Last night I was followed home (road rage incident) aibu to be so angry

[DianneWhatcock]

Driving home with my little DD last night (it was dark) , five minutes from home, suddenly someone appeared behind me then proceeded to tailgate me all the way to my home, honking his horn and flashing his lights clearly trying to intimidate me

(I have racked my brains since and As far as I am aware I did nothing wrong. I have been driving 20 years, never had an accident or even near miss, I am basically a sensible woman in a sensible car. But actually there is no excuse imo for doing what he did)

After a short time, I realised he was actually following me. I was panicking like mad and all I could think of was to drive home. In hindsight maybe should have driven a different way and just tried to lose him I suppose but I wasn't thinking. And then when I pulled up outside my home he pulled up parallel to me, wound his window down and started yelling abuse at me. I grabbed DD and just ran to my front door shouting for H who came out to see what was going on

As soon as he saw DH he drove off however my road is a dead end so he had to turn around at the end and to drive past DH which he did at high speed

I am so angry that someone is that much of a vile aggressive bully that they would actually do such a thing, and to a woman and a child. also I didn't think or have time to get his reg plate so I haven't even been able to report it

I hope if he tries it again he picks on the wrong person and ends up flattened by some psycho. I have ordered a dashcam now I wish to god I already had one. I have been anxious and uneasy since it happened. I mean anything could have happend. And now he knows where I live.

I've got this one as it's got both front and rear cams: www.amazon.com/Viofo-Dashboard-Camera-Vision-G-Sensor/dp/B07CT6JPYW?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

My dad was,followed home by someone ranting at him. My dad had a heart attack and died.

A friend of mine had her car pulled over on a lonely country road, he insisted she get out to check her taillight. Luckily she wasn't daft enough to comply because there was nothing wrong with the taillight.

Please don't be worrying that these type of arsehole men only target women drivers.

These are idiots that also follow men and end up fighting in the street because the other driver "cut them up".

@Olawisk

Then next time try to choose your words more precisely because your post does read like victim blaming. And no, you can’t tell me to shut up, if you don’t like it if people don’t agree with what you write then don’t post here, it’s simple as that

@Tangofandango

That’s so horrible, it proves again that this kind of behavior should not be tolerated and that it should become a priority to the police.

I forgot another one- I was turning left into a short road leading into a car park when a man jumped the lights from the other direction to cut in front. I was already more than three quarters of the way through the turn and had to jump on the brakes and do an emergency stop to avoid hitting him. He got out of the car and started giving me abuse. The road had a central reservation so stopping meant the busy junction was completely blocked immediately. Fortunately I was going to a class and one of my classmates was in the car behind. He’s the kindest, nicest man but built like a brick shithouse and told the abusive idiot in no uncertain terms what he was contemplating doing to him. The guy wilted and ran back to his car as fast as possible and drove away slowly and carefully - he even indicated before moving off! My classmate got a round of applause from the bystanders who saw it all!

I had a similar experience but in broad daylight. I drove through a crossroads. I looked and the crossroads were clear but as I passed through I heard a car honking its horn at me. When I stopped at the next traffic lights, a man got out and started screaming and shouting at us and banging his fists on my car. The kids and I just burst out laughing. He was so ridiculous. Luckily the lights changed and we drive off and never saw him again. It's just road rage. There's something about being in a car that can turn people into utter twats. I agree that getting a dashcam is a good idea.

JustInCaseCakeHappens Cops? Lol

And yes this was a late middle aged man, 30 years ago, in middle class England and the good old British constabulary outside an older, seemingly respectable couple’s house would indeed have got the curtains twitching and the neighbours asking.

Indulge me, what do “cops” have to do with the bogeyman?

Good if the Op to engage 😀

This happened to me. I'm not going to give the details because it was horrible enough at the time. Absolutely terrifying.

At some point I called the police while driving and sobbing and they told me to go to a petrol station: lights, other people, registration recognition.

I know what to do in future in case it happens again. At the time I was like a frightened animal. Awful.

What a coward. I hate people like this. Intimidating you! He sped off when he seen your husband? Says it bloody all! He wouldn’t have done the same to a man but feels okay to do it to a woman with a small child.

People get road rage all the time myself included. But it doesn’t make it right to follow someone home and shout abuse at them.

