To pull Dd constantly for eating noisily?

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I can't bear it. I really can't, but I'm worried I'm going to give her a complex, cos I spend most of my time saying:"Dd, mouth", as she chomps away like a masturbating cow, complete with sound effects.

Dd is 9, btw.

Masturbating cow sounds better 😂😂😂😂

I think I'd wait till she is eating nicely and then thank her for eating nicely rather than constantly criticising, although I would remind her if it was very annoying.

There’s some days where I could put the fiancé under the decking with how he eats 🤢

she could have adenoids - can she breathe through her nose?

Just keep reminding her. If she feels self-conscious about it, it's better than the alternative of being obliviously revolting.

As others have said, either you do it, or teenage friends will. Or, in the worst case, nobody ever will and when you're a little old lady you will be filled with regret as you see that she never learnt!

Having been hounded by a mother with misophonia for fucking years because I "ate so noisily" (I don't) I think you should be very sure the problem isn't you before you open your mouth.

Please do keep on and get the habit killed. It drives me mad to be eating with someone who chomps and smacks and shows me what’s in their mouth! My teen DS has suddenly started being very rude and eating with his mouth open and talking too. I comment every single time. I hate it.

Can she breathe through her nose properly?

My son has huge tonsils, a high palate and issues breathing through his nose. If he’s eating he has to either eat with his mouth open or regularly stop chewing and open his mouth to breathe. On top of that his tonsils can make swallowing his food a pain, food that sometimes comes out of his nose.

Be careful or you may make her very self conscious.

Please no more wanking bovine comments! I'm trying to recover from a hysterectomy here and it fucking hurts!!

Please don't make her self conscious of eating. My mum did the same to me and now I don't eat in front of people

She's 9 years old and still hasn't learned to eat with her mouth closed.

Of course the OP needs to keep pulling her about this.

If it makes her self - conscious there's not much the OP can do about that.

If she still hasn't learned despite incessant criticism then a) the criticism isnt working and b) it is definitely worth asking questions about things like adenoids.

I think many years of people staring agog at her during meal times will be more damaging than her mum teaching her some manners.

Just popping up to laugh at 'masturbating cow ' 😂😂😂

Reminding her to eat with her mouth closed is fine. Better you tell her than a friend or stranger.

I would definitely look up misophonia. Newcastle University have done some great research into it. It may be you not her.

Pull her up every single time. DH and DD2 "smack" when eating. I HATE HATE HATE IT! I've told DH if he doesn't stop chomping with his mouth wide open like a bloody cow I'll be lobbing the tv remote directly at his head.

My brother does this.

He once got threatened with a Cornish pastie, he'd bought two and was noisily slurping through the first one when the second was waved in his face and threats were muttered.

He was lucky it wasnt an axe 😑😑😑

I think it's important for social reasons. It's the kind of thing that could lose her friends when she gets to the bitchy years, or potential partners. My DD is 8 and has recently started to 'chomp' more audibly - I say something.

I hate noisy eating as well and wont tolerate children chewing with a mouth open. Its also about slowing down the chewing, which is not only quieter but better for digestion. She is old enough to learn that all good manners are, is considering someone else 's comfort. By 5 children can learn this

Yes, my husband slurps and glumps and chews his food like an donkey with a sinus infection. I know it's not me, I have no issue with anyone else eating.

He also has other related issues (see my username).

My DD12 seems to have upped the anti with it recently, chomping away and it drives me mad, she also talks with a mouth full of food and holds knife and fork in one hand whilst doing it grrrrrr

I am on her case constantly about it and have told her she will have to eat on her own if it doesn't stop. I cannot stand bad table manners.

I know she will come home from school one day upset as someone will have said something , so trying to be on it for her good as well

I hate this too, I feel like I’m constantly saying to DSS aged 6 “chew with your mouth closed” “don’t talk with your mouth full” etc etc. It’s so unpleasant every meal time and makes me so internally ragey although I don’t show that!

It doesn’t really matter when OP has misophonia or not or whether it might make her daughter self conscious or not. Her daughter is chewing with her mouth open. Of course OP has to pull her up on it. Chewing with your mouth shut is table manners 101.

Nope. Constantly pull up ds (11) for chewing with mouth open - its grim

Hmm it depends. My sister used to scream at me all the time for making noise when eating, turns out she is just really sensitive to it. Obviously the mouth open is a different issue and is gross.