To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

[Rainbowb]

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

SuckingDieselFella it's not, but tbh I probably wouldn't say no

OK, still haven't seen #backupcrush

Heartily recommend multiple crushes. Consider it obligatory item in the modern woman's emotional handbag

OMG Yes! And it is so, so inappropriate.
For starters he is young enough to be my son. He's also very, very young (19).
And the worst thing is.....I'm his teacher.
The shame!
This has never happened to me before so it is obviously a case of my perimenopausal ovaries taking the piss but, my God! I feel like he has put a spell on me or something, it's insane.
He's tall, dark, very 'manly' and totally fit with Cillian Murphy cheekbones and fuck me eyes. He's a bit of a rebel and should have graduated a year ago but has had to repeat a year.
I am counting down the weeks until his exams because being in his presence is torture. I can't make eye contact because he looks right through me and I'm sure he can read my mind. He is just so confident, he oozes sexiness and virility. Aaaargh!!!
I do hope he comes back to pay us a visit when he's 25 and I'm 50. If by then I am divorced and he has developed a taste for cougars then something may be possible. In the meantime I just keep reminding myself how much I would hate one of my son's teachers perving over him.
God, that felt good to get it off my chest!

@MonTomAMoi Its far better for you to get it off your chest than act on it in real life. Also bear in mind that anybody can read this thread (cough, Daily Mail, cough.)

You need aversion therapy for this crush. You know that if anything happened it would be catastrophic.

This boy might seem confident and ooze sexiness but he lives off his mum and dad's pocket money and his mum washes his pants. He's basically still a child. Does that help?

@confessionagogo I'm sorry but there's no hope for you.

My Tom has done an online talk about his specialism. I've been watching it this afternoon instead of studying.

@SuckingDieselFella

Have no fear, there is no way on earth I would act on it! God no! It's just totally, utterly, inappropriate eye candy. In fact my moral compass and professionalism are what are saving me. I mean, if he was some hottie from the gym I might delude myself or - God forbid - attempt to flirt.
With mon Tom à moi, I am as much of an ice queen as it's possible to be within the bounds of a normal teacher-pupil relationship. Everything is OK unless our eyes meet. So yes, he's just a kid who at home is probably just as immature and gross as my teenager (dirty boxers, bedroom like a bombsite and smelling like a wild animal's lair, farting, belching....)and no, of course I won't touch. But I get the impression that in true Tom fashion, he knows and is actually playing the game.
Oh, and the Daily Fail can F*$k right off.
Roll on the month of June!

Yes, he could well be playing the game. Hold on to that thought. You don't want him telling his smelly mates that the teacher fancies him while they fart and watch p orn on their phones.

@MonTomaMoi

You're safe for him, Mon - to learn his flirting on in front of his mates (and the girls he is trying to impress).

He is trying his lines/looks out on you on the safe assumption that you won't respond.

Yep, that's just about killed it dead @SuckingDieselFella

Mortifying! Thanks

@Asimov The thing is he doesn't flirt, at all.

I've been teaching a long time and am pretty used to teenage boys. It's just par for the course and has never got to me before. You actually feel quite sorry for them, bless.

He just looks at me. And he knows

But tomorrow I will go armed with the idea of farting and watching teacher porn with his mates on their phones. Yuck x 1 billion.

This thread is most heartening. I don't know anyone else who has admitted to a crush on anyone.

Total cliché 1 of DC teacher he's prob mid 20s I'm late 30s. Totally not my type he's athletic fair hair and I nearly passed out once I saw his legs Started as quite erotic dreams when I seemed to be going through a hormonal period. Totally not my type. Dcs school seems to do parents evening once a term and I've not been able to make so had to make an appointment on a different day and they have been longer then the 5 mins catch up. There's been smiles and a bit of banter including at pick up. Would never act on it and can make pick ups awkward as friends have started rubbing me about the smiles and banter.

I worked as supply in a boys school in another country. I had had a difficult first day, first lesson. I spoke to a lovely teacher who was really kind at breaktime. Going back to the classroom after lunch I panicked I saw the boys had come in and was panicking that the class would be in the classroom before I got there and it would be mayhem. I was wearing heels as well and unwisely tried a fast stride down the corridor when I slipped and was going to crash to teh ground when a big pair of arms caught me. I ended up in the crook of this teachers arm not quite leaning on his chest BUT something came over me (!) in that split second and I did not want to move. It took all my strength to not lean on that chest and just stay there. Seriously.

