Breakfast guests

[LadySlipper11]

DH has just told me, at 10 to 8 at night, that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast! At 8am! This from the man who NEVER gets up to do our DS breakfast feed at 6.30/7am. But he can get up for people he hasnt seen for 8 years, that I have never met! I am full of rage. But perhaps IABU as I'm knackered and hormonal!

*yours

Please, please, please do absolutely nothing to help. Same as he does for your children.

Where's your nearest Spoons? I'd tell him to meet them there (taking the kids, obvs) and have a damn good lie-in. Cheeky sod.

Honestly it takes no time - kettle / coffee m/c on. grill on for toast. egg / beans/ mushrooms in the pan... It is not posh nosh. Throw plates & pans in the dishwasher. You get to have a good giggle &bright start to the day with some friends you have yet to meet - just relax and enjoy.

You think everyone has a dishwasher? Everyone just has all the supplies laid in and the money to do so? Why not PM the OP, see if you're close enough to go over so she can 'relax and enjoy'? Why is he then unable to do it so she can 'relax and enjoy'? Why not 'be kind' and offer to pay for the extra supplies, go there if you're close enough, arrange for a delivery?

It is Sunday morning - what child wrangling needs doing? Leave them in their jim jams. Let them spread their toys across the living room, wire them into the TV, tuck up in bed with whoever is not burning the toast. Relax people it is not the 80's boss and his wife coming over for a dinner party. Life is too short to worry about what your DH mates think of your lifestyle.

If you're free and easy with someone else's time and money, why not walk the walk, Unescorted? She could just 'relax and enjoy'.

Honestly it takes no time - kettle / coffee m/c on. grill on for toast. egg / beans/ mushrooms in the pan...

not my idea of a relaxed sunday morning

So glad you asked him what he’s cooking

I guess he could get Uber eats if he doesn’t fancy cooking

Tell him you want yours in bed after he’s sorted children and before guests arrive 😉

For those without a dishwasher... it take 20 minutes to clean up after.

Send him to the shops

@Unescorted I think you may be missing the point here. It doesn't matter what level of effort the OP doesn't want to deal with strangers in her house at 8am on a sunday with very short notice. and neither would I, I just about tolerate my family at that time!

You get to have a good giggle &bright start to the day with some friends you have yet to meet - just relax and enjoy

Are you on drugs?

Why shouldn't she relax then, Unescorted, and he do all the grilling and kettle and clean up?

For those without a dishwasher... it take 20 minutes to clean up after.

Fab, he's free to do it then. Can bring hers up.

Who has guests at 8am?!

I assume he’s now cleaning the house and has shopped for the food he’ll be cooking in the morning?

Wow, that is really no notice at all.
And if he expects you to cook, he can sod off I assume?!

With notice and him being prepared to cook maybe but he is taking the piss unless they have just this minute announced they are local tomorrow and he is on his way to the shop to buy the food. And then comes home to tidy up etc.

I have a number of questions, one of which is who in their right mind would accept an invitation to breakfast at 8am on a SUNDAY? Sadists , obvs

Tell the damn idiot to do one! I am not a morning person so 8am on a Sunday is barely getting up time, never mind entertaining hour! Its completely uncivilized to me.

And tell him that if he thinks its acceptable he can shift his arse for doing more in general.

I’m
In the minority camp of @Unescorted

It would be fine by me, assuming he’s got stuff planned and will be cooking it with me. I’d certainly join in to help though. As he would for me, in the reverse.

Then again; we are that mumsnet anathema- a household that’s fine with dropping in.

We often have random appearances of friends with ten mins notice for tea/coffee/wine and food relative to the time of day.

Who in the right mind relaxes and enjoys at 8am? I would be furious being woken up at that time having to cook for total strangers. YANBU Op, stay in bed and don’t do nothing to help.

data yes she should and he should be doing the cooking. He invited them - so his bother. But it is not a biggy is it - he turns the kettle and grill on and cooks something to put on the toast.

The kids can be feral - unless he is worried about the view his friends might take. If the OP wants to she can stay in bed.

At 8 am no one is going to expect a full on brunch / breakfast.

I'm usually welcoming to visitors but 8am on a Sunday???

Why on earth has he not suggested brunch? I mean who on their holidays wants to get up early and turn up at a strangers house?

How many people have breakfast supplies for unexpected guests? Honestly, if anyone turned up at my door at 8am on a Sunday morning there's no way I'd answer (unless it was one of my best friends). Is he just winding you up?

Are you on drugs?

This also crossed my mind about @Unescorted

The point is that this was sprung on the OP, without her agreement. I wouldn't like it either