To not attend DFriend's wedding because of DS?

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The bride to be has asked me via text today if she can ask a favour (complete with that annoying monkey emoji with its hands covering its face)

She asked if I would mind just putting my DS in something basic she picks out for him, as she knows how I have the best ideas and how lovely I dress him and doesn't want him mistaken for the wedding party.

I have no idea what she's going on about. A few other friends have been invited to the wedding and they've received no such texts about their DC clothes! I find it so bizarre.

Would I be unreasonable not to go now? It's in March.

She asked me to style her flower girls and paige boys. She know full well I wouldn't dress my own child in the same as them.

Gosh missed that. Phone keeps missing pages when I forward.
Why didnt she tell you to start with.
Hope the troublemaker has been loudly named and shamed.
I totally approve of your clothes. I had some girls equivalents delivered this week😊. Everyone loves a baby at a wedding. Have a fabulous time all of you

Hi op, only read as far as p8 but I would dress my son in that too (due in four weeks). It's gorgeous and very suitable for a wedding. I like the classic look too. He will not own jogging bottoms as I hate them. I have little chino trousers for him and soft shirt type tops.
It's up to you how you dress your child and smart casual is definitely a better preference to joggers. X

I'd be tempted to reply with:
"Of course you can pick an outfit for my son. However, I'll be wearing a white dress and veil. Is that ok?"
Followed by 20 sideways crying laugh emojis, 8 bananas and a monkey.

But just replying 'eh?' would cover it.

Really pleased it's been resolved and the shit-stirrer has been kicked to the kerb.

The thread has moved on - read OPs posts

There’s a twist!

Classics

What a bridezilla. You know what the paige boys are wearing so you obviously wouldn’t dress him the same. I would however dress my son in a bow tie and waistcoat for a wedding. I think it’s cute. The people on here saying that she shouldn’t dress her son this way would you also say that no men can wear a suit to attend the wedding and no women can wear dresses?!

RTFT

Just seen the update so glad it’s been sorted.

The people on here saying that she shouldn’t dress her son this way would you also say that no men can wear a suit to attend the wedding and no women can wear dresses?!

Eh? What’s the connection to men’s suits and women’s dresses? No one is saying don’t dress a child up for a wedding. What people are saying is that there are a million and one smart/semi-formal/ formal clothing options for children this age that don’t scream I’m copying the Royals and styling to a wannabe Prince George theme.

Really glad it's sorted and your friendship is back on track.

So you were calling her unreasonable when actually if you’d just called her, you could have sorted it out instead of inviting the comments she must have read on here.

So for that you were being unreasonable.

Also that looks like it’ll be too cold for March.

I agree, @TildaTurnip

Bridezilla - errrrr no

Is she being silly though?

You might be offended but she's clearly said this to you for a reason. Do you have form for over dressing your kids at other peoples events?

What will he be wearing? Is it a full suit or just dress trousers and a shirt (which is what it should be: no waistcoat and no tie)?

Before you skin her alive actually think about it for a moment.

The best thing to do is give her the benefit of the doubt and send her a picture of what you've chosen for him.

You will know then. You're better off asking her than us.

Read the thread.

YABU for not discussing this with your friend rather than us.

There is clearly a reason she said what she did and judging by some of the responses on here far too many people have no boundaries re: wedding attire.

A full suit and tie is NOT appropriate if you are not part of the bridal party. The only exception to this would be the adult male guests as most groomsmen wear matching morning suits so guests would not be mistaken.

Once again this about not putting your wants above that of the bridal party. It doesn't matter what YOU think your son looks cute in.

This has become an exercise is seeing how many people don’t RTFT.

So... a friend told her you were dressing your DS like the page boys, but then also showed her this thread which proves otherwise...? I don't get it.

@FelicisNox read the thread. Jeeze. Or at least read the OP's updates. You're making yourself look like a tool.

She’s probably just stressed. Odd though. I might understand more if your child was a girl but being a boy I’m not sure what the problem is. Don’t men and boys just wear suits or a tux? What does she want him to turn up in? Joggers? 🤣 just don’t dress him the same as the bridal party.

@HeadachesByTheDozen
Are you the "friend"?

Are you ok?
Are you still upset by your childhood clothes?

I’m guessing the whole BeKind movement has passed Headaches by.

If not, the ability to fucking read the bastard thread before posting irrelevant bollocks certainly has passed her by, @BlackCatSleeping