Breakfast guests

[LadySlipper11]

DH has just told me, at 10 to 8 at night, that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast! At 8am! This from the man who NEVER gets up to do our DS breakfast feed at 6.30/7am. But he can get up for people he hasnt seen for 8 years, that I have never met! I am full of rage. But perhaps IABU as I'm knackered and hormonal!

Can I just wade in with a thought. I was presented with a similar situation to that of the op a while ago - husbands’ work colleagues invited at short notice for Sunday lunch, and he forgot to tell me until Saturday afternoon. I had plans of my own for the Sunday, which had to be cancelled - cue major row, panic shopping, frantic tidying etc., I am now a widow - put into perspective this was trivial and I could have accepted it with good grace. It was a moment of thoughtlessness on his part, and no more, but I had much the same reaction as most of the posts in this thread and reading them makes me so sad. l learned the hard way that we never have as much time as we think and we don’t always have the opportunity to put things right, or in my case, even say goodbye properly. I’m definitely not saying be a doormat , but if you have an otherwise good, kind man, forgive the odd oversight and be kind to each other. You don’t know what may be around the corner.

Sorry, but I think it's utterly ridiculous to guilt women into enabling thoughtlessness because people die. Everyone dies. Nothing at all cruel about, 'Well, you'll need to sort something to cook for them then'.

Oh give over, women don’t have to accept shit because one day the husband will die! It’s woman like the above poster with comments like that, have some woman acting like doormats.

We are all going to die one day.........

I had plans of my own for the Sunday, which had to be cancelled - cue major row, panic shopping, frantic tidying etc

And that was your choice. It would have been equally valid to not cancel your own plans and leave him to it. Unless disabled, people are able to shop, tidy and cook on their own.

pam Sorry for your loss, But everyone has rows in a healthy relationship. I'm sure it's normal to look back on those and feel guilt, but that doesn't mean you were in the wrong. I'm sure your DH wouldn't have wanted a Stepford Wife, beaming 'Oh yes dear, you're so right!' even when he was being a tit. Or someone who never let her true feelings show because she was held hostage by the knowledge that he wouldn't always be around.

And you did forgive his oversight, I'm sure! But you were entirely within your rights to hand him his arse initially.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan that was a nice way of putting it

Thanks Frown

I'm not often nice on here

Fuck that. I'd go out and leave him to it.

@LadySlipper11 so which day is DH getting up early and doing breakfast for you this weekend?