Gave friend advice on her son...and she told me to mind my business,aibu?

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My friends little boy is 6 and yesterday was off school with a sickness bug.
He was vomiting all day till 4ish (so my friend said)
Then diarrhoea till 7 ish (might have happened after )
She rang me last night saying she couldn't wait for work today as he whinged all day.
I said "who's looking after him whilst your at work"
She said he is going to school tomorrow so without thinking I said I didn't think it was a good idea as he could pass it on.
She got angry and told me to mind my business so I snapped back she was being a bit selfish.
Aibu here?
I didn't mean to sound patronising to her.

Correct.

Contagion is everyone's business

I would usually say if not asked for don't give advise. However, he should not be attending school until 48 hours after the last episode for the very reason you have said..

Your friend is really angry with herself...

And yes, I think you should have said something.

Your friend is a selfish ar*ehole. It's stupid people like her that spreads all sorts of bugs.
I do agree with the concept of not giving advice if you weren't asked for it, but I make an exception in this case. Selfish cow

Not saying what she was planning on doing was right but we don't know the wider circumstances.

Her circumstances are that she is sending an infectious child into school to potentially infect all the other kids and teachers and ultimately making other parents take time off to look after their kids just because she doesnt want to look after a whinging kid!

Selfish and needs telling she is. Her poor kid, he wont feel better in the morning after a day of d&v.
I would phone the school and tell them, I dont want my kids coming home with d&v thanks.

I would have said the same. It's bloody selfish.

Poor boy, i get people have jobs and work but surely if her son has been vomitting / a bug, her loyalty (and concern!) should lie with him getting better not escaping the whinging.

Hope her son is feeling better now.

I was all prepared to say YABU but not in this instance! And to be fair your question wasn’t even advice at first, you just assumed she’d be doing the right thing and keeping the poor kid off! I could understand if he’d perhaps been sick once for an obvious reason (eg choked and vomited - though when DD did this once at school with a bit of sausage that “went down the wrong way” she was sent home for 48 hours) but unexplained vomiting or D&V no way!

YaNBU. Everyone on here telling you that you not to say anything is unreasonable. There is a little girl in my DS class who's little sister is battling cancer. Last thing she needs is some twat knowingly sending their kid to school with a bug and bringing into their house. We'll done you!

YANBU can't stand selfish inconsiderate people like that.

YANBU, I doubt she'd like to go into work a day after having the shits and being sick!

All the replies saying stop giving unsolicited advice - really???

A vomiting sock child with diarrhoea being sent in to school.. It's against school rules. It's selfish. It's completely unacceptable.

Those rules are there for a reason.

Yadnbu. I hate when people send their kids into school sick and spread it around. And I do understand that it's difficult for people working, but it's part and parcel of being a parent sadly. I once had my boss tell me I need to sort my priorities out when I stayed home with my 8 month old with a sick bug instead of leaving her with someone and going to work. I was a bit as I'm pretty sure my priorities were spot on

I think I'd have waited to see if they did turn up at school and if they did, gone straight to the office and explained why my child would not be in school that day unless they sent the poorly child home. I'd have demanded an authorised absence mark if they refused and complained officially that they were not following their own and LEA policy.

Of course yanbu! 48 hour rule etc. Also anyone who gets angsty about having that pointed out to them has issues

Poor little boy, what a horrible mother. She was fed up up with the poor little mite moaning? He was ill for goodness sake, he should have been able to count on sympathy and understanding from his own mother

As a teacher, if I find out one of my kids was ill the day before I ring home for them to be collected.
Not only is it all the other kids that might pick up the germs... I don’t want to either!

School, college and my son's weekend job at local pub ALL have the 48 hour rule

She is sefish and you did the right thing . Poor boy too. Can believe those here saying it's not your business. Well done pointing this out to her.

YANBU!

Sends her kid in so everyone else ends up ill. Great. Also poor boy, he needs some time to recover. YANBU. I think she needs to reprioritise.

I work in a school, we have a 'stay off until 48 hours after the last symptom' rule. You were well within your rights to ask. She is being selfish to send her child back so soon. She made it your business by phoning you about it. She's probably being defensive because she feels guilty

YANBU.

She's being a nob and she knows it.

YADNBU. She is very selfish and ignorant of school policy with d&v and I feel so sorry for that poor little boy.

YANBU, the woman is a selfish twat