Outside view on something that happened at a party

[TryToBalance]

Hi all, just sanity checking something that happened.

Both Couple A & Couple B together for 20+ years, children etc. The couples have known each for a couple of years. Not particularly close but have always got on well in social situations. This particular night, everyone getting quite but still lucid. Wife B is paying particular attention to Husband A. Husband B is elsewhere (at the party), Wife B is sitting at Husband A's shoulder. Wife B is talking directly to Wife A, says "My husband (Husband B) really does like you (Wife A), but not as much as I (Wife B) like Husband A."

This has caused some stress in Couple A, as Husband A cannot see any issue. Is Wife A being unreasonable to think Wife B has just signalled a very "special" or "creepy" interest in Husband A and that Wife B was being somewhat insulting towards Wife A by saying this so openly? .

100% a swingers invite

Wife B is pissing all over Wife A with a smug grin on her face.

One of the mothers of a school friend of mine used to try and do this to my mother. My father regarded her with horror, so there was no snuggling up on sofas, fortunately.

Yep, swingers.

I hope you didn't fix her a gin

these are sex people, Lynne

Do they have wicker hearts hanging up in the window? I've heard that's the modern equivalent of pampas grass ...

Well, after googling pampas grass, I have definitely learnt what not to plant in my front garden! I must have lived a very sheltered life, but this had completely passed me by.

Sounds like wife B was pissed.
Can't see why that would cause stress between couple A unless one of them was up for it / or very insecure.

Bit of an innocent here but I have a wicker heart hanging in my window I'm horrified I might be sending out the wrong signals 🤣 what does it mean?

@HermanHermit Came here to post this

How big was the bowl?

You're all pissed.

Forget about it. It's not a big deal.

If someone says keys in the fruit bowl, it's time to leave.

Wife B is aligning herself with Husband A and gently cold-shouldering Wife A.

Husband A is either genuinely oblivious, or secretly enjoying it and tacitly allowing this to happen. Hopefully, he just likes to have his ego stroked, and not anything else.

We've got friends who've got pampas grass in their garden, planted by previous owner. I didn't know what it signified until one famous (or infamous) barbecue in the garden when another mutual friend enlightened us all. Despite protesting innocence and shock, I notice that they haven't dug it out yet 😳

Had no idea about the straw hearts though and lots of people I know throw their keys in the fruit bowl. Dear god, have I been missing all the signals???

@HermanHermit 😆 Yes!

Surprised how many people think that couple B are swingers. Is that really something that happens (other than rarely) outside porn films and books?

I'd assume that Wife B is pissed and is drunkenly flirting. It made me think of The Good Life Christmas special - everyone a bit tipsy, a bit of attraction, but you know nothing would really happen.

I think husband A doesn't see an issue because he has absolutely no interest in wife B and doesn't think she's being serious, thought wife A trusted him and because he didn't think wife B was serious he can't understand why wife A is upset.

I'd guess that wife A is either insecure or knows wife B better than husband A so thinks that wife B isn't a trustworthy friend.

I don't think swingers, I think Wife A was making a slight pass (drunken) at Husband B. I'd forget about it on the basis of drink taken. I wonder if Wife A woke up with the "oh god what did I say" feeling after.

Husband B doesn't see the problem because it was slightly flattering to him.

Agree - forget about it.

Wow just read up on the pampas grass shinanigans. Who knew?

They’re sex people, Lynne.

Ooh, planted pampas grass in exh's garden before I moved out

Just a bit of flirting.
Wife A should get over herself

I’m going to really need someone to fill me in on the grass shenanigans? For swinging safety protection purposes.

Beat me to it Fenella.

This was a common thing i hear in the 80🙊S. swingers. My parents said some neighbours were... was the talk of a quiet market town. Was prawn cocktail served!