36 year old man never had long term relationship

[Mayplesyrup]

I’m a single mum of 2, recently got chatting to someone online who I really click with, seen his FB etc, BUT, he’s 36 and never had a long term relationship, longest is 12 months. AIBU thinking this is a bit weird or there’s something wrong with him???
He’s said it’s because he’s never really met anyone who it’s gone long term with/been a proper connection.

Erm, have you actually met this guy in real life yet? I don't get why you'd be questioning him in detail about his past relationship experiences before you've even been on a first date? Surely you don't know if you're even attracted to him yet , he could have terrible breath! And also, he could easily be lying about the real reasons why things haven't worked out in the past.

Agree @Popc0rn I’m guilty of over analysing 😂

Guy I work with is ex military and never had a long term relationship. Lovely man, out-going and friendly , lives on his own in a huge house he inherited from his father. I asked him about being on his own, he said he simply hadn't met anybody he wanted to settle down with.

My partner was like this, barely anything to call a relationship, except the one with his sons mum (about a year on and off maybe)
I was a bit reserved about it all but tbh I wasn’t looking for anything serious so I didn’t think too much about it. 7 years later...

I was a bit worried about both my SILs, who with their second marriages both found men who had not had LTRs.

I think my main concern was that they both had young children.

Both men have turned out to be great guys, and of course it might turn out they're secret criminals of some sort, but a good decade or so later they seem ok!

I do think that when you have children you do need to activate the spidey senses, but I wouldn't immediately rule someone out.