Gave friend advice on her son...and she told me to mind my business,aibu?

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My friends little boy is 6 and yesterday was off school with a sickness bug.
He was vomiting all day till 4ish (so my friend said)
Then diarrhoea till 7 ish (might have happened after )
She rang me last night saying she couldn't wait for work today as he whinged all day.
I said "who's looking after him whilst your at work"
She said he is going to school tomorrow so without thinking I said I didn't think it was a good idea as he could pass it on.
She got angry and told me to mind my business so I snapped back she was being a bit selfish.
Aibu here?
I didn't mean to sound patronising to her.

I think you're right for saying it!

I HATE it when people send their DC to school before the 48hr period. I know people have pressures from work but so do other people & the poor kids who get it have to suffer a horrible d&v bug & for healthy kids it's horrible but for some it's devastating!

YANBU. If the school know why he was off they will most likely send him home anyway.

Of course YANBU.
As a working parent myself, I appreciate it's not easy to take time of when you're children are poorly, but sending them in with a sickness bug is just going to spread it to everyone else, very selfish.
It really frustrates me, I've got 3DC's and the last thing I want is all mine poorly because someone couldn't follow the rules.

I think you should have kept your thoughts to yourself

Why call a friend at all if you don't ever want to hear their thoughts on anything??

OP made an off-the-cuff comment, hardly preached to her or anything, and her "friend" bit her head off.

Some of you lot sound like really difficult friends.

If the 48 hour rule was bollocks we wouldn't be observing it in hospitals (staff, visitors - see signs in toilets ), would we?

What is the point of friends if they just pander to us? That's what casual acquaintances and Friday friends can do.

YANBU

I usually hate unsolicited advice.

But under these circumstances I think you were right, she is being selfish and I'd have struggled not to say something.

YANBU. I LOATHE parents like this who send their kid in while still sick to infect their class. Selfish, selfish people, not fair on the child, not fair on the other kids, not fair on the teacher and not fair on all the other people that will be infected when the kids bring it home. Absolutely INFURIATES me. I have seen parents at the school gates sending pale faced kids in saying "Don't tell the teacher you puked last night". ARSEHOLES!

You are totally right he shouldn’t go in OP.

But I’m the same way that people littering or parking on double yellow lines don’t appreciate being told off, it should have been obvious that your friend wouldn’t like being told off. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have done it, but shouldn’t have come as a surprise when she told you to get lost.

She knows she is being unreasonable to send him to school, which is why she has lashed out and bitten your head off.

why are people friends with people who kick off point blank.

I certainly wouldn't apologize to her. At all. It is usual school policy to have 2-3 days off after an upset stomach. She's being selfish. Not only that but unmotherly. He's going to feel washed out for a few days.

The 48 HR rule exists because you keep shedding the virus after you stop vomiting, etc. So you can still pass it on.

YANBU, the school probably have a rule about not attending for 24 or 48 hours after d&v anyway.

It wasn't advice, it was merely a conversation and you said what anyone would have said in that context.

YANBU.
Anyone who sends a sick child to school is selfish. Poor kid.

YANBU he sounds too poorly to be back in school. Plus he could pass it on. I imagine he's exhausted after vomiting and being on the loo all day.

If more people had the courage to pull people up on their shitty behaviour, there would be a lot less of it, so well done for saying it.

You didn't actually give her advice on her son.
You gave her advice on the health of everyone else's children which is completely your business.

Yanbu

I would guess, in her mind you weren’t advising her you were policing her actions. She almost certainly knew she shouldn’t be sending him in, she just didn’t want another day off work (either because he was a pain to look after while sick, because her job is at risk if she takes too much time off or because she doesn’t get paid for the time off and needs the money or a mixture). So she wouldn’t see it as you letting her know that it was a bad idea she’d see it as you telling her she was behaving poorly (which she was, though in some circumstances I have sympathy with parents in this situation). YWNBU to say it because that’s partly how our social norms become engrained, but YWBU not to expect her to be upset at you - no one likes being called out on bad behaviour.

As above, it was normal conversation but she lashed out because she has a guilty conscience. No time for people like that, certainly wouldn't call them a friend.

my dd was sick at school on tuesday, she is fine, i think she made herself sick from running around too much just after eating but i have still kept her off for 48 hours as per the advice! it is selfish to risk other peoples health just cos you dont want your kids at home

Your friend is a fucking idiot
selfish entitled parent with no care for anyone else

which is bad enough

but a terrible mother too, I am sorry but a poorly child needs to be comfortable at home, not an inconvenience to get rid of.

She knows she is wrong, and she should be apologising to you. And to her child.

Yanbu op. Your friend is in the wrong and she knows it which is why she snapped at you. 48 hours from the last bout of sickness that's how long an individual needs to stay away. Most people know this.