleagues actually does their job. So the first weekend in our new house will 100% be spent moving shit from house to house because he's too cheap to spend £500 on removals

I'd tell him that, I either book a proper removals firm or it's all up to him on moving day.
You will be at the Spa having a massage and staying overnight at the hotel and that the house had better be ready for your arrival on 21st.
Is the man with the van going to box up and label all your belongings?
Do your quotes include that being done?

A man in a van will stil be cheaper, done over two runs, than the £500 quoted.

However, unless things were tight, I'd do the removal van.

@hellsbellsmelons yes! My quotes were to essentially sit back and chill out whilst everything is packed and then loaded then in loaded. Now he wants to spend £350 on a man with a van who won't do anything and will most likely leave shit in the house

Fuck that just book the removal company and have done with it!

If he is going to leave you to it then go with the removal firm.

He isn't in charge, he doesn't get to make the decision.

Are you in a chain? If so he does realise that you will literally be waiting for a phone call to say go from the solicitor and it will all have to packed, waiting and ready to go into your new house as fro that point onwards your old one will belong to someone else?

Sod that, the removals company invoice was the only part of moving house I was happy to pay for!

What would happen if you booked a removal van?

Apart from life being made easier for all of you?

Is 150 quid seriously worth having a strop over?

Surely if he can veto it, you can veto his veto I'd just book it and tell him once it's too late.

Say that if you had to move a single box, you would destroy 500 pounds' worth of his possessions in a psychotic rage, so it's definitely going to be more expensive his way ... Not joking. Good luck.

For £150 extra - I'd book the proper removals firm.
Especially if he will 'have to go into work'
Fuck that.
Just book it and tell him it's done and that you won't be telling him who it is or what company so he can't cancel.

@Comefromaway not really. We're completing 2 days prior, vendors are moving out but he can't get time off on completion date and we're renting so we've got a month to leave but it's still really stressful!

Why does he get the casting vote? I’d just book the removals company.

Why is he Head Honcho of decision making? You found a good deal for a comprehensive job, and his is £150 cheaper but requires a lot of effort on YOUR part. I would just be booking it and letting him know the plan. Simples really.

Book the removals company
Why is it his decision anyway?

Just book it. When you look at the overall cost of moving house (stamp duty, solicitor, estate agent etc) the removal cost is a drop in the ocean.

I agree with previous posters - book the removal company and let him have a tantrum about it.

I find moving stressful but at least with a proper removal company, the stressful bit is purely about the buyers not pulling out or sellers changing their mind. Moving yourself, even with a man and a van, was something I hated and dreaded.

Just book it.

Can you explain why your dh gets to decide this?

Book it!

We used a removals firm for the first time in our last move. I am never doing it myself again, it was fantastic

Having moved 18 months ago, amongst all the expense, the removals company were the best money spent. By 5pm we were moved into all the right rooms and sat in the garden with a glass of wine. Just book them

Hang on - missing the point somewhat, perhaps, but did I read that right - that your £500 quote includes packing?!? Where do you live that it’s so cheap?!

We have never paid less than a grand and that was moving from a tiny 2 bed house to another house half an hour away. When we moved from a (much fuller) 4 bed house it cost closer to £2K and when we moved last time which was to another part of the U.K, I don’t want to say how much that cost!!!

Is money tight? Are you both working? What's the reason for saving £150 but giving yourselves a lot more work?

Jeez, what a stingy fucker. Book it anyway, tell him in no uncertain terms that you're not going to let him land it all on you again, and that you're grown adults moving house, not students coming home from uni.