Dashcam all the way. Someone shouted a load of abuse at me the other day (which actually I couldn't make out a word of as the window was closed) because I stood my ground and made him reverse 5 yards into the passing place he had just whizzed past, and had tried to squeeze past my car and force me into scratching mine on the hedge, then realised as I was in a Sharan and he was in a small Kia, he wasn't going to win that argument. I didn't report that but would report any prolonged tail-gating and following.

The good thing about this topic is the advice to go to a petrol station that has been given here. Hopefully it won’t happen to me ever again but next time I’ll surely go there. Thank you MN!

A few years ago a guy tried to open my car door, I grabbed my phone, turned on the camera and opened the window a little bit. I told him to get back in his car immediately or else I would make sure that the whole world could soon watch him being agressive to a woman on Youtube/ Facebook etc. Not sure if it was the most sensible solution but it worked. These assholes are actually cowards and this one didn’t know how fast he should get back to his car after I threatened to expose his violent misogynistic behavior.

Another time I was heavily pregnant with DD2 I started to fill the car up with petrol. A woman in a car pulled up behind my car and stopped, and was clearly shouting at me, wildly gesticulating and pointing (though I couldn't actually hear what she was saying, and certainly wasn't going over to find out). I carried on filling up, but looking at my car, and around me, to see what on earth she could be shouting about.

Went in the shop to pay, as I came out she came in. She stopped me and apologised- she had thought there were two pumps and that I hadn't pulled up to the end one. "Oh," I said.

I've had 2 incidents. 1 caught on dash cam. That one was going 20 in a 30 because there were loads of traffic lights that were RED as I was approaching so no point getting to 30 as soon as it went green and slamming on for the next red one 🙄 lights split us in different directions. He wound down his window to shout so I drove off, gave him the finger which pissed him off. So the guy spun around his lights illegally,followed me to the car park I was going to. Entered the wrong way in a one way car park, cut across the spaces as I was trying to park and hurled abuse at me, threatening to kick my head in for driving too slow and swearing at him with a child in the car, swearing himself at this point as well as when he originally wound down the window at the last lights, IN FRONT OF HIS DAUGHTER (about 9). So I called the police from the car. Luckily they had a car near by anyway and they came round pretty quick as this guy was getting out his car to potentially kick my head in for also calling the police and not being "man enough" to deal with it myself. I was a 19 year old girl, he was about a 40 year old man. Scattered as soon as the police turned up. The logged it and I sent them The footage. Followed up with a bolocking from them on his door step. Apparently I could have prosecuted but it would have been more time/effort than any punishment as it was only threats but they had all his details so my case would be used as evidence if he did anything else.

If you are followed NEVER drive to your own house. The second incident they followed me off the motorway so I rejoined and went back 1 junction round and past mine and off at the next because after the 1st incident and the aggressive driving of the 2nd incident I felt very vulnerable, especially as he kept over taking me and break checking, dropping behind up my backside and then back in front, trying to get me to pull onto hard shoulder. He didn't expect me to do a full loop of the round about so I lost him.

Scary how often it's happening. Both times started for going too slow. 2nd one I was over taking an overtaking lorry at 80 on the motorway and he came up my backside mid overtake (so no where for me to let him pass!) At what must have been over 100 given the speed he appeared!! And he was pissed. If my dash cam had worked I'd have been able to report him as he was in a liveried small van!!

Had busy evening last night and never came back to read the replies

WOW I am so shocked and horrified that so many of you have had similar things happen ...honestly do not know what to say,
What a sad world we live in where there's so many aggressive cunts

Thanks for all the lovely support 💐

And I've now decided to report even though I don't have the reg

It's got to be worth a try hasn't it.

Yes, it’s worth a try. He might have form for this.

Seconding dashcam, DH had to take me to hospital at 1am and I was in overnight. He was driving back tired and stressed and some arsehole decided to speed up and break infront of him the 5 minutes drive were road works had made it a single lane.

It's a really shitty thing to do to someone let alone turn up at their home.

Dianne, I agree it would be a good idea to report this incident, he may have done it to other drivers and reporting could help the police to build up a picture of his activities

Glad you’re okay. Also glad you’re reporting, nothing will probably happen over your incident alone but if a similar incident with a man matching his description and car is reported to the police then the police can build a picture of this dickhead. Hopefully he won’t do it again.

*crosspost

People only do this because they think they can get away with it, if they think there's a good chance that the footage will be immediately uploaded and could go viral and make them look very very bad they would not do it

@Honeybee85 - Maybe stop jumping to conclusions, I can say what I like and phrase it how I like. You’re the only one that jumped to it with the victim blaming bullshit.