To not attend DFriend's wedding because of DS?

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The bride to be has asked me via text today if she can ask a favour (complete with that annoying monkey emoji with its hands covering its face)

She asked if I would mind just putting my DS in something basic she picks out for him, as she knows how I have the best ideas and how lovely I dress him and doesn't want him mistaken for the wedding party.

I have no idea what she's going on about. A few other friends have been invited to the wedding and they've received no such texts about their DC clothes! I find it so bizarre.

Would I be unreasonable not to go now? It's in March.

She asked me to style her flower girls and paige boys. She know full well I wouldn't dress my own child in the same as them.

Knock yourself out while he still cooperates but don't stop him playing because you don't want him to get his clothes dirty.

Never have. He often gets dirty. I just put things in the wash and have never not managed to get a stain out yet

Totally changed my mind now, I’m on Team Bride

How predictable - as soon as she posts pictures of the style of clothes her son wears the bitchy element among you are criticising. If that’s the style of clothing she likes her son in, leave her be - it’s not affecting you in anyway is it?

I'm neither criticising it or telling her to change it. I'm just saying it's not as 'normal' an outfit as she thinks it is (unless she moves in somewhat aristocratic circles), so putting the bride's message into some context.

I’m hoping the DS is under 2 and not 4 or 5 🙄

YABU. You don’t want to attend your friends wedding because she doesn’t like how you dress your kid, really?

Poor friend you are.

You dress him just how I used to dress my boys. They’re 9& 10 now and I really miss it now I’m permanently washing tracksuits. You enjoy him looking like a lovely baby boy. Not a little man.

What are the page boys wearing?

I hope your son isn't 15 !!

She's obviously upset you, OP. You're working with her on the clothing for the wedding and you feel insulted that she thinks you can't choose something suitable for your son. I wonder whether the parents of the bridesmaids and page boys have been putting pressure on her?

Someone I know always dressed her dd (had older ds) in very traditional and classic clothing. Very much like the clothing I wore in 1980's. Nice cotton dresses with the elastic across the chest if people know what I mean? She wore tights and nice shoes or boots. Never ever mattered how dirty she got but mum likes the style.

Princess Charlotte was born 8 months later. Her dd actually looks like her in some ways (blonde with some loose ringlets).

It's been awful for her later in her dd toddler life to have to repeatedly point out she isn't copying the style put on a child they didn't even know had been conceived when hers was born!

Her ds wore similar to what you've posted above as a babe in arms.

Some people generally do like a style and some people have the means to spend time and money on their children's clothes.

I don't! But I have the opposite problem anyway. Ds is autistic. The only thing I can get him in which isn't tracksuit bottoms is school trousers! No tucked in shirt and no top button done up with a tie up to the collar 🤷‍♀️😂

FFS it's a compliment. She knows how much time you spend styling your DS hence asking you to help with flower girl outfits etc. Shes just asking you to have consideration to the bridal party outfits when you are choosing something for your DS. Bit bridezillaish but certainly no reason at all to not go to the wedding of a close friend. As about a thousand pp have said just pick up the phone and speak to her, it's hardly a reason for such drama

DS is 2. I've asked what she means, and tried phoning. Phone goes to VM

How predictable - as soon as she posts pictures of the style of clothes her son wears the bitchy element among you are criticising. If that’s the style of clothing she likes her son in, leave her be - it’s not affecting you in anyway is it?
Agree. Fucking hell, the claws are out

If your ds is a baby, I see no issues with those outfits really.

@IntermittentParps sharp claws - most probably the same idiots telling people to be kind and polishing crowns 🙄

I'd leave it with her now. You've tried. Don't take it personally. She's probably got a bee in her bonnet about everything.

I’m not seeing the fuss. That’s just a baby romper isn’t it? Unless the OP is putting a 4 year old in it .

After seeing the outfit, YABU. I now totally get why she sent you that text

sharp claws - most probably the same idiots telling people to be kind and polishing crowns 🙄
Er, what?

I've never seen a little kid wearing stuff like that, outside photos of the royals. So I sort of see what the bride-to-be means.

I have. Dc1 has a party at soft play tomorrow, I can guarantee there will be at least two little siblings wearing something similar.

Dc1 has worn a kilt to every wedding he's been invited to, the same as Dh. He was 18 months old at the first one. I would be hurt if someone messaged me to say don't do that.

I still think she is wrong and would ignore her request but I can see why you were the one to receive the text because those kinds of outfits are quite stand out.

Oh, sorry, I'm being slow – you mean people being claw-y on here are being 'be kind' on e.g. Caroline F threads?
Yeah, probably.

I think the outfits are lovely, OP. The Spanish style outfits are really popular these days.

Please take him in one of those self inflating t-rex suits! how cute would a mini toddling one of those look??

I think It's a nice outfit for a wedding. Not OTT at all

@IntermittentParps yes, in response to your comment about the claws being out 🤣