To pull Dd constantly for eating noisily?

[Flaskfan]

I can't bear it. I really can't, but I'm worried I'm going to give her a complex, cos I spend most of my time saying:"Dd, mouth", as she chomps away like a masturbating cow, complete with sound effects.

Dd is 9, btw.

Jesus, leave the girl alone! Bullying her at home in case she gets bullied outside of the home 🧐

I had 3 DC, grown up now. When they started school they could sit nicely, eat nicely and were often complimented on their manners when out and about. At 9 I would be on them like a ton of bricks. Remove meal each and every time. Being hungry will concentrate the mind on manners.

OP has already said her daughter doesn’t have a breathing problem. It’s clearly a bad habit and she has to learn a new one. I agree that gently pointing it out every time and praising good manners is the way forward. Barking “Mouth” etc. is a bit unkind. Or can you have another signal?

To be honest sometimes I have to do this to DH...

I won't invite children back who can't eat like humans. And have had to stop seeing a young cousin on account of her disgusting eating habits.
My own children have all managed to learn to eat nicely, but I started them very young with manners.

I have heard comments from a few other family members about my cousin, I really judge her mother for her total lack of correction on this matter.

Record her and play it back.

Noisy eating is gross IMO

My 9yo is the same, he had impeccable manners up until he went to school. Now I must tell him every two minutes to chew with his mouth closed and stop clacking away. Drives me nuts

I remember a friend in the sixth form saying "please can you not slurp your tea?" so i learned not to do it that way. Then i realised my mother made horrible slurping noises while eating soup and drinking tea!

Persevere OP, poor table manners are very hard to correct and your daughter will be judged.

If it's so easy to have nice table manners, how come so many don't!

My cousin had a clicky jaw when she ate. Oh my days that was awful. Glad I don’t speak to her anymore.
Very bad table manners to chew loudly.

I look after a six year old who has appalling table manners. Chomps noisily and refused to use cutlery as he doesn’t have to at home. His mum is adamant that other cultures don’t use cutlery so why should he? She calls it freedom of expression. The older children in my care refuse to sit at the table with him. He practically sprays food all around him. Table manners are important - do you want your child being the one no one can bear to eat with.

YANBU for criticising her creative animal impersonations

Bad table manners can be a serious disadvantage in a future career, let alone socially
... unless they only socialise with other masturbating cows

In contrast, there is so much unnecessary emphasis on rules for school uniform and hair, which are irrelevant for life afterwards

• kids in countries without uniform don't suffer for it in their jobs later

Check she can breath through her nose, and perhaps have a few demonstration meals

Yes you really should keep enforcing good manners and eating correctly. I have a colleague who is really lovely, helpful, hardworking etc but he slurps his tea, it really is off putting and I can’t bear to be near him when he has a drink, far too awkward to say anything .... he is single and occasionally mentions how he would love to meet someone (he’s 40), but going out for a meal or drink with him would not be a pleasant experience.

Poor little lass.
Great way to give her a problem eating.

OP has mentioned in updates that she can perfectly well manage to eat with her mouth closed when she wants. It's just a bad, lazy habit.

Also now I'm getting an idea of why i find it nearly impossible to be out and about where there are a lot of young people slurping, smacking their lips and chewing with their mouths open and spraying people with food because they talk with their mouths full. And it's because, apparently, half the families in the UK think that behaviour is perfectly ok.

I work with Asians and i really loathe the slurping - so I've learned to cope with it. But open mouth chewing & talking with your mouth full seems to be universally abhored. It's a life skill and should be taught at home.

@Flaskfan. Can we be friends? Lols. I reckon you’re w right laugh irl!

Masturbating cow. That’s hands down one of the best autocorrects ever!

My cousin who I mentioned has been left out of actual holiday plans on account of her eating. She has no idea, but it IS affecting her life negatively.

O have a very strong stomach.....children, vomit, nappies....have always managed well.

But noisy, slurping, chomping, mouth open....table manners, just kills my appetite and makes me feel unwell.🤢

I can well imagine otherwise, nice, kind people ending up on their own.

I couldn't commit to a lifetime of that. Too stressful.

At 9 years old francis that’s very difficult. As an adult you know it’s ‘disgusting’ as you put it ... at 9 years old you don’t even think about how you eat or how it looks to others. And IF you have a breathing issue, your body automatically does what it needs to to even eat in the first place.

I think it's a fine line. It's important to teach good table manners but important to make sure you do it gently because eating is such an emotional thing - especially for young girls in this day and age. Even if it makes you angry (which I think is your issue not hers) don't let her see that. Just be kind, netural and factual about correcting her, but don't dwell on it or call it disgusting or anything lik ethat.

Shit, masticating cow. Masticating.

😂

Ok.
Collective wisdom of the masturbating cow.

My DD is 3.
We're getting there with cutlery. Loading her fork with a knife rather than fingers is hard but she's trying. Fork still gets flipped over as a shovel but she's three. Im happy with cutlery and table manners thus far. Except the mouth... it's open 😫

She eats at the table with us. It is demonstrated by us. She knows (and is reminded) that "we don't talk with food in our mouths" but still, STILL open mouth chomping.
Do children "usually" get there without too much help? I don't remember being told to close my mouth but I do remember "we don't talk with food in our mouths".

Guidance?!!

I used to say ‘I don’t like seefood’.

Got the point across.

Has she got large tonsils? Does she find it hard to breath and eat at the same time? My brother was noisy but his tonsils made it difficult for him to eat without being noisy.