Outside view on something that happened at a party

[TryToBalance]

Hi all, just sanity checking something that happened.

Both Couple A & Couple B together for 20+ years, children etc. The couples have known each for a couple of years. Not particularly close but have always got on well in social situations. This particular night, everyone getting quite but still lucid. Wife B is paying particular attention to Husband A. Husband B is elsewhere (at the party), Wife B is sitting at Husband A's shoulder. Wife B is talking directly to Wife A, says "My husband (Husband B) really does like you (Wife A), but not as much as I (Wife B) like Husband A."

This has caused some stress in Couple A, as Husband A cannot see any issue. Is Wife A being unreasonable to think Wife B has just signalled a very "special" or "creepy" interest in Husband A and that Wife B was being somewhat insulting towards Wife A by saying this so openly? .

So what was said?
Or in the shock, nothing was said?

Does she leave her garage door half open?

Tell Jacqueline that Donald isn’t for you so she’s not getting a bit of your dh. Wouldn’t be fair otherwise.

OMG we’ve got pampas grass in our front garden!

This reminds me of the "friend" who had an affair with my ex H who claimed that it was really her H who liked me . Stop seeing them .

Wife B’s agenda was to make a move on Husband A and to unsettle Wife A.

First, Wife B sent Wife A off to get drinks for her and Husband A so she could flirt 1:1. Then she announced that she fancies him. It sounds like Wife B enjoyed stepping all over Wife A’s boundaries.

Surely Husband A is being disingenuous by claiming to not see an issue. Wife B was clearly stating her attraction to him and comparing that to her H’s platonic view of Wife A. If the shoe was on the other foot, and Husband B was crowing about fancying Wife A, Husband A would likely change his tune and see a big issue. As it is, he is enjoying the ego boost.

Why didn't wife A say the well used Mumsnet reply "ODFOD" ?

What was she offended by? The fact the woman wanted to shag her husband or that the woman’s husband didn’t want to shag her so much?

I would guess that Husband A knows exactly what Wife B was getting at, and was flattered by the attention. He says he can't see an issue because he doesn't want to create any awkwardness when you next meet. Sorry, not you, I mean Couple A and B! This doesn't mean he has any intention on pursuing Wife B's kind offer, but he might.

It's not important, but I was intrigued by how Wife B is sitting at Husband A's shoulder. Is Wife B a parrot, or perhaps a small monkey in a fez?

Yep sounds like they're into 'fun'. I suspect either Mr A was thinking 'oh nice' or (more likely) half cut was thinking 'eh! whats this? never mind Mrs A's here its fine'.

Maybe it's drunken flirting but sounds like swingers right me, one manipulative wife B too trying to be the top bird by putting you down slightly

Pampas grass? I need some information here .... when we were kids we had a pampas grass in the back garden ... is that an euphemism 😵😳

Sorry custardbear but that's a definite sign that your parents were swingers.

We had pampas grass when we moved in here, nasty stuff, chopped it all down and dug it up the bottom of it was full of frogs.

I have pampas grass in my front garden...... I had no idea.... 😁 😁 😁

Living the Partridge references 😂😂😂

OP- please tell us- DO THEY HAVE PAMPAS GRASS?

Could be slobbery over sentimental drunkenness, could be an invitation to an orgy, could be targeted flirting.

Either way, unless your DH is responding or you suspect him of being likely to cheat, either roll your eyes and move on, or be direct and say ‘were you flirting with my DH?’. Don’t take the aggro in to your relationship or get into a jealous insecure fret.

They're sex people, and clearly think you are too.

@beautifulstranger101.

I can see this is a key detail and I really should have clarified in the OP . We were on neutral ground but in the unlikely event I am at Couple B's again I will report back to this thread pronto. I assume there will be a directory that will need updating. TBH it's almost endemic in these parts!

Curiously, Husband B did once, very briefly, but very graphically describe to Wife A, a Couple-B-only-mini-sex-festival. Couple B hit the Columbian marching powder (and other stuff) pretty hard on special occasions and have previously tried to get Couple A into it. In fact further into the evening of the OP, Wife B told Wife A that she was trying to get Husband A to deliver Husband B a disco biscuit so that "everyone would love each other". No such offer made to Wife A.

I’m not sure why anyone would make a huge fuss out of that.
Regardless of what Wife A meant, if Husband B and wife B aren’t interested, then they would just ignore and put it under. ‘drunken behaviour’?

Does she leave her garage doors half open?

Hang on. Is that a signal or a euphemism? Because, if the former, our neighbours did that as well.

Grim. Avoid them in future.

It’s another sign @TheNestedIf - apparently - to show they’re swinging and open for business.

@SaskiaRembrandt

Hmmm. Doubt that. Wife A was pretty clear it was one lane highway between her and Husband B. The suggestion from Wife B was Husband B's feelings for Wife A were purely plutonic. That could have been a put down to Wife A but doubt it as Husband B never made any hint of advance on Wife A. Which Wife A assures us all is absolutely tickity-boo. Husband A also adamant no interest in Wife B but does not seem to see what happened as a proposition to him and being so blatant, an insult to Wife A.

If you all a bit pissed, than maybe some drunken comments can be made which in the light of day would appall the person saying them.
You may want to be on your guard but I would be too stressed about it.