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Breakfast guests

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LadySlipper11 · 29/02/2020 19:53

DH has just told me, at 10 to 8 at night, that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast! At 8am! This from the man who NEVER gets up to do our DS breakfast feed at 6.30/7am. But he can get up for people he hasnt seen for 8 years, that I have never met! I am full of rage. But perhaps IABU as I'm knackered and hormonal!

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Unescorted · 29/02/2020 21:50

My original post.."What is the big deal, they turn up have breakfast. Put the kettle / coffee on, do something on toast. takes 2 minutes. If you are really lush put the champagne in the fridge before you go to bed."

No instruction to the original poster there - except the champagne. It could equally apply to her husband.

Quicklittlenamechange · 29/02/2020 21:51

Unescorted
Are the drugs wearing off ? Grin
You have just completely contradicted what you wrote up thread 😂😂😂

Purpleartichoke · 29/02/2020 21:52

Unescorted, I have spent enough time around people who live like you choose to do, to know that I absolutely loathe that lifestyle.

I have absolutely no problem with my husband not wanting me to have guests over at any particular time. I would never bring people over without checking with him first and he does the same with me. Our home is our sanctuary away from all the people in the world. It’s the one place we can actually relax. Bringing people into that sanctuary is a big deal and is only done if everyone agrees.

Quicklittlenamechange · 29/02/2020 21:54

Our home is our sanctuary away from all the people in the world. It’s the one place we can actually relax. Bringing people into that sanctuary is a big deal and is only done if everyone agrees

This !!!!

Dailyjunglegrind · 29/02/2020 21:55

8am on a Sunday is a completely anti social time for guests... unless your a commuter ...

Dh being overzealous in hospitality as the friends in transit?
Leave DH to front breakfast ... coffee, crossiant, jam and cereals....
if staying longer longer... hot breakfast with scrambled egg on toast and friends etc, if they are charming & a delight

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 21:56

You have just completely contradicted what you wrote up thread

Nope I don't think I have. feel free to find put the contradictions side by side & I will eat humble pie.

Position has always been - it is not a big deal. It is a 2 minute job (for whoever gets up) the choice is the OP if she wants to engage. It is her choice and not something to get worked up about.

Thefaceofboe · 29/02/2020 21:58

Who even invites people for breakfast? Didn’t know that was a thing

SarahAndQuack · 29/02/2020 22:00

WTF?

You literally told the OP 'Put the kettle / coffee on, do something on toast. takes 2 minutes. If you are really lush put the champagne in the fridge before you go to bed.'

You didn't say 'tell your husband to do these things'.

You told her.

Don't lie and pretend you somehow imagine we can't read and will not notice what you said.

Quicklittlenamechange · 29/02/2020 22:02

You have contradicted yourself all the way through the thread Unescorted
Just because you had to jump onto the thread to disagree with the OP and everyone else 🙄

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 22:04

It is a list of actions to achieve an end with no demand on anyone. There is no lie. If you choose to read it as an action for a specific person in the scenario that is your choice. I agree the Champagne had a you which could be read as a direct action to the OP. I apologise for that.

wildcherries · 29/02/2020 22:04

If they say theyre off up a hill or to a parkrun theyre being permanently banned

Amen to that.

LowcaAndroidow · 29/02/2020 22:05

Definitely stay in bed!

It'll make a nice change for your DH to get up with the children.

GabsAlot · 29/02/2020 22:05

What a twat-uhm i dont know? tell him you know you'll be in bed listening to him cooking

who invites round poeple at 8am who you havent met yet and expect you to be up ready and serving food

and the fact he wont get up with his own dc is the worst-you got a catch there

SarahAndQuack · 29/02/2020 22:06

It is a list of actions to achieve an end with no demand on anyone. There is no lie.

Bollocks. It is a set of statements in the imperative, with 'you' in there to make it quite clear you're instructing the OP about what she should do.

In case that wasn't clear, a few posts later you say quite explicitly that the person who isn't getting breakfast should be dealing with the kids.

AutumnRose1 · 29/02/2020 22:07

I’ve just managed to get out of an 11am and I’m relieved!

And that persons reason was getting a train later.

Maybe say hi to them but don’t have anything to do with hosting. But if you’re in bed after doing baby stuff, he can deal with DC and guests while he’s up and about.

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 22:12

this post? "It is Sunday morning - what child wrangling needs doing? Leave them in their jim jams. Let them spread their toys across the living room, wire them into the TV, tuck up in bed with whoever is not burning the toast. Relax people it is not the 80's boss and his wife coming over for a dinner party. Life is too short to worry about what your DH mates think of your lifestyle."

I was only referring to the tuck up in bed as the other person. Apologies this was not clear.

partofthepeanutgallery · 29/02/2020 22:15

"Oh, and now that I know that you CAN get up when you feel like it on a weekend morning, you will be expected to do your half of morning DC wranglings while I have my fair share of lie ins."

GabsAlot · 29/02/2020 22:15

Youre missing the point-he expected her to sort it out with 12 hours notice-he didnt state he was doing anything and for her to relax

FraglesRock · 29/02/2020 22:19

Has he cleaned and shopped yet?

dustibooks · 29/02/2020 22:21

For those without a dishwasher... it take 20 minutes to clean up after

You have clearly never seen my kitchen after DH has prepared a cooked breakfast on a Sunday morning.

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 22:22

And you are missing mine - he may expect it but it is her choice to ignore that imperative. If she wants she stays in bed, if she wants she gets up and swans about in her dressing gown or if she wants she cooks a 17 course tasting menu. It is his invite - he deals with it, either as a jam on toast or a five star review event. Either way it is not a big deal.

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 22:23

You have clearly never seen my kitchen after DH has prepared a cooked breakfast on a Sunday morning.

his problem

WinterCat · 29/02/2020 22:28

I generally don’t mind people coming round and breakfast on Sunday at 8am would be ok as a one off, but only with the appropriate amount of notice. The evening before wouldn’t be enough for me.

LangSpartacusCleg · 29/02/2020 22:29

I can’t wait to hear how your DH (not you) handles things tomorrow OP

AcrossthePond55 · 29/02/2020 22:31

I'd hand him a tenner and point him to the nearest Mc D's drive thru.

Do you have drive-thrus in the UK?

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