To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

[Rainbowb]

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

Competence, again.

We are totally fed up of crappy, break down, throw it away after wasting hours of your time on it rubbish.

Move over geeks. All hail the rise of the tinkerer.

My Tom is a super nerd too. I sometimes have no idea what she speaks about when he gets going but he totally lights up and his enthusiasm is infectious.

He really doesn’t try to be cool, but he is by far the coolest person I have ever known! So cool it hurts. Just the coolest of the cool. And even cooler than that!

He goes to the dentist too. My DH hasn’t been for at least 12 years and I can’t kiss him any more because it’s become so bad. This makes me so sad because kissing is everything and I miss kissing. Tom sometimes gets close enough for me to smell his minty fresh breath!

@Asimovsfutureishere2020 you have to message him on Linked In. Even if it's just a simple "hi, remember me, just wanted to thank you and say how nice it was to talk with you". He sounds lovely.

@Soapytoad Today I was trying to run for the bus. I finally got on and sat next to a man who was laughing at me. He said everyone is running today. He dazzled me with the most beautiful teeth (although the rest was scruffy). I couldn't quite help myself as I chatted away trying to make conversation. Poor bloke couldn't get off bus quick enough.

@Asimovsfutureishere2020

You've got to message him.

I'm not sure I'm the girl to decode the socks. They weren't just black and white. There were some pink squares and some lime green.

If Tom's reading, he'll definitely recognise himself.

And me.

@HundredMilesAnHour

He does indeed. I will, I think as it is 'networking'

@SuckingDieselFella

He was testing you. Bet the undies are worse.

If I message him it would be clear that I looked him up (and may have gone to some lengths to find him...)

Yep. Would I do anything? Absolutely, assuming he isn't yet attached when our paths cross again (and they will): I don't shit on other women. Ever. I wouldn't like it if someone did it to me.

If he's attached …… lucky, lucky her

Not only does he have a Phd in the subject I rambled on about but judging by the dates he was probably working on some pretty interesting breakthroughs.

I used up all my lines that evening [onfused]

that was meant to be

Sent a note to him.

Oh dear. I have two. Both through my hobby. One is far too young and even though I know he has a crush on me I'm trying to pretend it isn't mutual. I know way too much about him as he tells me everything. But knowing he's into me makes it really hard to stop thinking about him.

The other is just gorgeous, lovely dark eyes and a warm smile. A bit geeky and I love listening to him get enthusiastic about stuff, even though I've no idea what he's talking about. We see a fair bit of each other for a while then not at all. Have ended up helping him with tech setup for various events and it certainly makes the evening fly by watching him up a ladder doing his thing while I pass him bits and bobs He is really shy and wouldn't know what to do if a woman showed an interest... probably run a mile!

At any rate, I'm married so nothing will happen, but my dreams are interesting...

My Tom is off sick, boo. So no office daydreaming or slying walking past his desk for the 5th time. Hope he’s back next week!

Yes! Oh god. My daughter's gymnastics coach. He is young enough to be my son. We've definitely had a few flirty moments but then I remember i'm over 40 and no longer the slim attractive size 10 I was in my 20's!

Probably just as well because he clearly probably doesn't actually fancy me! I think it's the fact he's so good with daughter and he's very talented.

My solicitor. He's just delightful. Methodical, trustworthy, warm, kind, listens, dark, tall, possibly Welsh. His voice is mostly what I experience and it's quite an experience.

He's 20 years younger with a lovely girlfriend (who he suddenly started mentioning - oh God). I'm barred from thinking about him.

Asimov, you are clever. You will come up with new lines.

Message him about his research, say you've been following Tom X's work for a while, imagine your delight when you worked out he was THE Tom X, etc. The way to a Tom's heart is through his brain.

And I don't want to think about undies. If holes in clothes are acceptable, the undies will be . I would love to leave a Boden catalogue in his pigeonhole but he would just mock it.

If I message him it would be clear that I looked him up

So what? Isn't that the whole point of meeting people at business events and using Linked In? It could end up just being networking or it could be the start of something more. Much more. If you don't message him, you'll never know.

Note how confident I am now after asking ONE man out for coffee and him saying yes. Saying that, it was probably impatience rather than confidence. I should probably also share that I get so nervous when we're going out on a date that my hands are literally shaking and it's hard to dress myself/put makeup on. I've had to calm myself down several times but saying "c'mon, you can do this, you've got dressed before, just start by putting your pants on". I wish I was joking but I'm so not! If I can dress myself, you can send him a Linked In message.

Love these threads. Yes! And work situation makes it worse, he is older and powerful and we should not necessarily be on the same side, but it's deffo mutual to some degree. We have to spend a lot of time facing each other at a distance.

At first I thought I was afraid / nervous of him, but then it dawned on me. He is very expressive and we share a lot of looks.

It's like being back at school!

Send the message!!!!!

You are a long time dead. Go for it.

Yes, a tall, handsome guy with a great smile who is a musician in a local band. We were introduced at their gig and the only thing I could say was “ gosh you are tall” what a embarrassment, felt like a daft teenager again.
Later on watching his band preform I thought what a talented man and how stunning he was, but he isn’t going to be interested in a short, over weight married woman who is nearly old enough to be his mum, but I can dream.Couldnt even speak to him afterwards with my friends as I knew would be a blushing idiot.

BigBlue your post about the hot delivery man and cleaning the cooker is just the perfect start to a very off-beat porn movie! 😁 Yes, including the marigolds!!

I’m only around my current Tom for shortish periods of time, and then take ages to recover from the, erm, exposure.

Ha ha yes recovering from the exposure

Oh, they have learnt how to turn on the charm by the time they get to that age.

They are teasing us. Got the money, pension, a bit of bodily control and getting revenge for the teenage years of gangliness.

@dwum I did!

Had a difficult time lately and now on a seize the day vibe.

Yay!!!!!