Why can't I just bloody book it?!

[IanHislopForPm]

Moving house on the 20th March. DH asked me to get removal quotes, so I did. They're all too expensive and it's ridiculous apparently to shell out £500 on removals. He's decided that yet again we're going to get a fucking man with a van.

It's just so annoying. Why ask me to get quotes if he's going to veto anyway. And yes it's 'cheaper' but no doubt they won't take everything and oh look we now have to do most of removals ourselves.. again!!

I don't mind packing, but I have always used removal companies to move house. It is not worth doing it yourself with a van, let them do the heavy lifting.

Would a man with a van/DIY include insurance for breakages during house move if any expensive furniture/appliances were damaged? If not, it might be a false economy.

No no no no no. Book the removers.

Just book it! Why struggle if you don't need to? Especially if he might bail on the day anyway!!

Moving sucks and you'll probably be busy enough just cleaning and supervising.

Is the man and van even properly insured? What if he drops the tv?

A proper removals firm is the only way to go, despite the cost of. I have moved house quite a few times over the years,and usually on my own. The first few times,it was a man with van thing,and had to pack everything myself,and my packing was abysmal, and the whole jobs took far to long,and were very messy.

A proper firm will pack for you.have all the correct type of boxes and crates etc, and have everything under control for a speedy removal day.

It's not just up to him though.

Tell him if he refuses to book the removal YOU will refuse to have anything to do with the move.

Tell him

Oops, sorry, my finger slipped - so I've already booked the removal company and yes it's £150 more than you tight arse thought you could get away with, but tough. These nails are worth more than you know

Our new neighbours used a van and did it themselves, they were still going backwards and forwards at 2am and made a right racket. They are now Public Enemy Number 1 on our road.

£500 actually seems cheap and it's important to remember that includes insurance to cover your items in case of any kind of accident. I would book it in a heartbeat. Professional packers will make a much better job of it as well, and you don't have to go scouring supermarkets for nice big boxes and getting bubblewrap etc.

Buying, selling and moving house are all extremely stressful things. This is one area you can minimise the stress to yourselves.

Why does he get to tell you what to do and make the decisions?

Tell him you're out. If he wants a man with a van, he'd better be home to pack and deal with it because you're not doing it, end of. You will actually just sit in the new house waiting to point where all the stuff should be placed and nothing more.

If he wants to do it himself, leave him to it.

He can decide he doesn’t want to spend the money, he can’t decide that means you have to do half the heavy lifting.

I would never move house again without using a removal company.

I'd just book the removal company and be done with it, but I'm all for an easy life.

Oh God - we're planning on moving in the next couple of years and this will be me too, except mine will be too tight even to go with the man-and-van option and will insist we can move just using a couple of cars and his dad's work van. I've tried to explain the whole chain process so many times - current place was our first purchase and we came from a rented flat with plenty of time to spare, so it didn't matter when we moved in - but he reckons because we've got young children "they'll give us a couple of days' grace" FML

Plus with the removel men you would be insured.And not worrying whether man with a van is trustworthy,.

yes why cant you book it. I would and tell him so that it is easier for you if you do and sometimes money is well spent.

And if you cant just book it or indeed tell him that you have some really huge problems and I wonder why on earth you are buying a house with him

Just book it, why does he get overall say in this? It seems you will bear the brunt of moving day so book the company you want to do it.

I had this kind of issue with my exh. It was just the tip of the eventual iceberg of how much I was not allowed to spend and how many decisions I was not allowed to make.

Stand your ground now.

Just book it

We did our own removals once, so just us with a van but it was just the two of us and we didn't have a lot of stuff and it was overlapping 2 rental properties so plenty of time to move things over.

After that, we have always hired removal firms. They have people who lift items all day long, it is their job. I will happily pack but no way am I lifting out sofas, beds, wardrobes, dining tables etc.

In fact once when we relocated the removal people stored it overnight for us rather than move us in in the dark. We arrived at our new house at 5pm only to find the vendors still moving out. They eventually left at 6.30pm. I am glad we stored our stuff. We slept on a blow up mattress and ate fish and chips for dinner. Lovely memories.

Movers arrived at 8.30am, it was bliss. Just book the removal company.

You can just book it. Tell him you took an executive decision based on previous experience.

£500 is ridiculously cheap. Just book it.

Book it anyway and if he twists, look him dead in the eye and tell him it's a small price to pay to save your relationship because if the day came and he fucked off to work leaving you to all the graft then he would be dumped on the spot.

We had a full packing service the last time we moved. A lot more expensive than £500, but worth every penny. Hoping never to have to move again, but if we do, I’d happily pay the extra as moving is stressful enough without moving all your stuff yourself!

I don't understand why you wouldn't just book it.

No way would I tolerate this. If he wants to do it his way, he does it alone.