Last night I was followed home (road rage incident) aibu to be so angry

[DianneWhatcock]

Driving home with my little DD last night (it was dark) , five minutes from home, suddenly someone appeared behind me then proceeded to tailgate me all the way to my home, honking his horn and flashing his lights clearly trying to intimidate me

(I have racked my brains since and As far as I am aware I did nothing wrong. I have been driving 20 years, never had an accident or even near miss, I am basically a sensible woman in a sensible car. But actually there is no excuse imo for doing what he did)

After a short time, I realised he was actually following me. I was panicking like mad and all I could think of was to drive home. In hindsight maybe should have driven a different way and just tried to lose him I suppose but I wasn't thinking. And then when I pulled up outside my home he pulled up parallel to me, wound his window down and started yelling abuse at me. I grabbed DD and just ran to my front door shouting for H who came out to see what was going on

As soon as he saw DH he drove off however my road is a dead end so he had to turn around at the end and to drive past DH which he did at high speed

I am so angry that someone is that much of a vile aggressive bully that they would actually do such a thing, and to a woman and a child. also I didn't think or have time to get his reg plate so I haven't even been able to report it

I hope if he tries it again he picks on the wrong person and ends up flattened by some psycho. I have ordered a dashcam now I wish to god I already had one. I have been anxious and uneasy since it happened. I mean anything could have happend. And now he knows where I live.

Oops sorry, wrong thread

I had this years ago. Like you I have absolutely no idea what caused it. I was tailgated along the dual carriageway and just assumed they'd drive on when I got to my exit, but they continued following me. Stupidly, rather than turning right to the local town I automatically turned left towards home. Back then I lived in the middle of nowhere and luckily knew all the little lanes and shortcuts. I managed to lose them by turning down a tiny little track which only locals would know about. In retrospect this was pretty risky.

I think some men just hate women.

I have absolutely no idea what caused it
you disrespected a MAN while he was in his VEHICLE!!
Therefore you must be PUNISHED

I think some of them don't know it's a woman driving and want to pick a fight with anyone.

When I did actually have an accident that was completely my fault, I was dreading the reaction of the other driver. I hit a van (aargh) at a very low speed, in queuing traffic, after a momentary lapse of attention. I waited in the car, half expecting someone to come out all aggressive, and prepared to lock myself in. But it was a young guy, he was very pleasant and laid back, we swapped details, took photos of the damage (all to my car, just a dink on bumper and broken numberplate) and it was all fine.

When my mum did something similar years ago, the other driver (a woman) came out screaming at her, calling her names and saying she had whiplash. It was horrible.

Oh OP how scary, I do hope you are ok now.

A few months ago I was driving home and I stopped at a give way, nothing was coming so off I went, suddenly the car behind me drove next to me and steered his car into mine causing me to swerve and nearly hit someone’s fence to not crash with him, yelling abuse at me, all because I stopped at a give way, he was obviously in a rush, I was shaking all the way home.

Definitely get a dash cam, I have one now and feel much better on the roads.

If it hasn't already been mentioned, you need to get yourself a dashcam. It's an independent witness. If this man knew he was on camera you'd have hard evidence and he'd think twice before doing it again.

@Olawisk

Funny how you only manage to defend yourself by using hostile language..by the way, thank you for agreeing with me that we can say anything here as we like! Maybe think of your own words next time when you tell somebody to shut up xxx

I had someone take offence to my driving when I was about a mile from home. He drove his van so close behind me all I could see in the rear mirror was his windscreen (and his Wanker gestures)
After he followed me as I took my usual Right and Left turns for home, I decided i didnt want him following me all the way so kept turning to return back to where we started.
Once he realised I was going round in circles he gave up (with a final blast of the horn and a WANKER! )

Petrol station is a good suggestion as a safe refuge thank you.

@Honeybee85

Olawisk didn’t do the road rage herself you know. She was describing something that someone else did. Just in case you missed that bit.

@Chlam0

What is your purpose? Ganging up on me?
Grow up.

Please report this, I'm really sorry this happened to you some men are absolutely vile bullies who think they're invincible when their in their cars. It must of been really scary, some scumbag followed me once tailgating me waving his hands and shouting abuse because I was driving at the speed limit. I was by myself and was terrified, I managed to sharply turn off into a little cut and he lost me, I dread to think what would of happen if I didn't do this. Now I always make sure I lock myself in when I'm in the car as there are some hideous men around targeting women.

