Gave friend advice on her son...and she told me to mind my business,aibu?

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My friends little boy is 6 and yesterday was off school with a sickness bug.
He was vomiting all day till 4ish (so my friend said)
Then diarrhoea till 7 ish (might have happened after )
She rang me last night saying she couldn't wait for work today as he whinged all day.
I said "who's looking after him whilst your at work"
She said he is going to school tomorrow so without thinking I said I didn't think it was a good idea as he could pass it on.
She got angry and told me to mind my business so I snapped back she was being a bit selfish.
Aibu here?
I didn't mean to sound patronising to her.

I wouldn’t be friends with someone so selfish.

Quote the 48 hr rule to your friend. Report her to the school.

Poor child being packed off to school without even one day rest after being so poorly. She’s very selfish and a sad mother.

Is she being selfish or is pressure from work making her send him to school. We don’t all have perfect little lives where we can have time off. If I don’t work I don’t get paid.

People always get angry when they know they’re wrong. Whether she asked for your opinion or not is irrelevant. She burdened you with with this information, and you were being responsible in what you said. Now more than ever, we need to be diligent about pulling people up if we feel they’re not acting appropriately. You were very reasonable indeed. We need people like you to keep the rest of us safe.

No you were not bu at all! I cannot stand selfish people that would spread sickness bugs around with no thoughts to others! The advise is to wait 48 hours until returning to work/school

I’m a teacher and very prone to pick up sickness bugs so I’d be decidedly unhappy if her child was in my class. Also after having a bug you usually don’t feel well for a couple of days. Poor child having to go to school, play out for an extended period, maybe have to do PE, sit on a hard chair. He might feel weak and need a nap. Mum is being thoroughly selfish. At our school they’re told to stay off for 48 hours after last bout of D&V. There’s a reason for that.

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She may be under pressure from work but by doing what she’s doing she’s probably putting others in the same position.

I think you were right (and brave) to call her out on her shitty selfish behaviour.

She knows she's in the wrong, that's why she was rude to you.

It is DEFINITELY your business you are minding by reminding her of the 48 hour rule, because it will be your child who comes home with a vomiting bug, which your obnoxious friend knowingly allowed her child to go to school with and pass on. And you who will have to take time off work to care for them. The 48 hour rule is there for a reason.

She sounds like a complete asshole, complaining about how her son whingeing all day has been hard for her instead of feeling sympathy for her own suffering child. Dump her.

She's an idiot. There's a 48 hour rule for a reason in schools. Shame that a lot of parents are too dim to understand it.

I'd have said something too.

Woops 20 odd years ago my sister tried to tell me with cope with my son's partner being pregnant I told her to mind her own business and we have never spoken since, so sad and I have tried to make up loads of times with no joy.

Sorry have not rtft.

Op it sounds like she was at the end of her rope and snapped at you. I'd send a message saying you hope he feels better soon. If she's decent otherwise and its business as usual I would out it down to a stressy day. If she continues to be rude I'd ditch her. You were in the right with what you said whether she wanted to hear it or not.