Outside view on something that happened at a party

[TryToBalance]

Hi all, just sanity checking something that happened.

Both Couple A & Couple B together for 20+ years, children etc. The couples have known each for a couple of years. Not particularly close but have always got on well in social situations. This particular night, everyone getting quite but still lucid. Wife B is paying particular attention to Husband A. Husband B is elsewhere (at the party), Wife B is sitting at Husband A's shoulder. Wife B is talking directly to Wife A, says "My husband (Husband B) really does like you (Wife A), but not as much as I (Wife B) like Husband A."

This has caused some stress in Couple A, as Husband A cannot see any issue. Is Wife A being unreasonable to think Wife B has just signalled a very "special" or "creepy" interest in Husband A and that Wife B was being somewhat insulting towards Wife A by saying this so openly? .

If you think she was being out of line why didn’t you say anything? Or were you waiting to see what your husband did.

If you’ve been friends for so long surely you know how to judge this. Maybe her own marriage is a bit tough and us looking for “ safe” affection. Or maybe she is a bit of a trollop.Who knows.But you should have said something even if it’s “ you flirting with my husband( with a laugh)”

Please, someone explain the pampas grass connection

@HermanHermit has it.

So you are wife A and your friend (Wife B) was coming onto your husband.

Ooh, pampas and an Ann Summers goody bag.
Yep... you’ve been invited to The Swingers.’

Swingers.

I too am too naive to jump straight to swingers/orgy - I would just assume everyone was a bit pissed and flirty. Still though, only the people there know what was meant.

Goodness me, it’s all a bit Mike Leigh, isn’t it? .

Do they have wicker hearts hanging up in the window? I've heard that's the modern equivalent of pampas grass ...

@DuckonaBike I'm seeing my neighbours in a whole new light!

Probably just pissed. I’d ignore but keep an eye on her.

Definitely swingers

....they're sex people has had me in stitches!

@bandasilver. Wife B maybe/probably/definitely. Husband B's view unknown because he was not present. Wife A is def under the impression Wife B's message was that Husband B's "really like does like you" was purely plutonic and more as a counterpoint to the "not as much as I like Husband B". Wife A certainly not known to be the insecure or neurotic type.

Yep - She wants to throw the keys in

Yeah, just a bit of DrunKen flirting.
Wife A is just grumpy and uptight.

You are clearly wife A. If there are no other hints I might let it go. Your dh should have said something though in the moment.

My first thought was also swingers.

We had neighbours who were rumoured to like swapping the old car keys. They actually did have pampas grass in their front garden.

Definitely flirting, Woman A definitely not "neurotic" if behaviour was repeated I'd stop socialising with them.

Wife swapping or ill-judged flirting. Either way, you aren’t interested, so it doesn’t matter.
Wife B is probably hoping you were too pissed to remember.

Shes after your after your husband.

I am close friends with a couple who are alternative and they would be a lot less subtle than this! She was trying to shag your old man under the guise of "Show me yours and I'll show you mine" probably because she was pissed. Guessing they havent had sex in years. Just a hunch.

Ignore and avoid.

Sod it... they would be a lot MORE subtle than this!

yep, she fancies your husband.
Not a friend, because she's made everything weird. Avoid.

I dont understand the pampas grass either😳
Someone PLEASE explain.

Anyway, she either wants a threesome or they're swingers and thought it might go down testing the water without hubby present. I'm sure she's realised it's not your thing.

Just give her a stern look, tell her ‘no thank you, I don’t want to be a part of your sex festival’ and then leave.
She’s shameless and was trying to upstage you with that snazzy cryptic sentence.

Sex festival. Oh how I love lyn.