I blushed into my folders, winced inside at the pain of a twisted leg and tried to compose myself for the class of boys ahead who could just sniff out a whiff of anything untoward and marched on.

Never went back to that school

Also (and I may have to delete this afterwards) does anyone remember Smith from SATC (which I actually didn't like or watch but knew his character)?

I was on a train gazing out of the window when I saw a poster with his face on. I was half taking in my surroundings and half day dreaming yet the next thing I know I was off the train standing in front of the poster gazing at it. Two minutes later, I looked around and thought where the heck am I? I had got off the train at a completely random stop.

Power of a handsome man, eh? It's lethal.

Yes! I know he likes me, his face lights up when he sees me and he goes a bit pink when anyone mentions me. Apparently I didn’t attend a swim session once recently (mutual hobby) and he was looking all over for me and got teased by the other lads.

He’s newly single, I’m very much not. He’s very manly. My DH is the soft sensitive type. God knows how he can fancy me, I’m ten years older and frankly he’s seen me multiple times in a swimming costume. I see him looking over a lot and pretend not to notice, although I quietly perve at him when I’m sure nobody else can see

And yes, I know my punctuation is atrocious on here but I am tired.

I agree Asimov, sometimes even when we know it is completely irrational, inappropriate, impossible... the hormones create a short circuit somewhere in our brain and make us behave like idiots. Like getting off at the wrong station because of a poster

But I stood in front of it for a good two minutes, mesmerised. Completely lost in the beauty of those cheekbones.

Then thought how the flip do I get home?

@Cheeryandmerry I know the whole face lights up thing! I have spent ages thinking that I am just imagining it but I know i'm not now.

I am sure he scans around the room to either sit next to or near to me. Being a formal work situation, it is difficult. Things are different again when there is a chance occurring and it is just us two.

Yes to the manliness and yes to the hormones.

It is quite distracting. When does it end ?.

One of my DS’s young sports coaches. Far too young and I wouldn’t have noticed him really until DH teased me about his obvious crush on me. I’ve never been very self aware so didn’t take him seriously. But after he sort of asked me out I was like a rabbit in headlights. Since then have fantasised wildly about him. It’s unlikely I’ll get the chance to act on it but I can dream.
I do get to spend time watching him runaround in sexy shorts regularly.

I have an absolute schoolgirl crush on my other half’s friend
My usual type has always been muscular Jack the lad types. My other half is super skinny and doesn’t have even the facial features that I was usually attracted to. But he’s an amazing father and just his pure kindness and being the person he is makes me love him so much.

But aesthetically his friend makes me blush!

I don’t understand how you can say with confidence that they fancy you back? Especially if you’re both married. How do you know? I’m assuming they’ve never come out and said anything.
Yes I’ve had a crush and it’s the most annoying thing ever!

ButterflyBitch annoying is the right word. I feel vaguely embarrassed by it too.

earlgreymarl honestly it would be much easier all round for him not to fancy me. I gather from friends I was the last to notice. We have the most ridiculously similar sense of humour and it’s very hard not to make him the first person I look out for....but I absolutely cannot encourage it. He needs a good woman his own age, frankly.

I absolutely will continue to perve at his muscular legs as he pushes off the wall in the lane next to me though.

Yes I just keep thinking ‘but what if he figures out I fancy him’ and then have the stupid ‘but what if he does figure it out?’ In a hopeful way. Which is ridiculous cos y’know married. My fantasy world is so unbelievable

I have a Tom! It’s totally inappropriate - we work together, as does my DH. Small place and I’m certain it’s blatant on my part. I’m fairly senior and turn in to a wittering mess. He’s a bit of a flirt however I’m also confident there’s a particular twinkle for me .

It’s literally burst in to life at the Xmas do. He is fairly new but tbh I had barely noticed him. However turns out he is quite different to the other folk we work with - lots of common ground.

Dangerous. He’s also married. I need to have a word with myself and maintain some dignity.