To not attend DFriend's wedding because of DS?

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The bride to be has asked me via text today if she can ask a favour (complete with that annoying monkey emoji with its hands covering its face)

She asked if I would mind just putting my DS in something basic she picks out for him, as she knows how I have the best ideas and how lovely I dress him and doesn't want him mistaken for the wedding party.

I have no idea what she's going on about. A few other friends have been invited to the wedding and they've received no such texts about their DC clothes! I find it so bizarre.

Would I be unreasonable not to go now? It's in March.

She asked me to style her flower girls and paige boys. She know full well I wouldn't dress my own child in the same as them.

@countrygirl99 The first thing DS did when being shown around the nursery was pull his trousers down. He thinks he's Party Boy from Jackass.

I can see how those braces come in handy, OP. That outfit is both stylish and practical.

What is wrong with little boys wearing shirts and bow ties?

My DS has worn such things to weddings, family lunches and his christening. Since he was 2 weeks old.

I think it's supper cute.

Dress him I what you like. He's your child and he's not in the wedding party. If he was a page boy then she could ask that he wear certain things.

YABU to not attend because of this.

Just send her a pic of what you were planning on putting him in and ask if that’s ok? Why all the angst?

Clearly you having the last say is more important though, so dress him the Little Lord Fauntleroy outfit you’ve chosen, then you can post to insta with a sad face about how you’ve been uninvited to a wedding because the bride is intimidated by yours and your son's personal style

Oh ffs. Just tell her what he's wearing and stop being a drama mum.

She's the bride. She gets to choose,

She's the bride. She gets to choose,

Brides get to choose what all of their guests wear to their wedding?
Every day's a school day.

Oh dear, hope all is ok

This entire thing is ridiculous but I still want to find out what happens jext

*next

It's a 2 year old, hrs not gonna outshine the wedding party FFS. If it was you about to turn up with a haute couture YSL white dress, then yes, if get that, but a 2 year old???

She's the bride. She gets to choose,

Choose what all the guests wear? Wow. If she's doesn't like their makeup, do they have to wash it off?

You really would have thought she had enough to do.

But then, the guests get to choose whether or not to put themselves through that rigmarole, so I suppose it's fair enough.

I think OP will end up not going.

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To begin with I thought the bride was completely batshit.

Now after seeing the pictures you posted, I realise she is batshit letting you style the kids in the wedding party unless it’s a Royal wedding?

We all feel sorry for Prince George when he is in those outfits. Popular theory is it’s some odd Royal requirement so can’t be avoided but to willingly do this is odd. I think that’s what your friend is getting at, trying to avoid the awkwardness of everyone at the wedding looking at your son and thinking this.

My friend insisted all the males wore navy with lavender ties. The girls were to wear lavender dresses and shoes.

Lots of people went!!

Wasn’t a posh or expensive ‘do’ either.

Brides get to choose what all of their guests wear to their wedding?
Every day's a school day.

Isn't it

I guess "Be KInd" was yesterday's mantra??

Honestly, I may be just having a bad day, but this thread feels like everything wrong with social media, to me.

Firstly, I know I would be hurt if a friend, especially someone I think of as a close friend (which I assume is the case here if you have been asked to style part of the wedding party) posted in this way about me and I found it on MN.

But then the caustic comments about the OP and the bride are simply not kind. We don't know either of these women. Why do we have to make hurtful comments?

If this is a relationship you want to save, OP, I'd be leaving a voice mail apologising for posting on MN and asking if you can talk.

Nothing wrong with those clothes. I wouldn’t go if she insists.

This is all a bit nuts: 1) that you have "styled" the bridal party 2) that a bride is trying to dictate what your DS wears 3) that you refer to your clothes preference as "our style".

That aside, also looking forward to hearing what happens next 😂

There’s nothing wrong with the clothes BUT OP hasn’t actually said that the bride knew what the toddler was going to wear.

Not sure how a romper suit is overly formal or looks like a pageboy.A simple shorts and white shirt would put him more in line with them if they are wearing suits.
Chinos are hideous and look daft on a 2 year old.If all the guests arrived to a formal wedding in chinos then the bride could complain.
Just stay calm OP,if she's a real friend she'll go with it.

I'm fascinated by this. I think the outfits you chose are cute enough - not my style, but smart for a wedding. However it does sound like you take it all very seriously which I do think is a tiny bit funny... In all seriousness though, she's wedding planning, she's stressed, just let it go.

I think the fact you started a thread instead of getting in touch with the bride probably means that you’re not that good friends

I would also say any friendship is probably over

@gottostopeatingchocolate I'm pretty sure every thread on AIBU would offend someone in real life.

It isn't very kind to send OP a message like that out the blue then effectively blank her.

@SnoozyLou

But the bride didn’t blank her!! She told her she would be in touch later. Someone in the meantime has shown bride the thread

I can't see anything wrong with the outfit illustrated. To me it seems pretty standard 'best' for a special occasion. What do those who don't like it think the child should wear?