To feel jealous of ex and his girlfriend?

[elijahsmum1]

Just feel so jealous of ex and his girlfriend, they're always on holidays and out and about, they seem to have it so easy while I'm here with 3 kids on my own, trying to make ends meet. We've been on holiday once in the 8 years we were together, and they've already been on holiday three times in the 18 months they've been together.

Don't know why I'm writing this, just feel so down seeing all their pictures on social media

@Chillicheese123

That’s a vile comment if ever I heard one.

Do you like to pick on disabled people too?

The only thing a woman can offer a man is children.

If this is the case, why do so many men leave their wives / partners with children and move on to the younger, slimmer, childfree option?

Sorry but I think some people deserve a taste of their own medicine. Why is it ok to shit all over single mums but when you offer a bit of truth people can’t take it

As in single mums on benefits aren’t a hot commodity on the dating market? Worth a shag but nothing else. Who wants another man’s kids and a chubby, haggard looking girlfriend. While their husbands move on to the next slim, young, childless woman and occasionally does a bit of babysitting for his own kids (when he’s not out enjoying himself).

Is that the bitter truth you mean?

Some of the comments on here are making my empathy for single mums evaporate.

Well done @Chillicheese123 and friends.

why on earth are you nosying at his social media stop it if you dont like what you see.

If my lovely DH had ever broken up with me I would have gladly given him custody of our four. I would see them once in the week and on weekends, take them on holiday and to nice places and spoil them and bung him the pathetic minimum required by the state.

He could do the drudge of getting them to school on time and nagging to do homework and trawling round their after school activities.

I would be lovely smiley Disney mum.

Ha ha, tinkleylittlelaugh, I’d be tempted to do the same.

Also many mums probably don't trust the dads to take as good as care of the dc as they do...I'm not talking abuse necessarily by the way.

So why are they having children with these men in the first place?

If my lovely DH had ever broken up with me I would have gladly given him custody of our four. I would see them once in the week and on weekends, take them on holiday and to nice places and spoil them and bung him the pathetic minimum required by the state.

Ha! @tinklylittlelaugh

I often tell dh that if we ever split he can have full custody

Even though you don’t think dads can take as good care of your children as you can?

@formerbabe aren’t you mother of the year.

Even though you don’t think dads can take as good care of your children as you can?

Where did I say that? I said that some mums don't trust the fathers of their dc to look after them as well as they could...I didn't say whether that that applied to me or not.

Oh and clearly the custody comment was a joke

Unclench love

The OP never asked anyone to buy her a holiday.

It must be galling if you've chosen not to have kids but have fallen for a parent...and find yourself involved with kids. The money is a red herring disguising that disappointment. One that must be all the more bitter sweet because you chose that partner. And these people seem to think all life is a choice and absolutely controllable - choose the right partner and he won't die young and neither of you will ever change.

Ulvie's comment describing school as babysitting paid by the taxpayer conveys her hostility towards children. Children have a right to education. It's interesting because she holds education in high regard so the pull down comes from tax being allocated towards children's access to education.

Any single parent reading Chlam0 and Ulvie's description of being a single parent will be unaffected because they'll know it's just silly. It does worry me about their sexist views on men (lots of lovely men you know) and about women (we can only have a relationship if young/slim/childless - how fearful must they be of aging every day) or general lack of awareness. Stepdads and second marriages involving previously single mums are real. Slim young childless women get cheated on. Sometimes with the wives of their new bfs.

More importantly it worries me that a person in a bad relationship could read the madness posted and fear it's true and stay trapped. Or it causes upset to someone who has just become a single parent because their partner died. It's not like what these fear merchants are selling and hopefully you too can detect why they have such agendas.

If the OP's ex if with a woman like some of the women on this thread then he's in for drama and headaches. Poor man needs a holiday.