To pull Dd constantly for eating noisily?

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I can't bear it. I really can't, but I'm worried I'm going to give her a complex, cos I spend most of my time saying:"Dd, mouth", as she chomps away like a masturbating cow, complete with sound effects.

Dd is 9, btw.

Mastubating cow...

No, that would drive me mad and I remind dd (5) constantly

Shit, masticating cow. Masticating.

Masturbating cow

No you should definitely keep reminding her.

Masturbating cow 😂😂😂 I was trying to imagine what that would sound like 😂

I hate to say it but her peers might end up saying something. Not proud but I remember a time when we confronted a friend who chewed too much and too noisily

Mmm is it really bad or are you just ultra sensitive towards it (like my Dh)? I think reminding to close their mouth is okay if it’s really bad but otherwise I wouldn’t keep on, it can make someone really self conscious.

Lol thank goodness you meant masticating! Hope for your dd's sake that was an autocorrect error so not something she's gone repeating to her friends

I remember getting a telling off from my much older sister when I was a kid, and I don't think I ever ate with my mouth open again.

Is she actually noisy? (Ask someone else for their opinion.)

It could be you... Eating noises are a common trigger for misophonia - and can be triggered by one person but not others.

To be fair, the sound of anyone eating gives me the rage. I just don't need to hear anyone eating. But her mouth is open too I have to work v hard not to scream"ffs, just close. Your. Mouth." I do know that it's mostly my issue, but I am trying to teach her social skills too.

I'm not sure cows can even masturbate...

Are you sure it’s her and not you?

HAHAHAHA worst/best autocorrect EVER!

Maybe positive reinforcement, sticker charts/rewards still have some sway at that age?Or a proper chat about manners and how eating noisily or with you mouth open is rude and inconsiderate of others (maybe say how proud you are that she has such lovely manners in other ways...but this is really important too, it doesn’t have to be harsh!).

I wish more parents would carry on pulling up their kids until they got it & ate politely as a matter of course, therefore hopefully meaning they eat in socially acceptable manner as adults (looking at you colleague who chomps away two desks away from me making even the most innocuous food sound like a bag of nails & if you accidentally death stare him whilst he’s doing it you get a full view of his half chewed food throughout the process. I may have to use that in my defence one day if I ever give in to the urge to stab him with my letter opener...).

Yes the masturbating thing is funny 😂 .
Yes similar problem with small child at the moment...chewing loudly that is 🤣🤣🤣

Nope.

The phrase “we are not cavemen, we do not eat like one, close your mouth when you chew” crosses my lips frequently.

Along with “i can hear what you’re eating.......” and a head tilt, and, on particularly bad occasions “for heavens sake! You are not a pig at a trough!”

A friend said mine had great table manners at her house, let’s hope so, as another child at my house, was just a general nightmare.

Husband kept saying, they are never coming again 🤣😂

They were awful though, as have other small children been when visiting

This is pretty important as far as basic life skills go. On par with using cutlery. You’d be doing a disservice to her if you didn’t try to teach her not to do this.

Our small child is noisy eating, it’s awful, we’ve all noticed.
It’s a shame schools don’t take notice of this too, then we’d have it sorted by now.
He’d be on a table with strict older girls, if he’d been to my school.

We had to teach a little boy how to use a knife and fork at school, and no one could watch him eat, without nearly being sick to start with..

Obviously we are doing all we can at home. I don’t seriously expect the school to sort our noisy eater out, but maybe prod them, if they revert back to old ways 🧐

( and that little boy was at the junior school, goodness knows what happened in the infants )

I'm a fairly laid back parent on most matters but I'm quite strict on table manners. DS13 is now at the age where he socialises a bit at friends houses and the done thing among his circle at the moment is meals out for birthdays so I pull him up a fair bit on noisy eating or too much food on his fork - just to save him any potenial embarassment as much as anything.

Gently encourage her to close her mouth when she's eating. Tell her it's bad manners. Remind her every single time. She will be teased mercilessly in social situations in the future if she doesn't learn how to eat quietly, with respect for fellow diners. Far better to drum good eating etiquette into her now, than let it go because you don't want to give her a complex.

My teen is like this. We used to think it was due to her braces but she's still horribly noisy now she doesn't wear then.

I’d keep telling her. Otherwise she’ll grow up like a friend of ours who still had pig-like eating habits as a long-grown-up. There was always a fight in our family as to who was NOT going to sit opposite him at the table.

Instilling acceptable table manners reasonably early is IMO very important.