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Lounging in pyjamas - disgusts me. AIBU

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Mumoflil1 · 20/02/2020 10:25

Hi, so just after opions. So, apart from Christmas, I really don't like my children lounging in the house in their pyjamas - it's a real bug bear or mine. So, it's half term and my SS is staying with us. My bio kids are up, fed and dressed by 8.30. SS is older so wakes at 10am (I have no problem with that) but his dad has no problem with him staying in pyjamas until after mid-day. I think it sets a lazy precedent and personally find it quite disgusting. AIBU? Bit too extreme?

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LilyMumsnet · 20/02/2020 11:39

Can we have a bit of peace and love, please?

Thanks.

Pardonwhat · 20/02/2020 11:40

Disgusting? Really?
I find raising your children like they’re in the military really quite sad.
It’s the holidays. Let them relax and be comfortable.

Pardonwhat · 20/02/2020 11:41

(I may be an extreme though - people actually visit me in their pjs of an evening occasionally. I like to run a ‘come as you are’ home.)

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2020 11:42

There has just been a piece on this morning where there was a mother with three teens and she had made them sign cleaning contracts. It was hilarious. The teenagers were even hauled onto the sofa with her. I don't think that Mum would have allowed them to wear PJs all day either.

SwedishK · 20/02/2020 11:42

I'm the same as you OP. However, I know I'm the unreasonable one. I am one of those who have to shower within minutes of waking up. I don't lounge around in the morning. I'm up, showered, dressed, breakfast and then take the dogs out for a walk. Usually I'm done with all of that before anyone else in the house is even out of bed. After that my day can start.

Seeing by DC or husband in their PJ's hours after they have woken up makes me feel stressed in a weird way. I just want them to go get clean, brush their teeth/hair as soon as possible so we can do things. I don't say anything to them though (well maybe the kids if they take it too far). I just wasn't brought up that way. We'd always be up and about early doing stuff and I need fresh air in the mornings, otherwise I feel slightly sick.

BarbedBloom · 20/02/2020 11:42

I sleep naked so pjs are loungewear for me. Having said that, you wouldn't necessarily know my pjs are pjs as they are from Primark and look like loungewear anyway.

ArriettyJones · 20/02/2020 11:43

Disgusts is a very strong word.

FreakStar · 20/02/2020 11:44

I hate the idea of pyjama days. I like having a lazy morning, leisurely breakfast, reading and not getting showered and changed until about 11, but I want to be dressed in time for lunch. Teenage dd would never get dressed if I didn’t encourage her/ I draw the line at cleaning out pets in pjs and think school work should be done dressed as a Pjs put her in the wrong frame of mind for work and productiveness!

Cornettoninja · 20/02/2020 11:46

Disgusts is a very strong word

Not really

Fuckitwhynot · 20/02/2020 11:48

@Mumoflil1 oh ouchy my poor wittle feelings are so very hurt 😭😭
Sorry if I touched a nerve OP 😂

vodkaredbullgirl · 20/02/2020 11:48

yes YABU if you have no where to go and the weather is shit why not.

JustBecauseItWorkedForYou · 20/02/2020 11:50

We all spent all weekend in our pjs in fact Monday too.
Obviously showered and fresh pjs on.
Why would we make 6 outfits a day dirty to make more washing and ironing when we can stay in pjs.
Dsd was with us and she always requests a pjs day as her dm never allows it. Honestly when we say yes she goes round staying yesss whoo pj day it's so cosy.

Whiskeylover45 · 20/02/2020 11:53

You'd hate it at our house OP. Unless hes going out DH lives in his pjs. DS (2) gets ready at some point before lunchtime, I'm the same as DS, and DSD takes herself off to get into her pjs when she feels done for the day. It's fun!

PeakFlow · 20/02/2020 11:53

I’m still wearing my pyjamas as I write this. I’ll be starting work at 3pm, so will get dressed then.
Who cares - obviously - apart from you Op?

Jaxhog · 20/02/2020 11:54

It depends on the PJs and Nightwear, to be honest. As long as they wash and clean their teeth and don't expose bits best left covered, I guess it's ok.

DefinatelyAWeeGobshite · 20/02/2020 11:54

YABU, I wear pyjamas all day as do my kids if we’re not going out

vodkaredbullgirl · 20/02/2020 11:55

I wear pj's day and night, even at work i wear pjs.

I work nights in a dementia unit before anyone asks, it is part of what we have to wear. Its to help resident to show that it is nightime and we are all going to bed.

Lazymorningsareover · 20/02/2020 11:56

I think calling it disgusting is over the top.

I prefer to be up and dressed and doing something, I end up feeling a bit guilty about lazing around in pyjamas, like I'm wasting time.

It's not really though is it? Most of us are up and out early every day for work and school, so nothing wrong with relaxing no rush to get up and dressed.

OneOfManyDays · 20/02/2020 11:56

Good Lord... is this for real?! I myself often lounge in PJs until lunchtime at weekends if we haven't got to be anywhere. This half-term DD has pretty much been in PJs most of the time! Provided she's comfortable then why should she get dressed?

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 20/02/2020 11:56

Pjs, tea and board games here. We’ve had showers and brushed our teeth, but horrid weather so time to relax and play Frustration!!

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wildcherries · 20/02/2020 12:00

Disgusting? Unclench.

81Byerley · 20/02/2020 12:00

I don't think it's disgusting, but I don't like it!

EerieSilence · 20/02/2020 12:01

This is how clenched buttcheeks on the internet look like.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 20/02/2020 12:02

"It’s pretty disgusting to be contemplating your step-son’s wet dreams. Far more so than sitting around in pyjamas"

I came here to say exactly that and I'm surprised more people haven't picked up on that.

I'm not talking nightwear with someone that comes on MN saying they think their DSS may get his Pjs dirty from having a wet dream Hmm Now that's bizarre, fuck the judgement of other people's PJs!