Thanks for the reports, folks. As you'll have noticed, we've deleted some posts on the thread and now seems a good point to remind you that Mumsnet is here to make parents' lives easier. While we encourage healthy and robust discussion, we hope that everyone can respect each other in their choices and express their views without resorting to personal attacks or troll hunting.

If it continues, we'll have to consider deleting the thread entirely which would be a shame.

Peace and love.

If it was dark, he probably didn't know you were a woman.

But if this happens again, slow right down and indicate for the person to overtake. I now live very rurally, and lots of drivers drive like tossers - they come right up your arse. But I also know how frustrating it is to be stuck behind someone who is driving really slowly when you know the road, if only they'd give way to you. If cars come up from behind on me, I drive slow on a straight to let them through.

So let the tossers pass. Let anyone in a hurry pass. It makes life easier for everyone.

ChristmasFluff "If it was dark, he probably didn't know you were a woman" I am fairly sure that this dude worked out it was a woman driving. Had he thought he was going to face a burly bloke I doubt he would have risked it!

"As soon as he saw DH he drove off..." I think he knew the driver was a woman. He is a coward and a twat!

"Let anyone in a hurry pass." I agree with this.

My brother had an awful experience with road rage. He was in a meeting in the limo of a well known celeb wanker business man. There were 2 other people in the meeting. At one point a cheeky white van man cut up the limo, apparently nothing too serious.

The celeb business man ordered the driver to chase the van, and a terrifying twenty minute chase through London ensued, with the limo eventually forcing the van to stop by pulling in front. Business man then wound down the window and calmly said 'If you ever do that to me again I will track you down and have you killed.'

Dbro and the others were and business man continued on the meeting as if it hadn't happened. Dbro said there wasn't a single one of them who doubted that he would be fully capable of following through with it. Meeting ended pdq afterwards and funnily enough they decided they didn't want to work with him after all.

So many mysogynistic wankers on the roads.

I was yelled at for trying to filter into a lane. I was just following the traffic but he obviously didn't see it that way. He was utterly vile. There were veins popping on his ugly ugly face and I remember being worried for the women in his life.

Just this week I reversed into a parking space. A man had just got out of his car in the next space. There was plenty of room. He decided though to walk behind my reversing car instead of in front, the natural route to the store. Cue an angry shout from him when I realised what he'd done and braked to avoid hitting him. He clearly did it just to prove a point as he then had to awkwardly walk between other parked cars and a fence. Tosser.

I'm going to investigate dashcams.

I crossed at traffic lights last month, had pressed the button, waited for the beeps and green man..about three steps into the road I had the fright of my life as a car was suddenly THERE, on my left - I froze, and the guy got out of the car, shouting at me, called me a 'fucking bitch' and told me 'you should have WAITED'.

Some fucking how I should have been psychic and know he was going to jump the lights, what a stupid pedestrian I was for crossing when the green man appeared.

No way he'd have done that if I was a bloke.

I wish I'd reported it now!

Is it worth reporting though will the police be interested ?

Ive just come in and had a an awful case of road rage behined me. I had someoen tailgating me in a 30mph, then try and and overtake when we came into 50 mph, but they had to pull in as a car coming. Got lots of flashing lights and tried to pull out several times even though there were 5 or so cars in front of me

I had to stop at the toll bridge and when I wound down my window I could hear HER screeching at me. I did get out the car and just took a photo, and she pointed to her dashcam.. I dont know what her problem or point was but er a dashcam will record your own behavior as well. I am baffled

funnily enough they decided they didn't want to work with him after all
I guess it didnt occur to celeb business man that the propensity to track down and kill anyone who crosses you does not endear others to you!

My dh bought me a dash cam for Christmas, romantic that he is. He neglected to get an SD card for it though so I can’t actually use it yet. I could get one myself but I’m clueless.

@NigellaAwesome 😲😲😲

I'm absolutely horrified and saddened that so many ladies on here have had similar experiences and 99% or so are from men. And I send 💐to you all.

Absolute cunty misogynistic Wankers 😤

I have a tiny little dinky car (think typical women's car or teenagers car). So I think my road rage twat would have known I was a woman or a girl.