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To ask would you rather move house at 9 months pregnant or with a newborn?

165 replies

Relocating20 · 04/03/2020 11:08

We have to wait till September to move house (150 miles north) as we’ll pay a lower early repayment charge on our fixed rate mortgage and I’m due at the end of that month. But we also have to move before Jan 2021 (the deadline for DD’s school application) so we’ve either got to move when I’m 9 months pregnant or with 1/2 month old.
WWYD?

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bluenoir · 04/03/2020 13:50

Newborn.

I've done both and with a baby was easier, pregnant I was too exhausted anyway and the extra work on top was awful.

AngeloMysterioso · 04/03/2020 13:54

Having moved at 32 weeks and with a 6 week old, for me it was easier with the baby, but then I did recover from the birth pretty quickly.

Firecracker2019 · 04/03/2020 13:55

Pregnant and I would pay professionals to pack, move and unpack.

megletthesecond · 04/03/2020 13:56

Pregnant.

mamansnet · 04/03/2020 14:01

Pregnant. I did it at 6 months, never again!!

Springsnake · 04/03/2020 14:01

I moved 9 months pregnant,it was fine ,much easier than with a newborn

Roomba · 04/03/2020 14:02

I moved house two weeks before DS was born. It was hideous, but would have been absolutely impossible with a cluster feeding newborn! At least I had a couple of weels to organise and unpack - if I;d moved afterwards, I'd still have boxes piled up everywhere seven years later Grin

Just make sure you ask for and accept every offer of help that you can. If you have any friends or family who can help, let them pack and unpack for you, or pay movers to do it. I did it all myself and my blood pressure went through the roof as a result!

TowerRingInferno · 04/03/2020 14:04

I did both - went into labour 2 weeks early and house move was 5 days later whilst I was still in hospital. Wouldn’t recommend that! Didn’t get round to unpacking most boxes for weeks after that.

Gillian1980 · 04/03/2020 14:06

If you can afford it I’d get a company to do all the packing and moving for you. We moved with a newborn and it was absolutely fine because I didn’t have to do a thing.

We greeted the removal company, went out to a cafe where we ate cake and I nursed the baby. When we got the phone call we went to the new house.

Well worth every penny.

EverythingNow · 04/03/2020 14:10

Definitely pregnant. I moved into my first house on my dd1's due date. Which included driving into a big city 45mins away to.collect the keys from our solicitor. She was 2 weeks late thankfully.

FriedasCarLoad · 04/03/2020 14:14

Pregnant.

But don’t expect to manage much unpacking by yourself! Draft in help Smile

AmICrazyorWhat2 · 04/03/2020 14:15

We closed on our house when I was almost 9 pregnant. What we actually did is rent for an extra month so that we could move most of the furniture in (except our bed, of course) and get things set up, but still have a decent base in our rented place if DD came early.

As it turned out, she was overdue so I ended up carrying shelving and doing all sorts of manual work to hurry her up. Grin It did make things easier and we moved in properly two weeks after DD was born.

TheBabyAteMyBrain · 04/03/2020 14:18

Pregnant - also done both and packing up a house with a newborn and a toddler while dh was working in the new area was hell. Same with unpacking.

bilbodog · 04/03/2020 14:31

As someone else has mentioned - you havent even got your house on the market yet - it could take months to sell and even once you have a buyer and have found a place to move to that will take at least 3 months and longer if there is a chain or something unexpected comes up which takes a while to sort out. I wouldnt worry about mortgage penalty charges - a financial advisor should be able to find you a new mortgage which would be cheaper so you recover those costs over a year or so.

I would start trying to sell now and see what happens. The market isnt great anywhere yet due to brexit and now coronivirus could impact.

Sypha · 04/03/2020 17:40

Pregnant. DId it, it was fine.

riotlady · 04/03/2020 17:47

I would definitely prefer pregnant

Tumbleweed101 · 04/03/2020 17:55

I had to move with a two week old once (she was two weeks early). I wasn’t much help as had to keep stopping to feed baby and was very tired. Wasn’t a choice either, landlords sold the house so we had a months notice.

Flumpywoo · 04/03/2020 18:12

When pregnant. We moved when my DD was 7 weeks old and it was very stressful!!

namechanger2019 · 04/03/2020 18:16

I have actually done both. I preferred with a newborn as the stress while pregnant wasn't good for my blood pressure. At least with a newborn you can just sit there bfing watching everyone else do the lifting! Grin

GloGirl · 04/03/2020 18:24

I moved at 8 months preggers which was preferable. My hormones were a mess though.

People are always more accommodating to help you when you're heavily pregnant thought think as bending and lifting is obviously so much more restrictive so I got more help than I did if the baby was here and I was just holding her!

icannotremember · 04/03/2020 18:25

Definitely when pregnant.

Franticbutterfly · 04/03/2020 18:26

When pg. 100%

gottopicklepockle · 04/03/2020 18:30

I moved 200 miles away with a 3 week old after a section.
Personally I felt terrible during pregnancy so my preference was after the baby.
I went several days before the move to stay with my parents, the removers came the day after I left to do a full packing service.
On the other end my husband made sure the house was cleaned and almost totally unpacked before I moved in with the baby.
Basically I did nothing for the move and concentrated on the baby.
Would something like this be possible for you?

Deadposhtory · 04/03/2020 18:35

Defo pregnant

Nothingoriginalhere · 04/03/2020 18:37

definately when pregnant, I moved with a 6 week old and it was difficult especially after a complicated instrumental delivery